Narcissistic people like to ask for favors, believing that everyone should love them and do them favors. It is useful to keep such people in suspense and expectation. The proud must be tormented by uncertainty. Uncertainty and expectation perfectly pacify pride.
What is revenge? Compassion for one's neighbor. What are we avenging? For someone else's pride. By subduing pride, we will save the proud person from suffering and save other people who may be harmed by his pride. We take revenge on a man to save him from his own pride.
Indulging someone else's pride, you corrupt a person, and because of this he falls into hell, and his life is filled with suffering and disease. Thus, out of compassion for people, one should subdue their pride. Pacifying pride, you save a person from unnecessary fears and suffering.
An understanding person seems close. No one understands you, but this one understood and pitied you. Joy fills you, finally, you have found a kindred spirit who will share your drug-addicted everyday life. Congratulations, you found the drug and soon it will devour you, filling your life with madness.
I live as if in augmented reality. Some people are running around and shouting: "You owe me this, you owe me that!" Are they sick? Is it schizophrenia? I don't owe anyone anything.
With regard to the practice of doing nothing, I am particularly concerned about the question of how to respond to an attempt to eat you. Should I do nothing when they try to eat me. Should I do nothing if I want to eat someone so I don't starve to death? Should I do nothing if I see that the actions of a certain person are capable of harming me? Should I do something if I am required to do something, but in return they do not want to do anything for me. Should I do nothing if someone he wants to use me shamelessly.
The main desire of a person is the desire to Be. Human activity is aimed at the desire to Be. If you want me to turn my attention to you, tell me how you want to help me Be? To be, I need energy, information, free space, joy, money, beauty, movement, work. I need all this equally. What can you offer me? Or do you just want to steal my time? My time and attention is my energy. Are you a thief?
Unity is all good. Hearts beat in a single rhythm. The breaths are intertwined. Everyone gets euphoric. That's all fine, but I don't want to. There should be a little bit of good. I don't want to dissolve in anyone and I don't want them to dissolve in me. I don't want to be one soul. Gentlemen, let's respect our own and others' borders and be careful about drug addiction. Euphoria is a drug, not a God. Our beloved God specially created borders and predators to prevent our world from turning into nothing. Knowing about the danger of mutual destruction, we should all be very respectful of borders.
The opposite of conscious disobedience is learned helplessness. A person who is unable to say "No" feels powerless before any authority of law or leader. Conscious disobedience is necessary in order to be able to overcome obstacles.
Modern youth, filled with their desire to overthrow idols. Idols say: "Love us!" Idols say: "Work for us!" Idols say: "Make money for us and give us your money." But our new generation, it is useless and, therefore, perfect. The real perfect overthrows idols, forcing them to serve themselves. Our youth spits in the swollen from the beauty of the faces of idols ... our youth laughs at all this pathos and insignificance, refusing to accept the temptations of the devil and this is beautiful.
As for me, I am not afraid of artificial intelligence and self-learning neural networks. I am a human being, and my mind is perfect. There is nothing in this world that could even come close to the power of my brain. On the other hand, artificial intelligence, of course, is dangerous and we should not lose our vigilance.
Healing Neurosis is associated with the fulfillment of the commandment "Do not believe, do not be afraid and do not ask." Do not believe the idols of fear, do not ask for salvation and mercy. It's all a lie, fear lies to turn a neurotic into a slave to fear.
A proud person is a person who insults people, does not want to apologize, believing that all the insults he causes people are just. The proud man always hides behind the conviction of his justice and rightness, while he despises and neglects his opponents.
What makes a man a slave? Thirst for absolute power! The thirst for absolute power is happening from absolute fear. Thus, fear turns people into slaves.
Healing The difference between narcissism and neurosis is related to their awareness and ability to see and understand their actions. This is the pacification of neurosis, when you see it, it either simply disappears, or it becomes possible to change your behavior.
It is desirable to react at least somehow to any negative factor. It doesn't matter how, the main action. On the other hand, it is advisable to try to get positive actions from negative factors.
Everything positive begets negative. You ate candy and your teeth hurt. In this sense, it would be fair and reasonable if negative factors would encourage us to take actions leading to positive consequences.
A person who adequately judges himself is not afraid and does not need other people's assessments. Everyone is his own judge, and to judge others is pride. Who refuses from the right to judge others, he gets the right to judge himself and is released from other people's judgments.
Narcissus is cunning, he denies his grievances, he says "I'm not offended," but it's wrong, it's unfair. These are the words a narcissist uses to mask his grievances.
When something negative happens, one cannot reject the negative consequences, one must agree with them with the wording "Everything that does not kill us will only make us stronger, and what kills us will no longer matter to us."
Fear scares me, and I tell him: "Good." Fear says: "You're going to die," I reply: "Good." Fear says: "You will get sick and you will suffer," I answer: "Good." Fear says: "You will not have joy and happiness," I answer "okay." Fear says: "Everything will be bad, there is not enough money, there are a lot of enemies," I again answer "good." I don't know any other words except "good." Everything is fine, but let the fear go to hell.
The only way to overcome fear is knowledge. Fear cannot be suppressed, fear is like darkness, it is turned into light, that is, benefit from it. If fear is suppressed, then it fills the human world.
I noticed that fear seems to awaken love. We passionately love those who promise to save us from our fears. That is, love grows out of fear, but as soon as the fear goes out, as the fireman-savior extinguishes it, then the situation can become very funny.
Tasty? That's enough! Stop poisoning me with your yummy! Your delicious temptations are killing me. I understand that it's not your fault, you just crave love, and I'm weak and can't refuse temptation, but I'll pull myself together and say. I refuse to take tasty in quantities exceeding the minimum.
This man replaced the word resentment with the words right and fair. The man says: "I'm not offended, but it's not right and it's not fair." What a cunning person, he thinks, changed his words and immediately deceived everyone.
Of course, a person likes to be right. I am right, and therefore I have the right. I'm right, it's a thirst for power that requires submission. And those who do not obey him, the right considers wrong, angry and offended by them. "It's not fair that you don't obey me," the right one says to the wrong one, "and therefore I will condemn you and take offense at you."
People are perfect. The ideal is something that cannot be spoiled. Vices and flaws do not make a person not perfect. It's like the ocean. No matter what happens, the ocean remains the ocean.
The woman, of course, is good and even perfect. You can even call a woman a god, the main thing is not to turn her into an idol. The ideal is dangerous because it craves power and is full of fear. A woman, in essence, is a witch and she does not need an idolater for happiness, but a normal demon who will appreciate and respect her, while not being too afraid. The witch is not made of glass and there is no need to pray for her. The woman herself should also avoid idolatry in herself. The demon, of course, is beautiful, but he is even more of a monster than the woman herself, and this should not be forgotten.
The desire to become an idol and a super-value is the desire to destroy someone else's borders and seize someone else's territory. When a person sees a super-value, he is afraid to deny it and lets it inside his boundaries, giving access to the energy of his love.
Allowing a person to offend you, you will offend him and cause him great suffering. He could have loved you, but now he will have to worry, fear or despise you, this will steal his joy and give rise to guilt. Pushing guilt out of himself, he will project it on you as a grudge, and resentment will cause him great suffering. He will take revenge on you, offending you even more.
Alcoholism, drug addiction or illnesses of a person are usually to blame for the rabid pride of his loved ones, as a rule, these are wives and mothers. The pride of the person himself, fed by the pride of loved ones, becomes incompatible with life, which is why a person has to seek salvation in vice, delusional super-valuable ideas or diseases.
Sin is a mistake. This is the same error as in computer algorithms. The problem with these errors is invisibility. A person does not realize and self-denies these mistakes. Self-deception and anosognosia protect sin from human consciousness. If a person realizes his mistake, learns to see them, then he will be able to easily find them and correct them.
Our experience suggests that if a person insistently demands answers to his questions, then these answers are the last thing he needs in this life. The point is that all answers will be rejected and rejected. In fact, this is the "Yes, but" game described by Bern. The question is "Now tell me, what should I do?" does not need an answer.
The body may be imperfect. Excessive attachment of the soul to the body can cast a shadow on its perfection, filling the soul with negative emotions. In a normal state, the soul and body should be like the Sun and the Earth. The body receives energy from the perfect soul, which is connected to the body in a minimal way. That is, perfection and defects of the body should not cast a shadow on the soul.
I noticed that the narcissist with anosognosia does not understand anything except the inevitability of truth and pain, which testifies to inevitability.
Resentment is cunning and treachery. Resentment is a cunning way to forget all your sins, forgive yourself all your sins and shift them to another person. When the level of one's own sins goes off scale and the debt becomes unbearable, the debtor finds a reason to be offended by the creditor and, accusing him of all mortal sins, thereby forgiving all his sins. In this sense, we need to closely monitor the level of our external debts. It's very dangerous when you owe a lot. Avoid debtors, they are extremely touchy.
In general, if a person is offended by you and believes that you owe him something, and you do not agree with this, then the only reasonable strategy is to send this person to hell with all his claims. In general, the system of debts and loans is inherently flawed. Jesus and Muhammad rebuked the moneylenders and drove them out of the temple.
You say you owe a lot? So you are a creditor and you have a lot of debtors who owe you a lot? This is a very dangerous situation. Debtors are touchy. When the debt becomes too heavy or you just don't want to pay it, a person prefers to find a reason to be offended by you, accusing you of all mortal sins in order to find a reason to forget about all their sins and guilt. Resentment and hatred are a great tool to rid yourself of feelings of guilt and remorse.
I don't want the best. Fuck you and your best. I want to make it worse. More Besides, I just want something and I don't give a damn if it's the best or the worst. Love does not judge.
You don't take the guilt on yourself. You do not need to make excuses, but listen to your intuition, and blindly trust it, based on the assumption that everything that has already been done is right, because reality is the truth. Only current actions can be changed. The past does not need regrets, because it has already become the truth.
Loneliness is useful because in solitude a person can pacify his pride. Pride is a collective entity and feeds on the pride of loved ones. Too much pride creates incompatibility with reality, from which one has to escape into the slavery of vices and diseases.
Given the anosognosia of the narcissist, who displaces from his consciousness everything that does not agree with his desires or the idea of ideality, you can offend this person as much as you like, and he will forget everything. Even more so I see no point in being afraid to offend this person, because he's always offended by everything anyway, and you can offend him with any sneeze. On the contrary, if you constantly offend him a lot, he will get used to it and will be calmer about it.