"משפחה בריאה."psychology and philosophy of family relations. משפחה היא לא רק איחוד של שני אנשים, זה אורגניזם סימביוטי יחיד שהשיג יושרה סינרגטית. היכן שהיו שניים, היה שלם אחד, והשלם הזה הוא סדר גודל גדול יותר מסכום חלקיו. מהות המשפחה היא להשיג מספיק אנרגיה להולדה. מהות המשפחה היא ילדים. השגת הרמוניה במשפחה ובמערכות יחסים היא אמנות גבוהה. הבעלים של המשפחה, אישה, זה מאוד רצוי להחזיק אמנות זו, זה יהיה תלוי באושר והצלחה של המשפחה וכל בני המשפחה שלה.
Dramatically reduce the number of divorces is quite easy. You need to divorce every couple forced to undergo therapy with a psychologist. People have lost the culture of family life, they do not know how to live together. Such therapy will save up to 70% of marriages.
People can't get along together because of stupidity rather than because of incompatibility, differences, intolerance etc like most people think...All these human little peccadillos are nothing more than the result of the poverty of intellect in the body.
Usually an idealist is especially hated by all his close relatives. The idealist worships his idol, and demands the same worship from all those dependent upon him. Dependent people such ideological slavery is not happy. For example, a man who is particularly fond of his parents will have serious conflicts with his wife and children.
A constant demonstration of love is what one really needs.
Love is ethereal. You're constantly in fear of losing it...
And fear brings pain and discomfort so you should overcome it.
Demonstrations of love is what can help you get rid of fears to be happy.
Love is a very precious thing. The presence of love brings pain because one is constantly afraid of losing it. "My dear- you say to it. - You'll be forever mine". But you're talking to an invisible thing and that's why you need demonstrations of it. Otherwise you'll simply go mental from fear and painful feeling that you've lost it.
Once a boy and a girl got married, but the marriage quickly collapsed. The reason was cognitive dissonance and an irresistible pattern. The girl in the family dad gave mom money, and she went shopping, buying food. And the boy in the family had money from his father, and they went shopping with his mother, together chose and dad paid. In General, the boy could not give her his money, and she could not stand the fact that the money was not given to her.
In a family conflict, the best solution to cognitive dissonance is to run away for half an hour, and then whoever is smarter and stronger should come, apologize, maybe give flowers or some other gift, and reduce it to sex. Such a scenario will further strengthen the family. It is necessary to extinguish the desire to escape and encourage yourself with hope. The man usually gives flowers and gifts to apologize, and the woman cooks food or seduces with sex. The other side should support reconciliation.
If girls aged 12-16 read the book "Variothoughts" (family, relationships, arrangement of men and women), their experience of relationships and family life would not be as miserable and nightmarish as 99% of other women. I know very few women who are happy in their relationships, but men are also happy in their relationships.
A woman should understand that most men are paranoid and the only thing that can make them sane is female love and gentleness. Otherwise, a man may become a loose cannon who will plunge into anger and grumpiness. That's why it's very dangerous for a woman to get offended by a man and show her irritation or indignation to him... This way a man will see her as an enemy with all consequences it may involve (anger, aggression, attempts to get rid of the aggressor)...