There are several reasons why it's mostly women who bring up children. Men work more, plus there are many incomplete families and divorces. All of these factors make women ask how to bring up boys properly. The thing is that a boy who is brought up like a girl, will never be successful in life and won't be able to start a normal family. Such boy will be passive, lazy and will resemble a princess rather than a man. Bringing up boys, is mostly about bringing up Heroes and Hunters. Bringing up breadwinners and protectors. The process of bringing up boys has many peculiarities that should be taken into account.
The efficiency of the child's learning is described by the exponential law. The main progress occurs at the last stage at the moment of achieving the knowledge integrity.
I think the education of girls this is a more subtle art than education of boys. This little delicate flower so easily ruined... Boys are easier that way...
There are several reasons why it's mostly women who bring up children. Men work more, plus there are many incomplete families and divorces. All of these factors make women ask how to bring up boys properly. The thing is that a boy who is brought up like a girl, will never be successful in life and won't be able to start a normal family. Such boy will be passive, lazy and will resemble a princess rather than a man. Bringing up boys, is mostly about bringing up Heroes and Hunters. Bringing up breadwinners and protectors. The process of bringing up boys has many peculiarities that should be taken into account.
In bringing up boys, a woman should beware of infecting them with her fear. That very cowardice that often hides behind the mask of prudence is extremely harmful to heroes and hunters.
School education contradicts the idea of love, forcing children to learn everything, not just favorite. That is why boys who are more passionate and amorous, learn worse than girls, who are afraid of their parents and the system, in General, do not care what to teach. The weaker and more cowardly a child is in this sense, the better he learns. But knowledge is power, and over time the child can gain power.
The over-loved child is afraid of losing love. He is always tormented by the fear that he is not loved. It is necessary to talk to him, to say that everything is good, that everyone loves him and loves his mother. And especially his mother loves him when he behaves well. And if he doesn't do what he's supposed to, mom gets sad and mom feels bad. If he is a good boy, his mother will love him, and will not be sad, and will smile. The main thing is to make sure that the child does not have the idea that when he behaves badly, his mother pays attention to him. You should ignore his bad behavior, showing complete coldness. On the contrary, good behavior should be responded to warmly.
They say girls learn the faces, and boys items. They say that the boy looks at the girl as an object that requires knowledge, and the girl looks into his face, wondering if he can know me.
On average, boys do worse at school than girls because the masculine brain is more specialized than the feminine one and is unable to learn everything just in fear of parents and teachers.
Hypersensitivity have prelomleniya children observed as fusion matter. Largely this fusion is characteristic for girls, less for boys. If the child is alone in the family-it increases the risk. The more neurotic the mother is, the more likely it is to merge. The stronger mother nature absorbs the child, the mother's desires become part of the child's soul, his conscience, his super Ego, thus generating a pseudo-split personality. The child begins to live not with his feelings, which he does not have, but with others. The feelings of the mother, a loved one, other people and systems.
Women in fear looking for protection and company, the boys in fear seek solitude. These are two reactions to conflict and stress. Boys don't need witnesses of their fear and girls need protection from fear and loneliness spoils their health.
Boys need to praise and to give them freedom of activity, but to watch them with one eye. If the boy is not praised and all his freedom of movement is restricted, he will wither.
Teaching children in mixed classes is a big fool. Boys need loud and more questions. Girls need quieter and more answers. As a result, teachers speak quietly and tell something... This manner teaches only girls. Therefore, in recent years, excellent girls became more than excellent boys.
A mother teaches a child to love... fulfilling his every desire, is making a big mistake. She teaches him that love is the fulfillment of desires, and, therefore, the one who dared not fulfill at least one of his desires, does not love him and, therefore, there is evil and the enemy that causes fear, anger and hatred... Fleeing from enemies, the enemies hate the near enemy wither and fade, sinking into apathy and laziness.
The task of parents is to drive into the child's head the basic principles of life and philosophy, and not to kill the initiative in him, filling his head with fears, constantly criticizing and condemning any of his actions.
The ability to be honest and tell the truth is the ability to tell bad news. To break the news to hard, scary and requires a lot of force. It takes a lot of hard training to learn to tell the truth.
It is extremely difficult for young people to study without a mentor. But since we have a problem with mentors, usually parents and other close people perform their role with grief in half.
It is dangerous to protect a person from Vice from the outside. You will protect him from the lesser evil, and he will be the victim of the greater one. The lesser evil protects man from the greater one. A person can save himself from Vice only, an attempt to save him from the outside and by force will only aggravate the situation.
I do not advise you to abuse memory training, the better a person's memory, the more he is an idiot. Why would he? He remembers everything by heart. However, bad memory is also not a sign of a big mind.
Education of children is not reduced to the concept of "who is a good child", but the answer to the question: "Who is a well-mannered parent?". Bad parents can't raise good children. The problem is that parents do not know or are deeply mistaken in the question "how to be good?".
The main problem with children is that people don't know how to be good parents. The problem with families is that people don't know how to be a good husband or wife. People don't know how to be good friends. How to be an honest person. How to be a good person. How to be a strong person. How to be human.
Only fools want to grow up quicker than they need. The longer it takes you to grow up, the better you will succeed in getting prepared and becoming stronger. Getting more prepared for the big game.
A child is a reflection of his parents, which is controlled through the management of himself and the external circumstances that surround the child. With a child who fell into fear and denial of reality (aggression is the main symptom of fear and unpreparedness for real life), you need to work out, communicate, teach him life. This is not one conversation from the category of "please be an ideal child and then you gingerbread" and not an exorcism procedure for expulsion from the sinner of the devil. This is a long and painstaking educational process. There are no problems, just a small and immature soul is extremely afraid of the real world, can not live, can not communicate... from which falls into the rage of a wild beast. The problem is solvable, it would be on that desire, patience and goodwill.
Parents, do not be shy, come and consult a psychologist. Even if nothing new is told to You, You will be strengthened in the belief that You are doing everything right. (Or, conversely, wrong... Anything can happen.)
The child is an ordinary soldier, parents are Junior officers, teachers and psychologists are senior officers and generals. In principle, to influence the child, a child psychologist does not even have to talk to him, it will be enough to communicate with parents and explain to them how the elder should manage the younger.
The comprehension of truth through revelation and illumination of darkness is good because such a bright and pleasant event strongly sinks into the memory and is not forgotten. Truth, grasped casually and without theatrical effects, seem to be dreadfully commonplace, something to love, to trust and to remember them is not desirable.
Teach the wisdom of how to teach the children the letter. First, hold the hand and trace the letters, then the student circles the letters, following the pattern, then he writes without a sample... And this is only the first step to reason, for a child who can write and read is not yet an adult.
To order need to accustom the child from birth... Order kills fear. If there is order, there will be no fear. Therefore, you need to feed the child on a schedule, as watered plants. Hug and carry on the hands of the child should be dosed. Everything needs a measure and order.
Parents should not quarrel and get angry in the presence of their children. Parental aggression immerses children in fear and makes them wicked, lazy and stupid… and they easily fall victim to vices.
Before the birth of a child, the mother neurotically loves her husband, then her husband removes love and throws it on the child, the husband without love dies from the cold, and the child, on the contrary, love burns. As a result, everyone suffers.