Start with the very simple and grow gradually to the complex. You can't just start with the hard stuff and not fall down. The colossus on clay feet is very unstable. The smaller steps you start with, the stronger your growth will be.
High self-esteem is necessary in order to grow. Indeed, this situation generates pain and suffering, but they can be compensated for by the joy of growth. People with even self-esteem lose the ability to grow.
The meaning of free will is that a person chooses his own goal (dream) and begins to grow towards it, entering the path of improvement. Initially, a person is perfect for their tasks, but choosing a new goal, they take a step into imperfection and get the opportunity to grow again, feeling the joy of endless growth.
The accumulation of critical mass in the system must occur simultaneously in time and space. It is not enough to accumulate material entities, you need to accumulate time. The average critical mass accumulation time for a system to detonate is five years. The more material accumulated over five years, the stronger the growth will be.
The point is that if you stop growing, you will be whipped and you will feel very bad. However, if you grow up and reach perfection, you will perish quickly enough, for perfection is death. The solution is to grow as slowly as possible, stretching pleasure.
Personal growth is growth from grain to dream. The grain is under a thick layer of fear, as under the ground. With the help of knowledge of the truth, overcoming contradictions, the grain rushes to his dream, gradually overcoming his fear.
If a system is restricted from growing upwards, it will grow sideways. If you restrict it from growing sideways, it will grow upwards. If you restrict it from growing at all, it will bear fruit. Fruit bearing restricts growth.