Resentment and self-pity provoke pride in a person. Feeling injustice in their address, people begin to build their self-esteem, feel like a hero, fighting with the whole world. Having fallen into dependence on self-pity and heroic joy, a person begins to subconsciously provoke insults and trouble in his address.
If you are cold and disrespectful to a proud man, you will greatly offend him. From resentment, a weak and proud person will avoid you. The strong will attack. The strongest will remain polite and persistent.
It is desirable to respond to insults and insults in silence, however, you should take offense and not forgive the offender until he atones for his guilt. Snapping, making excuses, or, even more so, admitting their guilt is impractical.
The manipulator insults and provokes people by demanding their love. Love me-requires a manipulator, obey me, do what I tell you, and I will not hit you very hard… I will be kind to you if you love me. The problem is that the proud always lack love. A bottomless hunger for power, pleasure, and love overwhelms the souls of these people.
Punctuality and accuracy is respect for time and the boundaries of things. All forms (processes) the material world is limited by time. When one process gets on top of another process - this is disrespect, aggression, rudeness... on the other hand, the less, the more, so the process that makes a bust, kills itself.
If a young man tries to get in touch with a girl who dislikes him and if she's generally not in the right mood, it makes her let him know she's not into it. And usually a girl turns rough as she does her best to show a guy she's not interested in him.
Many people say that being rough or aggressive like that is wrong. And that a self-respecting smart girl shouldn't act like that. But the question is why not? As time is money and a man is a creature who can take even any slightest ambiguity as a great chance and may start getting fresh without understanding any hints. That's why if you dislike someone it makes sense to quickly show this person to search for other variants. Such a quick reaction will save a lot of time and efforts.
Again, men are not evil-hearted and if you need a man's help some day, it's always ok to come up and explain you didn't notice his inner advantages at first sight. And this man will have to help…
It's better to be sarcastic and not rude. Lambent humor lets one express what one really wants without a conflict. Let opponents or enemies be themselves. Thus you give them an opportunity to give up. But being rude and assaulting their honor you leave them no other choice but to attack you.
Indeed, pity is just a sophisticated form of humiliation.
- Some people demand pity for themselves.
We don't like people who demand something. Even the fact of demanding makes them unpleasant to us.
Well brought up people ask politely and then thank politely if they get what they asked. And if they don't get what they asked for, they don't put themselves into victim role in order to make others feel guilty.
Normal people need respect but pity or handouts offend and humiliate these people.
But there is one exception: it happens when «We don't demand what belongs to others. We demand what's ours».
Being late is disrespect, being late is an insult, being late is ineptitude, being lie is defiance, it can even be a trick. And only sometimes, vert rarely it's force-majeur and
P.s. being late is traffic. Being late is a messed up schedule and delaying of past meetings. Ah, i forgot. Aaah, and i remembered, being late without warning is a mess, while being late with a polite warning is a little thing of life.
Idealists and neurotics always lie because it's hard for them not to lie. There is no humility in these people and they are very angry with the truth, taking everything they disagree with as a personal insult and insult.
The giver of too much will receive too little. He who takes too much will give too little.
Parents who give their children too much corrupt them. In this sweet syrup, weeds and vices grow very well. Selfishness, malice, rudeness, stupidity and powerlessness... This is only an incomplete list of vices nurtured by blind immeasurable love.
People full of self-pity like to feel sorry for others. Other people's sufferings console these people, and the opportunity to help and pity those who are worse, will fill the soul with joyous peace. These people will love you while you're sick, but if you get better, they'll take it as a personal insult.
If you want to fire a person, no need to reinvent the wheel, just talk to a person in an open and honest way, explain him the way things are. The key is not to offend and insult a person, главное тут – the key point here-is job and emotions will be superfluous.