Appreciate your dreams and desires. If other people laugh at them, tell yourself: "This is good, because fewer people have more oxygen." Tell yourself: "I know how to achieve my dream, I know everything about my dream and I love it. Do you know your dream?"
You need to use your shortcomings for the good of the cause. Yes, I am vain and I want to be unique. So, I will train in myself unique competencies, skills and knowledge. I will learn Japanese, no one around me knows it. Uniqueness is perfection, there is less competition.
School really undermines our self-esteem, because we are forced to learn unnecessary things, and it turns out very hard. I think I'm dumb. However, when you learn what you love, it is interesting and turns out well. It raises your self-esteem and you no longer consider yourself a fool.
Do not judge people as a judge, but judge how you differ from them and, therefore, are unique. That should be good. Uniqueness is the closest thing to perfection. However, when you look at people, think about what to take from them to become even more perfect and unique, for there is no limit to perfection and uniqueness.
I knew one girl who loved Japanese very much and easily learned it. Math, which was ten times easier than Japanese, the girl did not like and therefore considered it ten times harder than Japanese. I conclude that the heaviness and complexity of things are relative to the love for them.
According to the theory of relativity of love, we can say that the complexity, severity, value and speed of processes and phenomena depends on from the love of man for them.
Dangerous put your self-esteem depending on external phenomena. The idea that a bone in the nose makes a person more valuable than without it seems false. More that bone in the nose is a sign of an ogre. Indeed, we know that people whose self-esteem is dependent on external objects are stricken with pride, narcissism, lust for power, despise people, are cowardly and, if given free rein, would gladly eat people and drink their blood.
The idea that a circle is better or prettier than an ellipse is a false idea. Similarly, it cannot be said that a straight line is better or more beautiful than a curve.
"It's a matter of great competition. It is good to be straight when you are alone, but what to do if there are a lot of people who want to go straight and this creates a huge traffic jam. Salvation here will be curves. We can say that the order of simple forms is when there are few, and when there are many – we need chaos of curve forms.
You ask where to find joy? Become a hero. The hero is joyful. Becoming a hero is very easy. Tell me a story about yourself. You are the hero of your story.
It's hard in a crowd of your own kind, especially if you don't Love Yourself. One girl really wanted to be unique and was very upset when other girls were like her. In a crowd of her own kind, this girl would probably go crazy.
To have a miracle, you need a sense of your own ideality. I did everything I had to do. It's all good. I've subdued my demons. We did a good job. Done the job - walk boldly. Or another formula is possible. You have done your job, fast, indulge in asceticism and wait for a reward. In parallel, you can start doing another thing or study.
I noticed that many of the things that were terribly afraid and did not know what to do with it resolved themselves and simply disappeared. There was nothing, it was bound to be, but it was gone.
Identical people from afar sympathize with each other, but close intuitively feel competition. Next to yourself, you want to be unique. It's a matter of food and energy. Someone like You claims your place in the sun.
Suffering is the source of pleasure. I know a lot of women who get real pleasure from suffering. However, an even greater number of men draw strength from suffering and rejoice in this strength with rapture. Suffering is a favorite activity of most people.
When a man speaks: "I like to suffer", he is slightly inaccurate in concepts. This man loves pleasure, but suffering is one of the sources of his pleasure.
Women who devote a lot of effort to losing weight and beauty are sadomasochists by nature, for depriving themselves of the joy of delicious food, they have to find pleasure in the suffering of restriction and hunger.
You're bored, you don't know what to do. With me, everything is different, free time is the source of my enjoyment. I always have a few books I want to read, languages I want to learn, things I want to do.
The nature of your suffering is an exaggeration of one and an understatement of the other. You exaggerate your problems and underestimate the affordable and the good.
Don't take people's bragging personally. They don't underestimate your self-esteem, but they raise their own. People are tormented by an inferiority complex. People crave love. Praise them, let them rejoice.