The survivor is the one who adapts most effectively to the external environment around him, in order to extract energy from it and protect himself from external threats. In other words, you will need Love to survive. Love is mindfulness, knowledge, and kindness to one's neighbor. By integrating as much as possible into the environment, a person firmly occupies an ecological niche where he is most useful.
The effect occurs when the saturation point is reached. The point of minimum. No one knows where it is. You can make 10,000 efforts and the effect will be zero, and at 10001 there will be an explosion of efficiency.
What you call a loss of control and a breakdown is switching to autopilot. Switching to autopilot occurs when there is no clear conscious understanding of what to do. Autopilot includes instinctive programs of the subconscious, tested by millions of years of evolution and have shown their effectiveness.
Time has a variable value. The more time is loved and used more effectively, the more valuable it is. The cheapest time is the time that you can buy for beads, candy, and other worthless items. The essence of business is to buy time cheap and sell it dearly.
In General, it is not very effective to accuse a person of something, they will instantly turn on self-deception and close down. It is more useful to blame some third-party facts, and try to turn the person into an ally.
The more small bites you take of the truth, the more energy is generated. You need to chew the truth long and carefully. Take the example of cows, they eat all day, and their milk is good for society.
You need to rest, but rest is not a good thing, but an unavoidable evil, the slightest overkill of which will destroy you. You should rest to work. Too much work is dangerous, because it creates exhaustion and inattention. To maintain your performance, you need to rest a little. Of course, if it were possible not to rest at all and avoid this deadly poison, then... but it is impossible. A little rest is necessary, even if only in a dream.
The point is that you are falling down with a uniform acceleration, because you are afraid, pushing, waving your arms, trying to slow down or accelerate, your speed does not change. The question is not how fast you fly, but what your time and attention are devoted to.
By minimizing movement, we save energy by reducing cost. This way, you drive more quietly, and you will go further. A smaller movement contains more energy potential than a larger movement, and uses energy more efficiently.
To grow in the system, you need a pinch of poison. To make the bread delicious, it needs to be salted. For order to be productive, it needs a bit of chaos. Similarly, the system works in the reflected form.