The problem with women is that they, stunned by fear, do not hear the voice of their intuition. When a man spoils, you need to part with him right away. Rudeness and aggression cannot be tolerated, imposed external fears cannot be tolerated.
It's good for me the way I like and it's convenient for me. You should evaluate your life by the feeling of your comfort. No need to compare yourself with others. Everyone has their own happiness.
The words "must" and "can" is quite interchangeable. You say that you owe something, but I see that most of your debts are some kind of fantasy. One lady was going on a date and believed that before a date she should definitely shave her legs. Why should I? You can shave, but you can not shave. Do as you like and as convenient. Keep it simple.
To be simpler means to do as you like and convenient. It's just when I want and do. It is difficult when I start to invent something to do what I do not want or do what I do not want.
The simpler the motives, the better. The more complex the motives, the more doubts and accidents there are in them. The simplest motive is "because I want to." Suppressed desire or fear generates neuroses and is harmful to health. Why should I harm my health?
There is a lot of resentment inside you and therefore you are afraid of other people's resentment, because you know that resentment is hatred and threat, that is, it is scary when you are offended.
I'm good, I'm wonderful, when they tell me-bad, how will I survive this? I want to be perfect… I am very offended when I am considered bad and imperfect. My sin is vanity and pride.
Love is the absence of pressure. Love is the freedom of flight. Love is when open space. The maximum that you can afford with love is light gravity and a third orbit from the Sun.
Live as you live. The ideal is unattainable. If there is any comfort, if life goes on, then do not Twitch and live. They say: "You can't live like this!" They say: "This is wrong!" But this is all nonsense. Everything that exists in reality is by definition viable, otherwise it would remain a fantasy.
What are the boundaries that everyone loves to break? These are personal principles and values, as well as time, the right to be alone, the right to be yourself, the right to mood, the right to your opinion and freedom of thought. Condemning other people's values is a classic example of trespassing.
When you desire something, remember that your desire can lead you to very different consequences. Therefore, before you wish for something, be sure to think about what you will do in case of a completely unpredictable result.
If you see something, make sure you see it. Ask other people if they see it. Otherwise, you can get into a stupid situation, seeing the desired, and not the actual.
As the psychologist Labkovsky noted, the dream of any woman is an adequate man who has undergone a course of psychotherapy. From myself I can recommend the course of psychotherapy Imagy and the philosophy of syntalism. I will also add that for the happiness of one adequate person is not enough, a person is very dependent from their social environment. For happiness you need at least two adequate people.
People either hide their suffering or exaggerate it. hidden fear creates a bubble that grows and, reaching a critical mass, explodes, which gives rise to post-traumatic shock or neurosis. The exaggeration of suffering is the desire to attract love, which gives rise to an excess of Love, which also gives rise to a bubble, which, having reached a critical mass, explodes. The larger the bubble, the more catastrophic the consequences of its destruction. Salvation is to burst your bubble on your own.
Every woman dreams that her man will approach her, gently hug and say: "I went through psychotherapy and now I am adequate." Alas, these are all dreams. Psychotherapy is expensive and lasts a long time. A greedy, cowardly and always late man will never find the time, courage and money for psychotherapy. He will be ashamed and afraid to talk to a psychologist, confessing his problems. However, all these problems can be solved by the Imagy 6 day program, which it costs only one hundred euros a year and you need to practice 10 minutes a day from the phone.
A happy person is a person who does what he wants and does not strain himself. In this sense, to be happy, you need to know how to want, how to manage your desires, how not to strain. It all comes with experience. Thus, happiness is a consequence of human experience.
A greedy man does everything for himself. For himself, he takes a woman to restaurants. He takes her to resorts and hotels for himself. He buys her underwear and a dress for himself. However, if a girl asks him for something for himself, then he will strangle himself. from greed and will sabotage the process.
Fighting is not a sign of strength, but a sign of weakness. The strong will never fight, he will just leave. Fighting is beneath the dignity of the strong. The strong do not need to prove anything to anyone. The weak try to prove something all the time and scream "I'm right!", and all that sort of thing.
What is the realization of desire and achievement of your goal? Closing the gestalt. The wish has been fulfilled, the gestalt is closed, I'm not interested in it anymore.
When a person wants to, and they say "no" to him, this is an open gestalt and a blow to self-esteem. A person with such an unclosed Gestalt can then run for a long time, trying to break the "no", and realize their desires, restoring self-esteem.
A closed gestalt is when the desire is fulfilled and nothing else is needed. A closed gestalt is the achievement of perfection perfection and deliverance from the desire that generates tension.
The strong one agrees or disagrees. The weak look for a judge in the strong. Strong does not initiate proposals. A strong man says the last word, not the first.
Cognition and development of the self develops the quality of feeling in a person, making high joys accessible to consciousness, capable of protecting against the temptations of the joys of vices.
Happy is the one who lives by the principle "Do not believe, do not be afraid, do not ask." For such a person does not expect anything and is not disappointed in anything.
Self-respect is respect for your decisions. To train self-esteem and self-confidence, you should execute your first decision. The first solution a good one, and the second solution is the best one, which is the enemy of the good one.
Do what you want, which means, having made a decision, focus on your desires, and not on the machinations of the thirst for the best, confirmed by rational and good reasoning.
If you don't like something, try to talk about it right away, otherwise people will think that you like it and, trying to please you, will start demanding love from you in such a perverted way.
In a conflict, speak to yourself, explaining in detail your position, feelings and desires. Refrain from blaming and evaluating the actions of other people and circumstances. It hurts me, and I don't want to stand it.
When a person lies too much, he may develop dementia, because the brain completely ceases to distinguish between lies and truth. There are also suspiciousness, hallucinations, paranoid schizophrenia, narcissism, etc. waiting for you.
The imposition of guilt is manipulation. On the other hand, communication is an interchange. If you don't like something, don't communicate with a person, and if you do, take into account his feelings.
The achievement of perfection and happiness is associated with the ability to be malnourished. To undereat and throw away the excess, that's the first skill of the perfect. The second skill of the perfect is not to take too much and be content with little.
It is necessary to evaluate not the object, but its actions and the results of these actions. Any object is perfect, but its actions can lead to different goals and generate different feelings in the surrounding objects.