I originally wrote the book "Variothoughts" for myself and my children. I lived like a blind man in the dark, on the very edge of a precipice, in perpetual fear of falling into it. My only desire was to run away from fear, but wherever I ran, the abyss followed me like a shadow. I tried to grow, I wanted to grow, but I couldn't grow a millimeter. I was weak, stupid, unlucky, and like a squirrel in a wheel that, whatever it did, always stayed in one place. I had no money, no prospects, no happiness, no friends... I had nothing but endless mistakes, suffering, and a million problems, each of which required answers and solutions. 12 years ago, I was extremely tired of this situation and began to think about how to deal with it. The result of this work of thought were 48 thousand texts contained in the books" Variothoughts".
Half of a person’s success in life depends on his communication skills. Loneliness is always the result of the inner rather than of the external. Any person would be glad to communicate but he is so afraid… so afraid…
Judge not, lest ye be judged, this will save you from laziness, apathy, and depression. When an idealist judges reality, it always fails to live up to his ideal, fails to live up to his expectations and shatters his illusions. A mismatch between expectations of reality cause cognitive dissonance and 1000 of his sins and vices.
Nothing spoils a person more than his infinite desire to criticize or to give valuable advice… The two common cents you contribute to the conversation are like flies in a soup. Nobody likes flies, so remember that your criticism, moaning and valuable advice are as if you kept saying “I’m a fool, I’m a fool, I’m a fool”…
A fool is nakladem labels, he's always on everything paste labels... The pattern of thinking compresses the brain of this person in the close narrow framework of stereotypes, in which he acutely wants to fit the rest of the world. But the rest of the world in the head of a fool is placed badly, because you have to sacrifice almost all of its content. From the diversity of real life in the mind of the fool are only labels.
In conversation, hold your breath more often. Your interlocutor uses this pretext to make you a listener, which is good. The more you listen and the less you speak, the more intelligent and smart in all respects you seem to others.
The most important thing in communication is to learn to listen attentively. Don’t get distracted, don’t idly observe flies while reflecting upon the nature of eternity, but listen with great and vehement interest, soaking in every word and gesture of your interlocutor.
Extremely frustrating when you say something to him, and he looks at you like a sheep at a new gate. What is there to talk about with a sheep? Remember not to be a sheep, read more. Reading able any sheep magically turned into a quite decent man, with whom pleasant to communicate.
As a consolation, reflexive answers work well. By affirming aloud the right of a person to suffer, it is as if you are freeing him from suffering. Now that he knows he had a right to his emotions, it'll be a relief.
Yin is softness, Yang is hardness ...but Yang is incontinence, and Yin is restraint. Darkness and shadow – a softness and restraint, and day light is the hardness and fierceness. The paradox is that the soft restrains and gives shape to the hard.
They say that in order to solve a problem, you should not focus on solving this problem, but on the needs of the people who have it. The problem and its solutions are only consequences and their consequences. At the root of all lies the reason - the people who gave rise to this problem.
They say there is a cause and effect, but it is in two-dimensional illusions, and in the real three-dimensional world everything consists of at least three parts. In three-dimensional reality there is always a cause, a consequence, a consequence and their dynamics (trajectory) of movement in time.