מכמה סיבות, נשים הן המטפלות העיקריות. גברים עובדים הרבה, בנוסף יש הרבה גירושים ומשפחות חד הוריות. כל המצב הזה מעלה שאלות רבות לנשים איך לחנך בנים כראוי. העובדה היא שאם תגדל ילד כנערה, ילד כזה לא יוכל להצליח בחיים, לא יוכל להקים משפחה נורמלית. ילד כזה יהיה פסיבי, עצלן ויותר כמו נסיכה מאשר גבר. חינוך של בנים הוא, קודם כל, החינוך של גיבורים וציידים. חינוך של כורים ומגנים. לתהליך החינוך לבנים יש הרבה ניואנסים ומוזרות שאתה צריך לזכור.
There are several reasons why it's mostly women who bring up children. Men work more, plus there are many incomplete families and divorces. All of these factors make women ask how to bring up boys properly. The thing is that a boy who is brought up like a girl, will never be successful in life and won't be able to start a normal family. Such boy will be passive, lazy and will resemble a princess rather than a man. Bringing up boys, is mostly about bringing up Heroes and Hunters. Bringing up breadwinners and protectors. The process of bringing up boys has many peculiarities that should be taken into account.
School education contradicts the idea of love, forcing children to learn everything, not just favorite. That is why boys who are more passionate and amorous, learn worse than girls, who are afraid of their parents and the system, in General, do not care what to teach. The weaker and more cowardly a child is in this sense, the better he learns. But knowledge is power, and over time the child can gain power.
The over-loved child is afraid of losing love. He is always tormented by the fear that he is not loved. It is necessary to talk to him, to say that everything is good, that everyone loves him and loves his mother. And especially his mother loves him when he behaves well. And if he doesn't do what he's supposed to, mom gets sad and mom feels bad. If he is a good boy, his mother will love him, and will not be sad, and will smile. The main thing is to make sure that the child does not have the idea that when he behaves badly, his mother pays attention to him. You should ignore his bad behavior, showing complete coldness. On the contrary, good behavior should be responded to warmly.
Hypersensitivity have prelomleniya children observed as fusion matter. Largely this fusion is characteristic for girls, less for boys. If the child is alone in the family-it increases the risk. The more neurotic the mother is, the more likely it is to merge. The stronger mother nature absorbs the child, the mother's desires become part of the child's soul, his conscience, his super Ego, thus generating a pseudo-split personality. The child begins to live not with his feelings, which he does not have, but with others. The feelings of the mother, a loved one, other people and systems.
Women in fear looking for protection and company, the boys in fear seek solitude. These are two reactions to conflict and stress. Boys don't need witnesses of their fear and girls need protection from fear and loneliness spoils their health.
Teaching children in mixed classes is a big fool. Boys need loud and more questions. Girls need quieter and more answers. As a result, teachers speak quietly and tell something... This manner teaches only girls. Therefore, in recent years, excellent girls became more than excellent boys.