Date  is  like  tourism.  The  first  date  is  like  a  first  trip  to  an  exotic  country,  everything  surprises  and    delights.  3-4  meetings  are  like  visiting  your  favorite  place  again  and  again....  And  marriage  and  cohabitation  are  similar  to  immigration  with  all  the  following  aspects.  Date  is  like  tourism,  and  relationship  is  like  emigration.  On  the  other  hand,  finding  a  comfortable  place  to  live  –  isn’t  that  a  dream?  And  the  third  conclusion  is  interesting.    Having  your  favourite  home  doesn't  cancel  tourism.  The  key  is  to  avoid  self-deception  and  not  to  confuse  holiday  with  life.

It's  only  silliness,  delusions  and  illusions  that  live  on  their  own  within  human  heads…  It's  very  warm  and  comfortable  to  live  in  the  world  of  illusions.  It  protects  from  stark  reality  that  lives  under  laws  of  verity… 

In  order  to  fill  one's  head  with  wisdom  and  verity,  it's  necessary  to  burn  stupidity  and  delusions  out  of  it  with  fire.   

Pain  is  a  constant  fellow  of  wisdom. 

Art by Olesy Zaharova

It is very important to go forward. No matter how much effort it takes. The main thing is to move. The main thing is to start moving. The very fact of progress is better than any, even the most comfortable standing still.We're moving forward. Hard…
With great difficulty do 3 steps forward, 2 back…
it takes a long time, but we're still moving forward... that's important. Having made 30 steps, we make a huge way in 8 steps forward...

A  man  really  chooses  a  woman  because  of  sex  but  in  family  life  he's  more  interested  in  comfort,  peace,  safety,  coziness...  A  man  wants  his  life  to  become  easier  and  more  comfortable.  People  tend  to  choose  pleasure  and  avoid  negative  emotions  or  problems;  but  love  to  be  helped,  praised,  loved  and  supported.  If  a  woman  wants  to  get  married  to  man  some  day,  she  should  make  him  think  that  his  life  with  her  will  be  easier  and  more  comfortable  than  without  her.  That's  why  women's  tricks  concerning  bitchiness,  scandals,  jealousy  and  things  like  that  should  be  used  really  carefully  during  a  relationship. 

The  following  ways  can  be  used  to  create  a  comfortable  psychological  background:  support  by  agreement,  support  by  approval,  flattery  and  admiration,  approving  gestures,  sharing  common  interests  and  ideas. 

Praise  people.  Actually  people  don't  get  enough  praise,  not  even  women.  Though  they  say  that  women  are  used  to  flattery.  There  are  two  sides  of  the  same  coin.  If  one  doesn't  get  enough  praise,  then  every  time  they  praise  this  person  will  be  like  a  present.  And  if  one  gets  praised  often,  then  lack  of  praise  may  make  one  feel  uncomfortable  and  hurt.  Praise  is  like  a  drug  that  one  gets  addicted  to  and  can't  live  without.  That's  why  praise  people  in  any  case.  Praise  is  a  drug  for  a  person,  a  real  pleasure. 

Apart  from  sex,  beauty  and  children,  a  woman  can  give  a  man  many  other  things.  For  instance,  moral  support,  care,  tenderness,  compliments,  flattery,  help  with  something  he  does,  peace  of  mind,  warmth  etc.  And  what's  more  interesting,  a  man  really  expects  it  all  from  a  woman  and  becomes  really  offended  when  he  doesn't  get  it.  However,  women  want  the  same  things  from  a  man,  plus  many  other  ones.  That's  why  it's  all  mutual.

The  phrase  «Now  you're  going  to  feel  a  bit  uncomfortable»  can  be  used  to  describe  any  pain,  discomfort  or  something  unpleasant. 

A  constant  demonstration  of  love  is  what  one  really  needs. 
Love  is  ethereal.  You're  constantly  in  fear  of  losing  it... 
And  fear  brings  pain  and  discomfort  so  you  should  overcome  it. 
Demonstrations  of  love  is  what  can  help  you  get  rid  of  fears  to  be  happy. 

Love  is  a  very  precious  thing.  The  presence  of  love  brings  pain  because  one  is  constantly  afraid  of  losing  it.  "My  dear-  you  say  to  it.  -  You'll  be  forever  mine".  But  you're  talking  to  an  invisible  thing  and  that's  why  you  need  demonstrations  of  it.  Otherwise  you'll  simply  go  mental  from  fear  and  painful  feeling  that  you've  lost  it. 

Art by Olesy Zaharova

People  who  are  used  to  being  offended  or  hurt  really  often,  gradually  start  to  like  it.  In  time,  they  will  start  to  like  suffering.  As  they  won't  be  able  to  live  another  way.  And  absence  of  suffering  makes  them  feel  scared  and  unconfident.  Thus,  they  simply  need  to  feel  hurt  in  order  to  feel  comfortable.  It  helps  them  get  ridof  fears  and  feel  confident. 

And  finally,  if  no  one  hurts  or  upsets  them,  they  will  subconsciously  provoke  quarrels  with  others  and  find  reasons  for  suffering. 

The  wolves  living  among  sheep  should  wear  sheep's  clothing  in  order  not  to  scare  people. 

The  question  is:  why  do  wolves  have  to  live  among  sheep? 
The  answer  is:  Because  it's  warm  and  comfortable  among  sheep. 

And  sheep  are  nice  for  food  and  everything  that  wolves  need  to  feel  happy. 

I've noticed that the more comfort there is on the outside, the more suffering there is on the inside.

It has been observed that comfort is the consolation of suffering. The more outside comfort, the stronger the hell inside.

When a person has a mind in his head, the soul is happy, and the body is comfortable.

The mind loves comfort, the mind cares for its soul, allowing it to sometimes rest from its labors in comfort and joy.

You can see that our life is more like hell than Paradise, but skillfully and in hell you can live quite comfortably.

It is believed that peace of mind and integrity are more expensive than money and other material goods. You can not change the comfort of the soul on the material.

The main problem of loved ones is that they constantly violate the comfort zone, which causes aggression, quarrels and negativity.

When   trying   to   lose   weight,   you’d   better   go   to   bed   and   get   up   early   because   you   get   awfully   hungry   in   the   evening   and   at   night   whereas   hunger   makes   you   feel   rather   comfortable   in   the   morning.

Troubles  set  people  thinking. 
I  often  take  over  new  tasks  and  work  only  to  have  a  reason  for  thinking. 

It's  necessary  for  the  protection  of  streets  from  dirt,  rain  and  snow.  It  will  help  citizens  use  cycle  lanes  and  race  tracks  and  will  make  shopping,  cafes  and  restaurants  year-round.  It  will  help  to  comfortably  move  on  the  streets  at  any  time  without  being  scared  of  rain,  snow  or  dirt.  Will  reduce  traffic  jams,  protect  roads  from  foul  weather  and  will  reduce  the  necessity  for  repair  work.  Skimping  on  the  cost  of  road  repair,  winter  chemical  agents,  cleaning  of  streets.  Sometimes,  due  to  economic  feasibility,  roofs  can  be  made  sliding  so  that  to  be  opened  during  good  weather  and  closed  when  it  rains  or  snows.

Lots  of  diseases  that  bring  pain  and  discomfort  are  just  the  generation  of  other  ones,  more  severe  diseases  that  run  invisibly  and  without  any  symptoms. 

Silence thoughts and the warm comfort of the threat, after they really do not want to go back to reality.

When a person is doing well, he rests and enjoys, it is unbearable for him to return to reality and do what gives him the slightest discomfort, for example, to work.

It is necessary to have a rest correctly, for example, it is impossible to interrupt rest and pleasure uncomfortable reflections and work.  In this case, the brain is fed up with rest and wants to work.

Alcoholism and other dependencies, generating an escape from reality, there is a kind of schizophrenia that is associated with the denial of self. In the depths of illusion more or less comfortably, and reality becomes unbearable.  Man silences his real self and reality.

"I" is like a whale, under the water of illusions he, of course, comfortable, but sometimes you need to emerge into reality and breathe.  If the person from the fear to escape from reality, the whale would float up violently.  It's called schizophrenia and hallucinations.

It is not polite to breed fear.  Fear causes pain, anger and discomfort.

The problem isn't the delusions, it's how you're protected from them.  Rains and winds are a matter of weather, and they are needed.  Another question is whether you get wet in the rain and shivering from the cold or comfortable eating in a restaurant.

Beauty on the road and at work is minimalism and convenience.  Beauty in the absence of movement and idleness is, on the contrary, something very complicated. 

The idealist, being a drug addict, is extremely afraid of feeling discomfort, believing that if sadness or boredom take possession of him, it will forever absorb him into the abyss of darkness.

The highest value of the narcissistic personality is pleasure.  Discomfort is unbearable for such a person.  The slightest feeling of hunger causes the desire to eat and generates obesity...

Shunning persons are bad to those they love, for they are always tormented by the conscience that this love is obtained by deception.  Avoiding individuals will be much more comfortable when those they love are strict with them.

Women are quite afraid that they will have nothing to say, so with a chatty man she will be comfortable in the early stages.

Tenderness and cowardice come from comfort and pampering.  Boys better keep it cool and encourage active play.  Girls can be kept warm and safe, it will make them good wives.

Coward for a comfortable little self-evaluation of his own success, he still needs the failures of other people.

The   devil   is   the   father   of   lies   and   fear,   because   he   creates   fear   with   one   hand   and   lies   with   the   other,   which   is   the   cure   for   fear.   Escaping   from   fear   and   suffering,   a   person   falls   into   dependence   on   the   drugs   offered   by   the   devil,   the   metaphorical   price   of   which   is   his   or   her   soul.   The   devil   is   kind,   calls   himself   the   Savior,   gives   consolation   and   comfort,   the   first   drugs   dose   for   free.

The   main   way   to   get   rid   of   the   burden   (hope   and   fear)   is   the   lack   of   coziness,   that   is,   the   urge   to   avoid   comfort.   Comfort   is   consolation.   The   urge   to   avoid   consolation   and   painkillers.   You   cannot   flee   pain   and   fear,   cold   and   sufferings.

Comfort is not as joyful as you think, against the background of increased comfort any pea under seven feather beds will be unbearable to you.

The symbol of the Princess on the pea is a symbol of unbearable suffering of people who want to find salvation from suffering in comfort.

The sinner is the one who suffers the most, the sinner is the one who seeks comfort and comfort.

Wrestling (judo, Sambo, etc.) develops self-confidence in children. Such a child is not afraid of violation of the comfort zone, do not confuse him and touches. On the contrary, coming closer, he feels confident that he is in control of the situation, everything is in his hands.

Comfort and comfort only increase the suffering, making it even more unbearable, in the part that you get used to comfort and it is no longer pleasant, but outside it everything becomes extremely unbearable.

The little mermaid can be seen as a person who, without realizing his desire, follows him and gets what he wanted. At the same time, at the level of consciousness, her desires and dreams are false, but still lead her to the true desire. The little mermaid wanted to find the eternal soul and she found it. An unconscious desire to find an eternal soul sublimated into a conscious desire to leave the comfort zone, to go to land, to stop sinking ships, to desire the Prince. The dream of the little Mermaid was about a Prince, but this is a typical unattainable desire like "guiding star". These desires are unattainable and are used for a real purpose. In fact, the little Mermaid wanted a reward for her suffering. The reward for endless suffering and sacrifice in the name of love is the eternal soul. Provoking and sadomazokhistskiy having all their suffering and sacrifice, the little Mermaid felt quite happy and went to heaven.

A woman accustomed to comfort can easily abandon him, sacrificing him to love. A sense of self-sacrifice and heroism will further strengthen her love. Hero joyful than worse will be her new life and husband, that woman would be in the depths of your soul happier. In the process her life will be very want to restore comfort from childhood, but if it succeeds, the feat will end, love will die, and the woman becoming a Princess and the pea, will be plunged into eternal misery.

The beauty in the Scarlet flower is dependent on her father because she is over-loved by him. Against the background of this dependence, she suffers and suffers, she is drawn home, her husband seems a monster, nothing pleases her. In this situation, the monster needs to show patience and love, surround the woman with tenderness and comfort to pass the stage of withdrawal and relieve her from dependence. It is very important to note that the monster lives far from his parents ' home, which allows a woman to more successfully get rid of addiction. On the other hand, if she could get rid of her dependence on her father, she would find a substitute in her husband, and then she would become as attached to him as she had been to her father. True, she would have to love her as her father had loved her, or she would be seriously offended.

The more comfortable in hell, the more sophisticated the torment.

If you are tired of running in the wheel, you must consciously put yourself in unbearable conditions and leave the comfort zone. It'll cheer you up and you'll Wake up.

There is a very simple way to make money. Sell sinners solace from their suffering. Sinners love comfort and pleasure. Sinners are willing to give everything for pleasure. Comfort but comfort does not save sinful souls from the fire, but only enhances the contrast of their suffering. In order to save the sinner from suffering, he, on the contrary, should abandon consolation, and, burning out the pain, turn to dust. Later a new life may grow out of the dust, but that will be a different story.

What  does  it  mean  to  be  a  hamster  in  a  wheel?  It  means  nothing  changes.  If  you  want  to  change  the  situation,  leave  the  comfort  zone  and  move  to  another  orbit.  If  you  choose  a  new  orbit  based  on  fear,  you  will  make  your  life  even  worse.  If  the  criterion  is  beauty  or  love,  your  life  will  improve.  In  fact,  it  doesn't  matter  to  a  squirrel  which  orbit  to  run  in.  A  squirrel's  fear  of  the  darkness  of  the  space  is  an  illusion  of  its  mind.  The  planet  cannot  fall  into  the  abyss  of  space,  it  is  firmly  tied  to  the  Sun  by  gravity  forces.