Do not forgive insults, in the sense that you do not swallow them, sublimating them into fear and guilt. If you feel offended, immediately turn it into righteous anger. Righteous anger is honesty. Fear is a lie, the root of all sins and vices.
Insults can not be forgiven, if only because if this offense is a lie, then, having clarified the relationship, you will dispel them. If the offense is true, it requires retribution, so that the person does not have a stupid habit of offending you.
It is pride not to run when you are beaten. The humility is that when you get hit, you need to respond appropriately... Run, attack, or if you don't know what to do, lie low and wait for clarification.
Resentment is not good-bye for a short period of time. If you feel offended, react immediately. This is the essence of neurotic swings. A carrot requires a stick. When a person enters a negative stage, they need to play along. Love passionately, but swear no less passionately.
Lying is a short-term process, so resentment must be short-term. Resentment is not forgiven, feeling offended, immediately react. However, for a long period of time, lies work, so resentments, like lies, should be forgotten.
Do not forgive insults, because by forgiving insults, you become a passive person and fall into a chronic fear. In a passive position, a person loses the ability to grow, loses courage, is filled with fears and cowardice, becomes stupid and self-sufficient.
By containing the conflict, you delay the explosion, but you increase its force. The stronger the explosion, the more destructive and long-lasting the negative consequences will be. The longer the peace, the longer the war. Contradictions must be resolved instantly, and this is the essence of honesty and courage.
The meaning of the proverb "the offended carry water» the fact that first you are offended, and then you are afraid that you will be offended again, you serve your abuser, doing everything so that he does not hurt you anymore.