art of love and friendship". איך להיות האדם שכולם רוצים להיות חברים איתו.
ככל שיש לך יותר חברים, אתה חזק יותר. ככל שיותר אנשים אוהבים אותך, אתה חזק יותר. קשה לחיות בלי חברים. אדם חי בחברה ואיכות חייו תלויה מאוד באנשים סביבו. הספר חושף את החוקים והעקרונות של יחסי אנוש. איך להפוך לאדם שאנשים ירצו לעזור לו. איך לרכוש חברים. איך להיות ראוי לחברות. מי ומה הם אוהבים, ומי לא אוהב ולמה.
In conversation, hold your breath more often. Your interlocutor uses this pretext to make you a listener, which is good. The more you listen and the less you speak, the more intelligent and smart in all respects you seem to others.
There are no normal people. All people are abnormal, but they all want to be normal. Lies are what makes an abnormal person normal. Lies are a mask and an element of socialization that allows people to live in society, pretending they are normal.
While being in a relationship learn to make pauses. Give people time to take a rest from you to miss each other. Intruding yourself or making your presence felt, you may distract, annoy or simply bore each other. There should be moderation and balance in everything.
Honesty breeds faith, which means love. Love is what creates truth and puts barriers against lies. That is, if you need beauty and inspiration, be honest and open. Tightness and lies are not capable of beauty and truth..
When you love and admire a person, you learn good things from them. When you are afraid or envious of him, you learn bad things from him. From the first you grow and rejoice, from the second you degrade and suffer.
There is only one way to make a person listen to himself – is to start telling him what he wants... When a person sees that you are he, you can start telling him what you think, and then the person will think that he thinks so.
The right way to talk is as follows: somebody talks, you listen to him, he goes silent, you think and then talk. It is wrong to think while someone is talking. Thinking while someone is talking is like interrupting him. Thinking when someone is talking means you lack respect for and don’t listen to him.
A great way to get out of an unnecessary dispute is to say "Yes, of course. Yes, of course you're right." The main thing is not to prove anything, do not justify and do not justify anything. Shake your head thoughtfully, but in your heart, ignore all this nonsense.
You want to be loved, of course, for no reason. You want to be served for nothing and you don't want to pay for it. Such a desire is pride, that is, sin. If you want love, you must pay those who serve you.
Ask people for a personal favor. Say that if you fail, you will be punished. That is, if a person does not help you, you will be punished, and if he does, he will save you. People are pleased to know that someone owes them now.
The most important thing in communication is to learn to listen attentively. Don’t get distracted, don’t idly observe flies while reflecting upon the nature of eternity, but listen with great and vehement interest, soaking in every word and gesture of your interlocutor.
I'm not fond of people who smile too much. You may never know what exactly they hide behind their smiles. A sincere person smiles at those who he or she is glad to see while someone insincere may smile at everyone and you never know what this person really thinks about.
Everyone lies... People lie a lot especially about themselves and their relatives or fellows. Lie to seem better than they really are. Lie to avoid pauses in the conversation. Lie just for fun... That's why if they tell you something and it evokes some deep emotions or wonder in you, take it easy as there's a big probability it's a lie.