If a woman realizes that her male idol is a narcissistic soulless psychopath, incapable of emotions other than the emotions of her selfish pleasure, then she will be able to get rid of dependence on him. However, a man can also get rid of dependence on a woman, realizing that she is the same as him. A man will also be disappointed in a woman after learning that she is a narcissistic monad.
After watching the series "Win Back", I noticed that even a psychologist with an education and 20 years of experience could not notice a log in his eye. It is difficult for even a professional to notice his own illusions, ideals and self-deception.
Don't ask me to always be honest. Your thirst for honesty is a thirst for power. You want to control everything and you want power over me. I crave freedom, so I will lie when I see fit.
The other person may be the icing on the cake, but not the cake. Another person may be the salt on the bread, but not the bread. The point is that another person cannot make you happy, before you have to become happy and whole on your own.
You often project your subconscious desires on other people. It seems to you that others want something from you, but these are your own desires. It's not people who want something from you, but you yourself. You want to.
Melancholy and despair come over a person. Why not? This is a particular symptom of narcissistic personality disorder, expressed in depression and thirst for love.
A timid and harmless person suppresses a scoundrel in himself. In fact, strong antisocial desires generate neurotic overcompensation in the form of shyness.
Too happy people. Everything is too good in them. All this is suspicious. It doesn't happen that way. All is well only with the dead. Everyone else is sitting up to their ears in problems.
There are professions that impose their harmful negative imprint on people. Such professions include such professions as a policeman, a doctor, an official, a teacher, an actor and a bunch of other professions. I doubt the existence of normal people at all. Who saw them? Where do they live?
The narcissist feeds on adoration. Narcissus is the perfect idol who completely goes crazy when he is adored and idolized. A narcissist is a drug addict, dependent on someone else's love. This person wants to be perfect, so that, like a vampire, he can revel in universal self-love.
The narcissist feeds on other people's emotions. The narcissist has his own emotions burned out from excessive external attention. Therefore, this person really likes it when waterfalls of emotions pour out on him or next to him. Selfish narcissism is about narcissists.
There are two types of psychopaths. One psychopath is called a narcissistic rescuer and hero. The second psychopath is a stoned idol worshipper who creates an idol out of the savior. Both psychopaths are essentially drug addicts and their relationships are appropriate. One wants to save, the other wants to be saved. All the efforts of these psychopaths are aimed at creating situations that could be a reason for a feat and salvation.
A person who simply gives you what you ask for is very dangerous, because, in essence, he is the perfect drug that breaks through your defenses and turns you into an addict.
Do not ask, because if you are unlucky and there is a person who will just give you exactly what you want, it will turn you into a drug addict, you will become a slave, and your life will turn into hell.
I won't say "Thank you" Thank you for your kindness. I am very suspicious of kindness. Kindness craves power over love. This is pride, the cause of all human suffering. Thus, kindness is the cause of all suffering.
A person is ready to accept care only from those whom he trusts. I don't want to take care of someone I don't trust. Caring is love and attention. What destroys trust? Lies, bragging, aggression, rudeness, etc.
It's hard to trust someone who is rude and humiliates you. First of all, he doesn't love you. Secondly, it is a complex and narcissism. Where there is no love and there is pride, there is no faith and hope, but full of lies. What kind of trust can we talk about here?
The meaning of visiting a psychologist is changes. A psychologist is a person whose job is to provoke change. On the other hand, the one who knows how to manage changes, knows how to prevent them. The most important part of the work of a psychologist is to prevent changes and, for example, to save a family. Often it is enough for a person to speak out, and this will save him from stupidity. Stupidity is better said than done.
In order to get rid of the narcotic attachment to the narcissist idol, the idolater must realize that this person is a psychopath, incapable of compassion, regret and pangs of conscience.
In order for a woman to be disappointed in a narcissistic man and leave him, she needs proof that he is a psychopathic narcissist incapable of real emotions, empathy, empathy, compassion, guilt and shame. A man can pretend that he has emotions, but if a woman finds out that all these emotions are the suffering of a narcissistic addict about his pleasure, she will be disappointed in a man.
Narcissism is the inability to selflessness or the cover of selflessness of one's self-interest, thirst for power and pleasure. Narcissus says: "I've done a lot for you, but what have you done for me? Where is the love for me?". That is, the narcissist devalues his own love. It's not enough for him to just love and rejoice. This person feeds on someone else's energy of love.
A woman is fascinated in a man when he exactly fulfills her wishes. At this moment, an illusory ideal image of a man who feels her is born in a woman's soul. Disappointment in a man occurs when a woman realizes that she has fallen in love with an illusion that does not exist. Her man is a standard narcissist psychopath, capable of the most minimal manifestation of emotion and doing everything solely for his own pleasure.
I was thinking that accusations of narcissism are manipulation. First of all, anyone can be accused of narcissism. All people are like narcissistic monads. Secondly, idolatry and falling in love is when an idolater hangs on another narcissist a projection of his ideal, his dream of an ideal person. When an idolater finds out that in front of him is not an ideal, but a psychopathic narcissist, he is disappointed. At the same time, the idolater himself is a psychopathic narcissist who thinks only about idols and himself.
Love addiction occurs when a person does exactly what you want them to do. You really like it, you're happy. Unfortunately, this is a disaster. Now you're a drug addict, the idol has blinded you, you're hooked like a pike. Remember my words, great suffering awaits you in the swamp of longing, fear and depression.
A narcissist is a person who has created a dazzling brilliance that hides his flaws, which in the shadow of ignorance breed like worms. That is, narcissus is a monster with a star burning in his forehead, and when you look at him, you go blind like a moth, you fly into the light without noticing the monster.
In the series "Win back" we are shown how deceptive the ideal can be. Narcissists and psychopaths can very convincingly pretend to be good people. The perfect family, the perfect people, but as soon as we dig a little deeper than the surface shine, we will find rot, vices and emptiness.
A psychopath has emotional problems. It seems that this person is not capable of feeling and compassion. The fact is that this person is shell-shocked, his sensitivity is reduced due to too much emotion. Such a person can only feel very strong emotions, and becomes addicted to them. In conditions of a lack of emotions, all the attention of a psychopath is absorbed in the search for positive emotions. In fact, this person is an addict.
I see a direct relationship between ideality and psychopathy. The perfect person is the perfect psychopath. One of the reasons is that he does not see his sins and gets an emotional concussion. This person emotionally burns out from the inside and is able to feel only very strong emotions.
It is most effective to fix your attention on works of art. Attention stops a moment. In this sense, paintings, like a stopped moment, are a wonderful trap for attention.
A person lies and pretends to be perfect because he craves power and super pleasures. After all, if another person creates an idol out of him, he will be ready to serve him and fulfill all desires.
For a narcissist, the possibility of losing external love generates neurotic despair, which can be expressed in fear, avoidance, outbursts of uncontrollable anger and hatred.
Be afraid of those who fulfill your desires, he will blind you, and you will make an idol out of him. The ideal idol is another name for the devil and the psychopath.
The important point is, why did she fall in love with him? Because it seemed like he was a better or opposite version of her dad, but in fact he was the same.