If we want to instill confidence in the interlocutor, so that he was not afraid, it is necessary to put him in an active position, and yourself artificially passive. However, since you artificially create this situation, you control it, and therefore it will save you from the fear of a passive position. In fact, we get a paradoxical situation when two active positions.
Suspiciousness is an automatic reaction of brute force to passivity and passive fear. Experiencing chronic fear from passivity and attempts to external control, subconscious includes suspiciousness in the hope provoke activity and destroy fear.
The best way to extinguish flames is not to put wood on the fire. The best way to dampen down a conflict is to keep silent or repent. It's also possible to attack but it takes great skills and superiority over an opponent. The best way to overblow a conflict is to find excuses and answer back.
The best way to extinguish flames is not to put wood on the fire. The best way to dampen down a conflict is to keep silent or repent. It's also possible to attack but it takes great skills and superiority over an opponent. The best way to overblow a conflict is to find excuses and answer back.
Don't jump to telling someone truth about himself, let him save face. Loss of one's face is a great insult, fraught with aggression and conflict. Even if someone is a scoundrel, snake and idiot, it's not always necessary to say it out loud.
Don't take hits from inconvenient adversaries, they often want to provoke you and involve into conflict, they feel your weakness, feel they can eat you and own your energy. Nearness of the food makes them aggressive, they attack you, barking, trying to provoke fight. The best you can do is shout “No! No, doggy”.
Man has two important needs: one is to become God and the other is to become a prophet. Since many want to be prophets and gods, competitors are very annoying to each other, which is a source of quarrels and conflicts. To avoid conflict, you should preach in secluded places (remember how the Apostle Peter preached in the desert). The eye of the outcast in the desert is clearly heard from afar. Who should, he will hear and he will come.
To spoil relations with a man as follows: to find fault, criticize, not praise, stand against him in argument and conflict, don't encourage him, take offense, interrupt, not listen to the end, get mad, swear, treat with contempt, mock, take off the mask, publicly reprove, deceive, pretend in its place, etc.
Inside a person, there`s the steam that should be blown off. It’s good for his health. Expressed offence is the weak one. Expressed fears and problems are not so scary. There are many situations when it’s necessary to tell things off.
You should not take offense at the interlocutor, who blows off the steam of his offences and complaints, because it calms the person down. If the person has an emotional burst, you should just listen to him sympathetically.
Want to follow yourself and keep track of their wishes and thoughts. Attempt to want and to think for other people monitoring their thoughts and behavior, reminiscent of pride and leads to conflict. It is necessary to control its territory up to the borders, to climb on someone else's territory forbid you.
If a person is beaten, punished and scolded, and then given a candy for it (a gift, a reward, an apology), a conditioned reflex will develop in a person that conflict is good. A person will cease to be afraid of aggression in his address, will begin to provoke conflicts. Familiar?
The conflicts and clarify the relationship doomed to failure. For all history of mankind we do not remember any fact of successful experience of clarification of the relations.