Take the risk, the bosses love it. Make decisions and take responsibility for them. But risks need to be controlled and understood. A little risk for a good cause is a blessing. Big risk for unnecessary nonsense is harmful. Evaluate the case.
You should not blame yourself for the past, to carry from the past and present you can't, in the end we toil and perish. The burden of the past is someone else's, only a fool carries the dead with him.
To avoid greed and overkill, always take just a little less than you really want. And what you don't want, take a little more than you don't want. So you will keep the beauty.
Realize for yourself a great and unattainable goal, and then divide this task into small completed sections (puzzles) and strive to complete these small gestalts. You will never collect the entire puzzle in one lifetime, but the more complete puzzles you collect, the closer you will get to your goal.
The sufferings of the outer world enter into you, but do not take them upon yourself, but bring them back in the form of compassion. But negative energy should be directed not at the person or events themselves, but at the Demons (the sins that struck them). More moreover, suffering and pain is not a disease, but a cure for the disease.
The ego is greedy. He wants everything at once. He grabs the poor guy and breaks down. You've been given what you need, you've got something to work with, but you're instead in order to do well what is already available, you reach for something else. You load yourself like a horse, and then you can barely crawl and moan that everything is hard.
Indeed, you will find happiness once you stop saying " I will." Do not promise, do not take on everything, do not take on much, do not brag and forget about your vanity.
All human problems begin with overestimating or underestimating yourself. One says: "A lot depends on me" and that's why he takes a lot on himself, breaks down and languishes from self-pity for his hard fate. The other says: "Little depends on me, I am a victim, I am offended, I am burdened." Such a lot does not take on himself, but languishes from self-pity and resentment that he is loaded with a lot. Both of these poor people are bent under the unbearable weight of life.
Fear and anxiety arise from the vain desire to take everything upon oneself. You're taking too much on yourself. You take everything to heart. You think a lot depends on you. In fact, only your own actions depend on you, but even in them your participation is 38 percent, no more. As for your desire to control the behavior of other people and the world in general, this is no longer just ridiculous, but vain pride.
You exaggerate the value and significance of your mistakes. It's all from selfishness and narcissism. You're taking too much on yourself. This is all an educational process. The task of fate is to make a person wiser. Mistakes and blows of the whip are an excellent tool for the development of the brain in a person. Failures and mistakes should motivate you to improve and learn, and if they motivate you to self-pity and cry, then you are a coward and an idiot. It is no tragedy that Adam and Eve were cast out of paradise. They have no business in Paradise. In Paradise the brain degrades, in Paradise animals live.
The problem begins when people in a couple do not keep their distance and begin to go beyond their "I". For example, I'm ashamed of my partner. I'm happy for my partner. My self-esteem and mood depend on my partner's behavior. I'm telling you, watch yourself. Everyone is responsible for themselves. Do not take upon yourself other people's sins and vices. Taking on other people's sins and vices, you will forget about your own. As a result, it will be – " I see someone else's Speck, but I do not notice my log."
Are you ashamed of your partners or children? You're selfish. You like to feel white and clean. In your pride you have transcended your own boundaries and are taking upon yourself the sins of others. You're ashamed of the other person. Now you think you're bad. You feel shame and resentment. You're ashamed to be bad. Your radiant pride howls from its imperfection.
The vulnerability of pride is that it takes too much on itself and inevitably breaks down. Pride always ends in post-traumatic shock and paranoia. First knee-deep sea, then avoidant personality disorder. Strength overestimates or underestimates its pride.
You are offended and angry at people for not loving, not appreciating and not respecting you. This is a misconception. You're taking too much on yourself. People know nothing about you, for you are hidden under a thick layer of dirt of your pride, vices, ignorance and passions. People do not love and do not respect other people's pride and vices. So you have nothing to do with it.