Do not forgive insults, in the sense that you do not swallow them, sublimating them into fear and guilt. If you feel offended, immediately turn it into righteous anger. Righteous anger is honesty. Fear is a lie, the root of all sins and vices.
Honesty is love. If a person is honest with you, then they love you. Even if this honesty is full of anger and insults, it is still honesty and, therefore, potential love.
Do not forgive insults, because if you swallow the offense, people will think that you like it, and from the best of motives will hurt you further, so that you like it.
Insults can not be forgiven, if only because if this offense is a lie, then, having clarified the relationship, you will dispel them. If the offense is true, it requires retribution, so that the person does not have a stupid habit of offending you.
Without righteous anger, nothing works properly for us. You explode when you're brought to the boiling point... This is sincerity... This is righteous anger...
You can't be afraid of a proud man. The proud man smells fear and howls and barks with fear. You can react to a proud person with either indifferent patience or righteous anger.
It is pride not to run when you are beaten. The humility is that when you get hit, you need to respond appropriately... Run, attack, or if you don't know what to do, lie low and wait for clarification.
"Don't forget your grudges» it means that you can not run away or be rude, as the proud like to do, but you need to remain kind and persistent in your desires.
Resentment is not good-bye for a short period of time. If you feel offended, react immediately. This is the essence of neurotic swings. A carrot requires a stick. When a person enters a negative stage, they need to play along. Love passionately, but swear no less passionately.
Lying is a short-term process, so resentment must be short-term. Resentment is not forgiven, feeling offended, immediately react. However, for a long period of time, lies work, so resentments, like lies, should be forgotten.
Do not forgive insults, because by forgiving insults, you become a passive person and fall into a chronic fear. In a passive position, a person loses the ability to grow, loses courage, is filled with fears and cowardice, becomes stupid and self-sufficient.
By containing the conflict, you delay the explosion, but you increase its force. The stronger the explosion, the more destructive and long-lasting the negative consequences will be. The longer the peace, the longer the war. Contradictions must be resolved instantly, and this is the essence of honesty and courage.
The meaning of the proverb "the offended carry water» the fact that first you are offended, and then you are afraid that you will be offended again, you serve your abuser, doing everything so that he does not hurt you anymore.
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