When the idolater gains power, he will be transformed, straighten his shoulders and put a crown on his head. In fact, the sole purpose of the idolater is to possess the idol, to become its master.
It is unbearable for an idolater to hear that his idol is a narcissist who does not appreciate him, does not respect him, and considers him a pile of shit. At its core, the idolater is just as much a narcissist as his idol, only of the opposite quality and not loving himself. If the idolater loved and respected himself as he was, he would easily rise above his old master, or at least become his equal. In a harmonious world, extremes are identical. When one of the extremes thinks itself better than the other, the balance is upset and idolatry arises.
The main question of syntalism. Balance or imbalance, that's the question. And if there is an imbalance, then how much can it be allowed. Syntalism suggests a possible imbalance in the range of the Golden Ratio.
The love balance of the sonarcissic personality is flawed. She goes out of her way and gives something, but in return she gets nothing or gets so little that she does not have enough. Since she is not given anything, she wants everything at once and that is the problem. It is not possible to get everything at once, and therefore nothing is taken. Take a small piece of strength for some reason she does not guess.
The man says: "Prove that you love me." After such words, you do not need to prove anything, but you just need to leave. The absence of love is hell and suffering, when you leave with your love, a person will immediately feel lack of love and everything will understand. Accordingly, you do not have to prove anything to him.
I don't want to support anyone. Who needs, let him stand. He who cannot stand himself does not need to stand. "Push him that falleth," said Nietzsche, because he that falleth in his pride and Vanity tried to stand, but that's not his nature. One Born to crawl cannot stand. This person could happily crawl, but instead he suffers and feels inferior. There is no need to walk and stand someone who can crawl and lie wonderfully.
The desire to prove a person that he is wrong is a very stupid idea that generates an ocean of suffering. If you want happiness, never prove to anyone that he is wrong, everyone has the right to be mistaken as he wants. If you don't like this person's lies, stay away from them. Imagine, this man is rotten, your desire to prove him wrong is a vain desire to perform a miracle and remove the rot from an already spoiled Apple. The maximum that can be made from spoiled fruit is jam and moonshine. Cover it with sugar and cook.
The basis of the lust for power of these people is that they imagine themselves usurers and lend love. : "I give everything, I give love, I do a lot of good and therefore I owe. I should be loved, I should be thanked." This person is constantly overwhelmed by a sense of resentment and injustice, it seems to him that everyone is deceiving him.
The lack of clear borders and territories generates conflicts in the family. For family members to be happy, everyone must know their place and respect someone else's territory. Particular disrespect for boundaries shows fear and love, which must be pacified.
When a man leaves, he leaves because he thinks he is not loved. At the same time, he wants to be returned and told that they love him. At the same time, if he is not returned and not asked to return, he is offended and considers it as a betrayal.
The idol, of course, is a creature, but who is to blame for this? Who created the idol? You created an idol! You made yourself an idol, you gave him power. Power corrupts, and absolute power corrupts absolutely.
An idol is a dog that happens to bite only from the life of a dog. Idolaters are monsters. The idolater pursues the Idol, wants to deprive him of freedom, mocks him. In such difficult conditions, you want-you do not want, but you will go berserk.
Love is admiration. To love a person because he loves you is some kind of masturbation, vanity and selfishness. Moreover, such love is very vulnerable, it quickly burns out and disappears. And in general, this is not love, but addiction. An addict loves a drug, Wow, that's so cute.
A woman wants to love and admire her man. A man also wants a woman to admire him. It seems that the desires converge, it seems that these two are made for each other. What prevents a man from behaving properly and doing what a woman admires? However, something is interfering. The sin of most men is that they not only do not admire women, but also do everything possible to look disgusting and disgusting in their eyes.
Too much intimacy and obsession in a relationship creates a sense of loss of freedom or devaluation. It seems that the dominant partner takes you for granted, does not appreciate your value and uniqueness, tries to dispose of you and own you.
A person who constantly finds excuses to ignore you and does not make contact with you, perceives you as an aggressor who wants to devour him. Take pity on this man and let him go, let him live and rejoice.
There's nothing sillier than dwelling on someone you don't like and trying to please them. Imagine, you do not like honey, and you will be persuaded to eat it and convince that it is healthy and tasty. After a while, your indifference to honey will turn into fierce hatred. Let this man go, don't force him to eat you, don't try eat him. If you let go of what is unsuitable for you, you will free a holy place that is never empty. And in your life there will be the very person who needs you and who needs you.
When you think, Why doesn't this man do as much for me as he does for me? I'm for him, then stop doing it for him or do as much as you feel sorry for. Your greed and greed suggests that you have created in your mind the illusion of Super-Value and want to use your partner as a drug. You're an addict, you crave power and pleasure. The partner has nothing to do with it, the partner is more like your victim. Have compassion on the unfortunate and show him mercy, leave him alone.
Relationships in which you feel the need to respond are spoiled by your intemperance. You want too much, you manipulate, which creates rejection on the other side. You tempted your partner to catch him, but the fish ate your bait and swam away. You are furious, you feel hurt and deceived. Bad, bad fish!
An unhealthy relationship is one in which you demand too much from the other or the other demands too much. from you. These relationships are tainted by greed and resentment, lust for power and devaluation of joy.
A person who does not love himself does not know his boundaries, which is expressed in stickiness and a desire to capture other people. Self-love allows you to define your boundaries and thus gain firmness and self-worth. The lack of self-love and the blurring of one's boundaries is all an inferiority complex and its overcompensation narcissism.
Wanting love and begging is the easiest and quickest way to kill love in return. If you want to be loved, it is almost guaranteed that it will not be. Ask for love and you will lose it. Lust For Love is the mortal sin of pride and lust for love, the punishment for this sin is deprivation of love. You can hope for love, but no more that.
When an idol worshipper runs after an idol, pouring shock doses of love on it, it turns the idol into a dependent addict. Having received a shock dose of the drug, the idol sees the seventh heaven and feels this love. However, the idol worshipper can not run like this forever, at some point he gets tired or switches his attention to other things, which is why the idol begins drug withdrawal, and the relationship of these two turns into hell. Interestingly, in an idolater-idol relationship, both partners are terrible they suffer, but most of all the idol suffers. I feel very sorry for the idols, these people are very unhappy.
The idol constantly suffers that the idolater does everything badly and incorrectly. Idolaters are the subject of endless torment for the idol. It seems to the idol that he suffers and does a lot for the idolater, and he is a lazy, stupid and ungrateful creature who cannot do anything on his own, you always need to kick him, finish and redo. A dominant idol worshipper who has enslaved an idol will behave the same way.
Don't be happy, don't be happy that you've become an idol. Idolaters hate and covet power over idols. Hatred, sadism and despotism, that's what your idolater is. Idolaters crave freedom, it hurts them to be slaves. All their efforts will be directed to rise above you.
A good wife will not mock her husband by making him serve her vanity, but she will strive to support him in all his endeavors, even if they are stupid and disastrous. In the end, one learns from mistakes, besides, not everything that seems disastrous is in reality.
Men like to tell stories that women leave them when their lives are in decline on all fronts. However, you do not need to shift from a sick head to a healthy one. Greed, vanity and vices led the man to decline, he became angry, irritable, boorish, sick, depressed, greedy, always complaining and whining, selfishly focused on himself. Being next to such a person is extremely unbearable. We can't blame a woman for not being able to live with a leper.
Obsession with self – presentation is a dangerous thing, because it creates an inferiority complex. They say you need to be, not seem. Your presentation is much better than the real you. You're starting to feel ashamed of your real self. You begin to depend on your ideal image, which turns into your drug. You're like a portrait Dorian Gray, just the opposite. Your mask blooms and smells, and you really turn into a wrinkled little dwarf, forever dissatisfied with life.
Pride craves something special. Pride disdains the ordinary and commonplace, arrogantly believing that the ordinary is beneath her royal dignity. However, since there is nothing special in nature, Pride is always deceived. By the way, pride itself constantly deceives everyone, pretending to be something special.
Very friendly people, very kind and smiling, as long as everything happens as they want. However, if something went wrong, they would instantly go berserk, drop their masks, and turn into vicious ghouls and scoundrels.
Pride is when you touch too much. Pride is when you, like a cancer cell, spread too far beyond your boundaries. Control yourself. You tell the rain outside that it's bothering you. You blame the sun for being too hot. Who do you think you are? The navel of the Earth? Watch yourself, focus on your breath and navel.
And do not have to satisfy all your needs. The needs of a person are much more than he needs. The desire to satisfy their needs to the maximum will lead to over-satisfaction and satiety, with all the grave consequences. You should be content with little, so as not to get poisoned. If you eat everything at once, then very quickly poplohet.
Inflated like a balloon, self-esteem is good because it protects against stress in the here and now, but bad because when the balloon bursts, it can generate post-traumatic shock. And this is inevitable, illusions always disappear. More moreover, the longer the illusion has existed, the more immunity to reality is lost under its cover. Under the masks of illusions, people lose touch with reality, forget about it, and begin to piously believe in their illusions. On the other hand, if you use the balloon consciously, understanding the frailty of our illusions, then you can live.
Princes, kings, princesses and queens, all these characters are worth each other. It's like a jar of spiders, where everyone is constantly slurping, crunching and gnawing on each other's legs and arms. An ordinary normal person is not recommended to meddle with these insects.
Sadism is pleasure from complete possession of the body. Sadism is the product of absolute power. Thus, passively submitting to the aggressor, you turn him into a tyrant and a sadist. The apogee of the thirst for power is the desire to devour its victim.
Borders are closed to aggressors and those who do not observe rituals for crossing borders. However, the ignorant and the aggressor are usually one and the same person. At first, this person does not want to learn and observe rituals, then he enters someone else's territory and begins to command as at home and impose his alien orders.
Did your loved one leave you? Are you desperate? That's fine. If you do everything right, you will have post-traumatic growth. Such a separation is stressful, and this stress is useful. It is necessary to direct all your strength to restore your self-esteem and will. Concentrate your efforts on work, training, sports and you will jump to a higher level of development.
Seize the moment with desire. Whose desire is weak. Desire makes a man weak. He who has no desire is strong. You have shown desire, you have done something, you are told that your desire is weak and demand more. Take that little wish away and say: "If you don't like it, don't eat it." Either appreciate what is, or nothing will be.
The stronger the desire, the weaker you are. The strongest is the one who has no desires at all. Limit your desire so that you have the strength to fulfill it.
There is nothing very good in merging, because it leads to the development of specialization and the aggravation of opposite extremes. That is, merging separates and generates a brute force of extremes.
Living with a jealous person is horrible, like living in a cage. You can't breathe, you seem to be dying. It seems that he is ready to give everything for a breath of air, for a piece of Sky, for a moment of freedom. Hatred for the jailer fills my heart.
You just think about it, the reason for your depression and disappointment is that you do not owe anything. You thought you were owed something, and now you're owed nothing. Tell me, what do you feel? Deep disappointment? You're a predator who missed his prey. You're a slave owner with a runaway slave. I am very sorry for your suffering. Let's cry together.
You are very offended by close people for the fact that they love you. See what the point is, if people don't like shit, there are so many reasons. You say people are not grateful, and I will tell you that you are a boorish person who wants power, tries to control everything, always whines, spreads fear and lies, envies or brags. You will say that people who don't like you are the same, but I will say that these people are your reflection in the mirror.
Codependency is when a person appropriates the life of a second person, making it his own. In this sense, codependency is a thirst for power and pride.
Kings and queens themselves do not like to do anything and do not want to, but they like to beat on the head and tell their idolaters how they should fulfill the wishes of their most holy Majesty. What is the opposite party's interest? The idolater himself longs to become an idol, his sin is a violation of the commandment "Do not make yourself an idol."
Women's idea of waiting for the prince is very sensible. Such an idea is much more effective than running around and actively looking for that Prince by rushing at people. You are waiting for those who have shown interest in you. You analyze, like whether you like him or not. That's right. Great strategy.