Need a win without a victory in any way.  Great victory to wait a long time and you can be exhausted.  Stripped big plan into small steps and rejoice with every small victory.  When there were no victories for a long time, make a small feat and rejoice to it.   

Having ceased to amuse oneself with illusion, a person can get rid of the mask of this illusion.  The mask gave the person a form and imposed on him methods and properties of this mask.  Attempt not to obey the mask caused a feeling of guilt and pain in his chest.  Answer yourself – who am I... I am a mother, I am a wife, I am a citizen, I am a Christian, I am a good person, I am an honest person, I am a good daughter, I am a good granddaughter, I am a good friend.  Every single one of these masks puts obligations on you that need to be followed.  However, you can override the properties of the mask, more accurately defining what is also good and bad.  A man must be good.  When he's bad, his own Self starts to self-destruct, howling with pain and suffering.

Man, submitting completely to his feelings, renounces the uniqueness of the consciousness of his Self and his goals.  I was his form and meaning of life, having lost all this, man turns into an animal and goes under the control of their biological programs, the same for all people.

Man's consciousness, his Self, is something that man must invent himself, it is his meaning of life, something that will give shape to its content and determine its fate.

What   matters   most   in   a   person’s   destiny   is   the   goal   and   meaning   of   his   life.   Be   very   attentive   when   choosing   your   destiny.

Wisdom brings joy to man.  Knowing that he is doing the right thing, he rejoices and has no fear.

We believe that our work makes the world a better place.

The   danger   of   lie   is   that   it   kills   faith,   and   faith   was   love   and   strength.   Now   that   people   do   not   believe   in   lie,   they   no   longer   believe   in   truth   either.

Bad hurts, good to be nice.  Evil is pain, good is joy.

Psychoanalysis believes that the problem is unconscious desires.  There is some truth in this, but there is another problem.  Man is not simply not aware of his desires or wrongly aware of them, first of all, he does not know how he can satisfy them.  It seems that whatever he's doing, all to no avail and hell is inevitable.

Freud saw the cause of neurosis in suppressed sexuality.  Erickson – the inability to fulfill your destiny.  Adler is in a lust for power that stems from sexual instinct.  Still it is possible to say that neurosis is a discrepancy between his view of himself or a growth problem.  In General, we can say that the definition of Erickson wider than all other ideas.

Women love a hero, a hero worthy of admiration.  Win and the woman will love you.  Conquer yourself and your vices.  Overcome problems and troubles.  Win, achieving goals and realizing dreams.

Only   fools   want   to   grow   up   quicker   than   they   need.   The   longer   it   takes   you   to   grow   up,   the   better   you   will   succeed   in   getting   prepared   and   becoming   stronger.   Getting   more   prepared   for   the   big   game.

To a weak man, money and success are dangerous, he instantly loses power over himself and turns into a slave. 

Standing up for your opinion is not when you're whining or aggressive, but when you're light.  Clarity and confidence of judgment, that's what convinces people.

They are so lacking in support, love, confidence that they are willing to give everything for them.

God specifically offends a person to make him love himself and serve himself.  That's what he does with a little faith.  Those who are firm in their love and service to God, God also loves firmly and without any unnecessary resentment.

The  fact  that  I  am  surrounded  by  idiots  significantly  increases  my  self-esteem,  but  wiseacres  somehow  cause  inferiority  complex.

Fear.  Your  fear,  referring  to  your  weakness  and  lack  of  confidence,  whispers  to  you  that  any  action  and  effort  is  useless.  The  feeling  of  uselessness  kills  desires  and  causes  laziness.  Immobilized,  you  lose  access  to  money,  luck  and  other  bonuses  and  joys  of  life.  Who  does  nothing  is  good  at  nothing.

Everything  is  meaningless,  especially  if  you  do  nothing.

A  woman  can  only  love  the  man  she  can  admire, 
the  one  who  can  protect  her… 
…  being  near  whom  makes  her  feel  honored, 
…  the  one  who  gives  her  positive  emotions:  pleasure,  serenity,  confidence,  warmth. 

A person whose self-esteem, mood or well-being are dependent on other people can be called a weak and dependent person.

Don't  let  your  opponent  demoralize  you  and  break  your  spirit. 

Fear,  terror,  uncertainty,  guilt  complex,  lack  of  confidence  in  one's  own  abilities,  thoughts  about  losses  and  negative  things-  are  the  factors  leading  to  defeats.  It's  necessary  to  separate  oneself  from  the  personality  of  the  enemy  and  the  situation  in  general.  It's  a  game  and  in  a  game  situation  can  change  any  moment.  Finally,  even  a  second  before  your  opponent  steps  on  you  with  a  dirty  boot,  a  meteor  may  fall  on  his  head  and  smash  him  like  a  roach.  Nothing  personal.  Purely  impartial  observation  of  a  situation…  What  happens,  happens.  Even  one  second  can  drastically  change  any  situation. 

Art by Olesy Zaharova

Make  people  believe  in  you  and  it  will  really  boost  your  self-esteem  and  belief  in  your  abilities. 

There's  no  need  to  overestimate  people  or  consider  them  better  than  they  are.  Generally,  people  are  approximately  equal.  We  often  think  that  we're  special  or  not  like  others.  But  secretly  we  often  consider  ourselves  worse  than  others;  sillier,  weaker,  less  lucky  etc.  But  actually  thoughts  like  these  probably  torture  many  people  (regardless  of  their  age),  no  matter  how  successful,  strong  or  smart...   

In  essence,  any  person  may  get  the  following  thoughts  and  emotions  on  the  inside:  uncertainty,  doubts,  complexes,  permanent  lack  of  understanding  of  what  goes  on  and  what  to  do  next  or  how  to  live  in  general,  lack  of  self-belief. 

A  person  is  always  full  of  many  desires  most  of  which  won't  come  true.  As  a  rule,  no  matter  how  old  one  looks  on  the  outside,  on  the  inside  a  person  remains  the  same  little  young  gold  fish  swimming  in  a  huge  ocean  of  emotions  and  passions  that  overwhelm  human  soul.   

And  anything  on  the  outside  is  a  mask.  A  shell.  A  shield. 

That's  why  let's  not  be  judgemental  towards  people.  Take  off  a  person's  mask  and  he  or  she  will  cry  or  laugh  like  a  child...   

Encourage  people  and  make  them  feel  confident.  It's  so  precious.  People  will  be  grateful  to  you. 
What's  more,  even  life  itself  will  be  grateful  to  you.  It's  not  a  secret  that  being  confident  of  success  guarantees  almost  80%  of  success.  And  providence  likes  things  to  get  done  and  it  will  be  grateful  to  those  who  contribute  to  it. 

Superiority  complex  is  the  opposite  side  of  the  inferiority  complex.  People  who  are  very  self-confident  often  hide  their  own  diffidence. 

Perhaps the inferiority complex is a very good thing in the economy. After all think, the person full of this unpleasant feeling is doomed to try to get rid of it all life. Doomed unsuccessfully all my life to try to become more perfect, better, than we will be Doomed to constantly prove themselves and others that he is worth something. And this person will not be able to calm down, will not be able to stop, otherwise the internal pain will simply absorb him.

Although, of course, everything needs a measure. It often happens that instead of giving strength, the inferiority complex, on the contrary, pulls them. A person is afraid to make decisions, afraid to do anything. That's bad. This must be fought. And it is possible.

In fact, the reverse side of the inferiority complex, if buried deep, is the self-confidence complex. If these two complexes are mutually compensated, the person will be able to exist quite successfully.

Although the question remains: why these extremes... Why can't you just be a normal person? But, given that most people are still the first scenario, probably not. Perhaps normality makes people very inert and predictable. And it impairs their survival as a species. There is no incentive to fight and win any valuable. Just to prove that no, you're not as worthless as you seem to yourself.…

Hey you, the WORLD, I'll capture you!!! Why? Just so you don't think I'm small and insignificant. The thought of being so small makes me feel terrible. To prove the opposite, I must necessarily take over the world, roll mountains, defeat everyone and everyone…

Perhaps,  many  people  don't  get  words.  But  they  feel  them  very  well.  So  if  one  is  sure  about  what  to  say,  then  all  those  listening  to  this  person  even  without  understanding  the  subject,  will  be  likely  to  trust  the  one  talking  as  they  feel  the  confidence  in  this  person's  manner  of  speaking. 

Art by Martin Anderson

Sometimes  our  mood  and  actions  depend  on  some  subjective  appraisal  of  some  particular  people:  approval  of  colleagues  and  bosses,  the  decision  whether  we  should  be  hired,  some  contests  or  competitions. 

It's  all  nice  and  very  important  but  all  these  things  should  be  used  purely  for  something  useful:  maybe  as  a  source  of  energy  or  maybe  as  an  opportunity  to  train. 
What's  important  about  it  is  not  to  take  it  all  to  heart  and  not  let  external  considerations  ruin  your  self-esteem  or  take  your  energy  away. 

The  thing  is  that  any  subjective  appraisal  of  you  as  a  person  or  a  personality,  may  concern  only  twenty  per  cent  of  real  you,  but  all  the  rest  concerns  purely  those  people  who  appraise  you  and  their  personal  life  experience. 

For  instance,  some  boss  would  choose  his  executive  not  only  according  to  a  person's  abilities  but  also  according  to  one's  tendency  to  be  ruled.  An  executive  should  definitely  be  weaker  or  duller  than  the  boss  so  that  the  boss  would  not  be  replaced  by  the  executive  some  day.  Usually  it's  not  the  best  professionals  but  the  most  servile  and  least  competitive  people  who  get  the  promotion. 

They  test  you  at  the  interview  and  you  seem  to  be  doing  just  well  but  still  they  don't  hire  you?  There  are  many  reasons  for  it.  They  might  have  asked  you  to  come  in  order  to  give  a  good  showing  to  some  candidate  who  has  been  chosen  and  supported  by  influential  people  long  ago.  Or  they  might  have  used  you  to  get  some  interesting  information  about  your  former  employers.  Or  even  a  better  situation-  if  they  asked  you  to  come  only  because  their  HR  manager  needed  to  meet  the  plan  of  interviewing  ten  candidates  just  for  the  sake  of  appearance,  even  if  the  right  candidate  had  already  been  found. 

Contests  and  competitions  are  usually  held  for  particular  people  who  are  supposed  to  win.  They  choose  the  participants  and  don't  want  them  to  be  very  strong.  And  if  someone  turns  out  to  be  better  (it  may  be  you),  it's  not  the  reason  to  make  you  a  winner.  An  appraisal  is  a  subjective  thing  and  it's  influenced  by  some  preliminary  agreements  or,  for  instance,  by  the  fact  that  some  nice  respectable  person  hasn't  won  for  several  years  and  it  would  be  really  awful  not  to  let  this  person  win  right  now…  And  that's  why  they  may  choose  this  person  a  winner... 

And  even  if  the  contest  was  honest,  then  honesty  is  very  relative  thing  too.  As  some  person  could  have  had  the  opportunity  to  prepare  for  it  for  months  or  years,  even  with  the  help  of  trainers  and  consultants.  While  you,  being  impoverished,  would  have  to  work  at  McDonald's  round  the  clock  and  train  only  at  night  for  an  hour  while  being  awfully  tired  and  then  crawl  to  the  bed  (it's  an  exaggerated  example  but  a  true  one  too).  Or,  for  instance,  it's  not  the  best  Formula-1  racing  driver  who  wins  and  generally  it's  not  a  matter  of  driving  a  racing  car  skillfully  but  rather  a  matter  of  how  much  money  you  may  bring  to  the  team  to  buy,  for  instance,  best  motors. 

People's  approval  and  praise  is  generally  «talk  of  the  town».  People  may  both  approve  and  disapprove  of  something  for  many  reasons:  if  one  is  a  buddy  or  a  friend  -  they  approve  of  one's  actions,  if  one  praised  them  once,  they  praise  back,  etc.  We  praise  friends,  relatives,  people  important  for  us...  Oh  yes,  and  if  among  those  who  compete  there's  not  a  single  person  we  would  surely  praise,  then  we  may  praise  someone  unknown  but  fancied  by  us.  But  if  someone  fairly  known  turns  out  to  be  competing  with  others,  then  others  will  be  criticized  no  matter  how  nice,  great  or  better  they  may  be.  So,  the  unknown  ones  will  be  «treated  as  mud»  and  humiliated. 

What  all  this  text  is  about...  When  they  praise  and  encourage  you,  you  become  happy  and  use  it  as  a  source  of  energy  (or  a  source  for  something  useful).  But  when  they  criticize  you  or  choose  others  instead  of  you,  don't  take  it  close  to  heart  as  it  has  nothing  to  do  with  your  personal  traits  and  it  shouldn't  undermine  your  self-esteem.  It's  just  a  reason  to  think  how  to  melt  those  criticizing  people  into  collaboration  and  think  about  their  real  motives  and  aims. 

Art by Amateur (Datsenko)

A  fear  is  like  a  scent  of  trouble.  I  feel  the  scent  of  shit  and  feel  scared. 
On  the  other  hand,  fear  sees  danger  everywhere,  fear  has  many  eyes. 
...And  it  often  moans  and  complains. 

It  takes  power  and  self-confidence.  As  fear  is  a  fellow  to  helplessness... 
The  conclusion  of  it  all:  in  order  to  allay  fears,  it's  important  to  nurture  power  within  oneself  or  tap  into  someone's  power  (which  is  also  possible). 

A man who is madly in love with himself, naively believes that he should be loved by everyone else.

He  who  doesn't  love  himself  can  hardly  love  someone  else. 
As  how  would  he  know  what  love  really  is? 

Vain  weakness  tries  to  see  everyone  as  a  judge.  It's  full  of  fear  and  wants  someone  to  prove  its  uniqueness.  That's  why  people  who  got  vain  weakness  always  lack  flattery  and  approval.  Flattery  helps  them  forget  their  fears. 

Besides,  vanity  craves  for  freedom  and  power  over  itself  and  then  over  everyone  around. 

Faith  gives  people  confidence  and  tames  their  fears.  A  person  is  calm  and  happy  while  God  loves  him.

The fear and uncertainty of a man turns a woman into a witch, because fear is the devil, and a witch is a woman of the devil.

What is done the easiest, should be done in the first place, because the most effective and, therefore, profitable.  Productivity comes first.

Uncertainty is the absence or weakness of faith, and hence the mortal sin of despondency, the cause of many sufferings.

That you did a good thing is good, and your obsessive desire to be patted on the belly is bad. 

You   have   a   headache   because   you   do   not   know   what   to   do   and   suffer   from   uncertainty.   This   is   all   arrogance’s   fault:   if   it   were   not   for   it,   you   would   seek   guidance   from   intelligent   people   and   might   have   solved   all   your   problems   by   now.

If you lack confidence and self-esteem, create something big and big.  Matter is energy, what belongs to you will give you energy.  Like a little ant build a big anthill.

Your   lack   of   self-confidence   is   also   a   judgment:   you   judge   yourself,   thus   engendering   lie,   fear   and   dejection   in   yourself.   Dejection   makes   you   weak.   Faith   is   strength,   so   you   get   weak   by   killing   faith.

Charisma  is  all  about  optimism  and  love  of  yourself  and  your  close  ones.  When  you  love,  you  have  faith,  and  faith  is  strength  and  hope  for  the  future.

People are very fond of judging, it increases their self-esteem and allows them to forgive their own sins.

Your chest pain is a consequence of not doing everything you could. You could have done more, but you didn't do more. You can more. Do more, get up early, work longer. The pain will go away when you do what you have to and can do.

Blind people grope, full of doubt and uncertainty.

I attribute all my failures to my studies. Every mistake teaches me and I become smarter, stronger and better.

The dissatisfaction of the first two levels of basic needs gives rise to chronic fear in man, which becomes an excellent breeding ground for all human sins and vices.

The realization that there is no one and nothing to envy will save you from many of your vices. Trust me, you'll feel better. No more jealousy, no more fear.

Narcissism and self-confidence says that the soul of this man loves and admires him. The souls of other people are interested in this situation, they also crave to love perfection. If a person believes in himself, loves himself, hopes for himself... not knowing doubt and fear, then and other people will to him treated also.

Lies  are  fun... 
Lying  is  a  source  of  wonder...  a  source  of  vanity. 
A  source  of  safety  and  calmness. 

They  want  to  seem  to  be  of  more  value  and  use.