Having got rid of pride, a person becomes pleasant, because he does not want to rule anymore, does not seek praise, does not try to eat his neighbor out of hunger.
The art of conversation is the art of loving one's neighbor. One must love one's neighbor. Love is honesty, benevolence, joy, usefulness, respect, tolerance, kindness, mindfulness, relaxation, and the absence of fear.
Honesty is the best strategy, and miraculously it always produces good consequences. Good it does not mean expected and does not mean that you wanted it or will be happy with it, but those that in a system-wide sense can be called good.
To interrupt is pride, fear, impatience, greed, insult, cowardice, and deceit. By interrupting, you create lies, destroying the integrity of information.
Remember, you don't have to say Yes to a person if you want to please them. Many people really like being told No. "No» it awakens in people cheerfulness, love of life and hunting excitement.
Everyone is afraid of being thought badly of. This is normal, we all live in a society. On the other hand, given that everyone is focused on themselves, people think about others solely about their attitude to themselves.
Breaking someone else's borders is an act of disrespect and aggression, which means that there is no love between you. But there is a thirst for power and pride. Keep your distance from those who don't understand the word "no".
The following ways can be used to create a comfortable psychological background: support by agreement, support by approval, flattery and admiration, approving gestures, sharing common interests and ideas.
No need to argue, no need to justify anything. You need to listen carefully and think about how you can use the situation for the benefit of the case. Even if I disagree, there is no need to argue. Say, "all right, all right, let's think."
It is stupid to keep saying yes to your interlocutor. You’d better restate and sum up his point of view in short answers, thus making it clear to your interlocutor that you are all ears.
In conversation, hold your breath more often. Your interlocutor uses this pretext to make you a listener, which is good. The more you listen and the less you speak, the more intelligent and smart in all respects you seem to others.
The most important thing in communication is to learn to listen attentively. Don’t get distracted, don’t idly observe flies while reflecting upon the nature of eternity, but listen with great and vehement interest, soaking in every word and gesture of your interlocutor.