The apple of knowledge gave Man the knowledge of his own ignorance.  Upon learning of his ignorance, the man felt ashamed.  Shame gave rise to lies, fear, aggression, etc.

Basic shame breeds chronic anxiety that poisons the joy of life.  Experiencing a lack of joy and anxiety, a person begins to seek solace in vices or virtues.  Usually, in vices, shame and anxiety are greater the more a person runs away from them and lies about their absence.  A person is happy, but shame hangs over him like a wall of darkness and fear poisons life with suffering.

A person simultaneously strives for community and personal dominance.  That is, under the pretext of love and fear of loneliness, he craves power.  This creates conflicts.  A person would be much happier if he learned to restrain his thirst for power.  By the way, the thirst for community is often expressed in the thirst for pleasure.

Every phenomenon has the goal of achieving or avoiding something.  For example, another person likes to be chronically ill because he does not like work, is afraid of work, he is ashamed that there is no work, etc.

Most of it  what are called personal shortcomings are weapons against the fear of some action or resistance to external pressure.  That is, lack is the result of avoiding an action that generates fear or shame.

Fear is an expression of domination and lust for power.  We know that if fear, anxiety and cowardice prevail in the soul of a person, then this person longs for domination and fears its loss.  Fear is an expression of the possibility of loss or insufficiency of power.

Often fear and anxiety are expressions of shame and guilt for their unworthiness of power and domination.

Falling in love in contrast is the love of freedom.  The desire to control the opposite is the sublimation of the power that used to suppress the Inner, to suppress the outer.  This man has spent his whole life trying to deny and repress himself, now he is doing the same with his partner.

A woman longs to dominate her man.  If a husband leaves his wife, a woman experiences panic terror, fear of death, loss of herself, hopelessness.  In this case, it is an expression of fear of losing dominance.  A woman links her thirst for power with the idea of life.  To live is to rule.  I'm not self-sufficient.  If I can't dominate anyone, I'll die.

Most people have a very unoriginal meaning to life.  All these people strive for a thirst for power and dominance, which gives rise to jostling and significant competition between them.  To make vanity and greed your duty and the meaning of life is terrible ignorance.

Alcohol is a means to pacify the incompatible with life thirst for power.  An alcoholic is a person who wants to dominate beyond measure.  The thirst for power generates an unbearable fear of loss of power or its insufficiency.  Unable to live under the weight of fear, man seeks  escaping in fantasies of his power, escaping into the worlds of illusion of alcohol.

Man seeks to dominate.  If the idea of domination diverges from reality too much, a person falls out of reality and rushes into the worlds of fantasy and illusion.  Master of your illusions and fantasies.  How can this fantasy slave be saved?  The causes of this situation are ignorance, overkill, grandiosity, greed and impatience.  You need to be simpler.

The most important false belief of human life is that to live is to rule.  A person is convinced that the loss of power is identical with death.  Losing power, a person falls into despair waiting for the imminent end of life.  The motive of the ignorant man's life is the thirst for power and domination, as an expression of the thirst for death.  It's all a lie, you don't have to rule to live.  Pleasure is often associated with the concept of life and power, which is also ignorance.

A neurotic is a person who carries in himself the ideal of superiority.  Moreover, this ideal is burdened with ignorance and greed.  A person wants to be excellent in everything and everywhere, whereas excellence is possible here and now in its own unique and within its own boundaries.

They crave love because they understand love as the fulfillment of all their desires.  It seems to them that the one who loves them will fulfill all their desires and give them an ocean of pleasure.  The idea of tying desire, pleasure, and love into one knot can be a source of much frustration and suffering.

Why do you want love?  I crave power.  I wish that the one who loves me will instantly fulfill all my desires.  I can't fulfill my own wishes, I don't know how, and I don't want to, but I need gin wish fulfillment.  Unfortunately, wish fulfillment Genies are all crooked and dumb, so doing everything crooked and Askew gives rise to  I'm filled with anger, aggression, and chronic frustration.

To turn one's lust for power into one's duty, what could be more ignorant and sad about the consequences?

A man often sublimates his desire to dominate his mother to other women and his wife.  I did not succeed in dominating my mother, so I must rule over other women and they must give me the love I did not receive from my mother.

The nature of the male neurosis is connected with the feeling of inferiority of the child in relation to the mother.  The child for life retains an inferiority complex in front of a woman and seeks to compensate for it through possession and domination over a woman.  However, this is rarely possible, because the woman herself seeks to dominate.

Your childish desire for pleasure, warmth, security must be subdued, otherwise it will turn your life into hell, and you yourself into a drug addict.

The one who says:  "I need love", he craves power, pleasure and drugs.  The one who says:  "I want to love you", he is also an idolater and a drug addict, hungry for power and pleasure.  Love should be like a candle in the heart, do not turn it into a hungry fire.  Do not talk about love in vain, do not seek external love, do not try to love something intensely.

If for you love is a means to an end, for example, pleasure, domination or fulfillment of desires, then True Love in your life will be catastrophically small.

They are not looking for love, but for victory.  These men crave power over their mothers, so every woman for them is a desire for an act of triumphant victory.  However, he is not looking for one that he can defeat.  The one he wins, he will throw.  He couldn't beat his mother, and he needed a woman he couldn't beat.  In doing so, she will give him Limited love and not allow him to dominate. 

Illness is a common cause of self-justification of one's ambition.  Man craves power.  More  and he considers power his duty.  When duty asks a person, they say, Where Were you when the world was divided, the person answers:  "I was sick" ... in this sense, illness is a tool for quelling one's thirst for power, that is, good.  Now you can not rule, and this is good.

This person feeds self-confidence with his thirst for power, victories, domination and fulfillment of desires.  This is a dangerous path.  Find a scythe on the stone and all the end, depression, snot, nervous breakdown.  It is more effective to build your confidence in the development of inner perfection, resilience, ability to move and protect borders.

You suffer because you run from your shame.  Stop running from shame.  Stop fighting the shame.  Stop deceiving your shame.  Love your enemy and you will find happiness.  Shame is one of the names of God.  Shameless is an atheist, for which he suffers, for  God Is Love and joy.

The child craves power.  Idealizing a child is dangerous.  The angel inside looks like a demon.

The personality of the neurotic is usually generated by some kind of failure in the past, which gave rise to post-traumatic shock.  Unable to accept and forgive this failure, blinded by a sense of shame, a person tries to either compensate for it with ridiculous or risky victories, or runs away.  from reality to alcohol, drugs, fantasy or other addictions.

Defeats,   failures   and   mistakes   of   the   past   require   humility   and   forgiveness,   otherwise   they   give   rise   to   avoidant   personality   disorder,   procrastination,   antisocial   disorders,   alcoholism   and   other   hemorrhoids.   The   idea   of   compensation   is   especially   dangerous,   because   the   harm   of   sin   is   exaggerated   by   lies,   and   compensation   becomes   unrealistic.   For   example,   Adam   ate   the   apple   of   knowledge,   but   he   was   expelled   from   paradise   for   inadequacy   and   lies.

The most important cause of parasitism, procrastination, alcoholism, passivity is a mistake of the past that a person cannot forgive himself.  Not resigned  with an old mistake, a person is afraid to make new ones, which stops his activity in the real world and throws him into the fantasy world.

Adler writes about weak men who acquire feminine traits, such as the need for support and affection, fearfulness, fear of loneliness, indecision, timidity, fear of the unknown, excessive sensitivity to pain, primness, fear of punishment and consequences of any act.  I believe that it is incorrect to call these character traits specifically female, they are traits of weakness and ignorance.  When a woman is strong, courageous, and intelligent, she doesn't have these traits.  When a man is weak, stupid and ignorant, he manifests the above character.

Weak people are characterized by hypersensitivity and touchiness.  On the other hand, they are driven mad by a thirst for superiority and compensation for their grievances and weaknesses.

The infinity of desires gives rise to masochism, that is, the idea of absolute submission in order to deserve what is desired.

There is no male and female, there is strong and weak, there is knowledge and ignorance, there is cowardice and courage, but there is no female and male.

Looking at extremes for a long time, I realized that there are no extremes.  I saw two identical entities making an agreement between themselves – which one of them  who, in order to achieve specialization.  Separation is voluntary, arbitrary and social.  The important thing is that it can be changed at any time.

The fundamental motive of the neurotic, the narcissist, and the proud man is the desire for power over his neighbor, in order to compel his neighbor to protect him from fear.  The absence of fear is joyful.  Therefore, we can talk about drug addiction and the desire to make your neighbor your source of pleasure.

The neurotic craves power and therefore denies everything.  Neurotic  denies any coercion in his address, seeks to do the opposite, is prone to deception and hypocrisy.  The nature of the neurotic is weakness.  In this sense, the neurotic is an imperfect light that says no.

The neurotic is simultaneous.  External  he reacts through denial, denying everything and trying to do the opposite.  However, outside of himself, he acts in the same way as he was influenced.  That is, a neurotic is a kind of translator, he is pressured, he resists, and transmits this pressure further. 

Overestimating the harm of a mistake gives rise to the idea of unrealistic overcompensation, which leads to despondency and procrastination.  Ashamed that a mistake cannot be corrected or compensated for, a person escapes into slavery to alcoholism and other vices or, even worse, tries to realize antisocial or utopian ideas.  In very rare cases, utopian ideas are useful.  To save the situation, you need to abandon the idea of overcompensation and forgive yourself all sins.  Compensate as best you can, but no more.

Ideas sexual desire  Freud and Adler's lust for power correlate.  Sex is a lust for power.  Through sex, a person seeks power over pleasure, and also wants to become a forest from a seed.  Man craves power in order to multiply as much as possible, to have as much fun, as much security, and to gain immortality through the essence of the forest.  The seed and the tree are mortal, and the forest is immortal.

The more a parent brags to their children, the greater the inferiority complex.  The complex makes children deny their parents and do the opposite  from their example.  The desire for parental overcontrol produces the same neurotic effect.

The essence of the compensatory theory of power is that a person, himself resisting external power, tries to do the opposite.  At the same time, he himself translates this thirst for power further, trying to dominate others.  They had power over me, so I have to rule over others.  The idea of broadcasting power becomes a sense of Duty.  Such people turn vanity, greed, and lust for power into their duty, and are very ashamed that they cannot fulfill it.

A person with an inferiority complex seeks to compensate for this complex through the desire for power over other people and Vanity.  This lust for power is often expressed in Lust For Love, narcissism, aggression, or, conversely, slavish submission to earn love.

Compensating for your inferiority complex with a thirst for power over the outside world, that is, things, vanity and love is a very controversial idea.  Has  the point is to pay attention to inner integrity and perfection.  Has  the point is to reduce the degree of all your sins tenfold, otherwise you risk becoming an alcoholic.  Alcoholics are high-status people, prone to overkill in everything.

The neurotic succumbs to compulsion, for he is a coward, but he always tries to deceive.  The cause of neuroticism and deceit is weakness and the need to submit to external control.  To save the child, in this situation you need to give him a space where he can feel his strength.  For example, it can be sports, favorite academic disciplines, personal decision-making and the realization of their desires.  Places like computer games and fantasy worlds should be treated with suspicion.  The child will strive to realize himself in the place where he is strong.  The Force strives for self-realization.

The neurotic cannot bear anything that compels him, interferes with his sense of power, or allows him to feel his sense of inferiority.  That is, a person is afraid and ashamed of his inferiority complex, and runs around  from him.

To get along with the neurotic, you need, on the one hand, to stop trying to dominate him, on the other, firmly not to let him dominate you.  That is, you need to say:  "I will take from you only what you give me, and you from me only what I give you."  All this will be absolutely voluntary or on a contractual basis.  Aggression, manipulation, resentment, shame must be pacified.

The attempt to compel the neurotic exposes in him an inferiority complex, which he cannot bear.  The neurotic either attacks in response to such pain or runs away, trying to compensate for his inferiority complex in other areas where he is strong or in the worlds of fantasy, alcoholism and parasitism.

Neuroticism is an intolerance of coercion, while neurotics themselves crave power.  The neurotic does not want to obey, but he loves to dominate.  The problem is that most people are neurotic and no one is willing to obey.  Moreover, the neurotic considers insubordination to himself as an insult, disrespect, insult and not love for himself.  Love for the neurotic is the highest value.  The neurotic craves love and hates those who, in his opinion, deny him love.  It seems to the neurotic that the one who does not obey Him forces him to bend and dominates him.  The neurotic's thirst for power and dominance is associated with a sense of Duty.  Alone, the neurotic feels more or less well, but in the family almost always suffers.

Loneliness is a form of power seeking.  In solitude, no one controls you, you do not need to endure any restrictions.  The more money a person earns, the higher he builds fences and the farther he runs  from reality.