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The art of love and friendship.


How to become a person who everyone wants to be friends with. The more friends you have, the stronger you are. The more they love you, the stronger you are. It's difficult to live without friends. A person lives in a socium and people around can influence this person's living standards. The book reveals laws and principles of relationships between people. How to become a person who they would like to help. How to make friends. How to be worthy of friendship. Why they like some people and dislike others.

 


   

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Foreword


3.10.     AR AR

We   are   different   because   we   are   the   same.

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5.11.     AR AR

In  conversation,  hold  your  breath  more  often.  Your  interlocutor  uses  this  pretext  to  make  you  a  listener,  which  is  good.  The  more  you  listen  and  the  less  you  speak,  the  more  intelligent  and  smart  in  all  respects  you  seem  to  others. 

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536.     AR AR

A  sense  of  delicacy  is  the  ability  to  keep  silent,  when  one  craves  to  say  what's  on  the  mind. 

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7.19. A community of normal people.     AR AR

There   are   no   normal   people.   All   people   are   abnormal,   but   they   all   want   to   be   normal.   Lies   are   what   makes   an   abnormal   person   normal.   Lies   are   a   mask   and   an   element   of   socialization   that   allows   people   to   live   in   society,   pretending   they   are   normal.

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7.24.     AR AR

If a person does not want you to like, apparently, he does not see any benefit in this, apparently, you could not show him that you can be useful for him.

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8.22.     AR AR

Be  yourself.  When  you  pretend  to  be  someone  else,  you  seem  insincere. 

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8.74.     AR AR

The  world  falls  for  amazing  people.  Amaze. 

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1541.     AR AR

While  being  in  a  relationship  learn  to  make  pauses.  Give  people  time  to  take  a  rest  from  you  to  miss  each  other.  Intruding  yourself  or  making  your  presence  felt,  you  may  distract,  annoy  or  simply  bore  each  other.  There  should  be  moderation  and  balance  in  everything. 

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1547.   AR AR

A  person  gets  very  nervous  and  upset  when  they  don’t  trust  him.  Mistrust  can  be  compared  to  an  offence,  to  an  insult  .

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10.6935.     AR AR

Honesty breeds faith, which means love.  Love is what creates truth and puts barriers against lies.  That is, if you need beauty and inspiration, be honest and open.  Tightness and lies are not capable of beauty and truth..

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10.6926.     AR AR

When you love and admire a person, you learn good things from them.  When you are afraid or envious of him, you learn bad things from him.  From the first you grow and rejoice, from the second you degrade and suffer.

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10.6789.     AR AR

Love is not from the words "Have and rule", but from the words "Look and admire".  The energy of admiration overwhelms you, and you begin to grow.

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10.6794.     AR AR

Love is the ability to be surprised.  If you want to be loved, surprise them.

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10.6862. A great and good man.     AR AR

Courageous people are by definition friendly, open, and curious. Love is curious and open to everything new.

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10.6870.     AR AR

By admiring people, you will stop being afraid of them.

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5.3293.     AR AR

When   thinking   about   others,   be   loyal   to   their   interests.   When   thinking   about   yourself,   be   loyal   to   your   interests.

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5.3709.     AR AR

There is only one way to make a person listen to himself – is to start telling him what he wants... When a person sees that you are he, you can start telling him what you think, and then the person will think that he thinks so.

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5.4949.     AR AR

The  right  way  to  talk  is  as  follows:  somebody  talks,  you  listen  to  him,  he  goes  silent,  you  think  and  then  talk.  It  is  wrong  to  think  while  someone  is  talking.  Thinking  while  someone  is  talking  is  like  interrupting  him.  Thinking  when  someone  is  talking  means  you  lack  respect  for  and  don’t  listen  to  him.

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5.5503.     AR AR

If you love another person, you should love what he loves. You should learn what is important to this person and try to help and support these things. The unity of love is the Foundation of love. 

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6.1472.     AR AR

The vices of friends cast a shadow over you. Therefore, first, think with whom you are friends, and secondly, do not spoil the honest name of your friends with your vices.

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6.3445. We're all sitting in the egg of our fears.     AR AR

The meaning of the phrase that do to others as you wish to be done to you is that everyone wants and fears the same thing. Therefore, the thoughts and fears that are in your head, there are others.

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6.3446.     AR AR

Three meet in a room and all three think the same thing: "What will the other two think of me?»

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6.3447.     AR AR

You need not fear men, for it is foolish to fear those who fear you.

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6.3448.     AR AR

Smile and joy-a signal, " Do not be afraid of me, I'm mine, I'm friendly."

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953. [In brevi]     AR AR

If  you  find  a  person  precious,  keep  away  from  suspecting  this  person  of  lies  and  betrayal... 
The  fact  this  person  can  betray  you  doesn't  change  the  fact  you  need  this  person. 

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945.     AR AR

If  you  find  someone  really  precious  and  don't  want  to  lose  this  person,  then  avoid  criticizing  him  or  her. 

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8.83.     AR AR

A  smart  aleck  is  an  arrogant  boaster.  Be  more  unpretentious. 

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8.78.     AR AR

If  you  ask,  give  at  once. 

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7.30.     AR AR

A great way to get out of an unnecessary dispute is to say "Yes, of course.  Yes, of course you're right."  The main thing is not to prove anything, do not justify and do not justify anything.  Shake your head thoughtfully, but in your heart, ignore all this nonsense.

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7.22.     AR AR

Non-contractual expectations - nonsense, it is necessary to expect only about what agreed.

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7.13. Pride.     AR AR

You want to be loved, of course, for no reason.  You want to be served for nothing and you don't want to pay for it.  Such a desire is pride, that is, sin.  If you want love, you must pay those who serve you.

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6.88. Try not to speak more than hear.     AR AR

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6.53. On a personal note.     AR AR

Ask people for a personal favor.  Say that if you fail, you will be punished.  That is, if a person does not help you, you will be punished, and if he does, he will save you.  People are pleased to know that someone owes them now.

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5.12. A vehement listener.     AR AR

The  most  important  thing  in  communication  is  to  learn  to  listen  attentively.  Don’t  get  distracted,  don’t  idly  observe  flies  while  reflecting  upon  the  nature  of  eternity,  but  listen  with  great  and  vehement  interest,  soaking  in  every  word  and  gesture  of  your  interlocutor.

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182.     AR AR

The  main  secret  of  successful  relationships  is  in  the  ability  to  forgive  and  seek  forgiveness. 

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3.4.     AR AR

We   are   said   to   be   brothers   –   that’s   a   lie.   The   truth   is   we   are   all   united.   We   are   one   and   that’s   why   none   of   us   is   older   or   younger,   even   or   uneven,   better   or   worse.

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4.538.     AR AR

A good friend is a teacher who doesn't teach, but you look at him and you learn.

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4.284. Mjolnir, Thor's hammer.     AR AR

The meaning of universal morality is that birds of the same plumage stick together. You can create your own moral principles, but then you risk being left alone, which will weaken you.

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4266.     AR AR

Having  put  tongue  out  with  pleasure,  some  man  was  so  proudly  boastful  that  some  sensitive  people  even  believed  him. 

The  only  one  joy  left  in  that  person's  life  is  lying  and  being  boastful. 
So  let  that  person  feel  some  joy!  Pretend  you  believe  him. 

The  easiest  way  to  bring  a  person  joy  is  to  pretend  that  you  believe  the  lies  and  boasting  this  person  tells. 

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4145.     AR AR

It's  better  to  keep  silent  with  those  superior  in  rank  until  they  give  the  floor.  And  when  they  give,  it's  necessary  to  say  something  right  and  not  keep  silent  like  a  fool. 

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4143. It's not a matter of their lies but a matter of why they lie.     AR AR

Lies  are  fun... 
Lying  is  a  source  of  wonder...  a  source  of  vanity. 
A  source  of  safety  and  calmness. 

They  want  to  seem  to  be  of  more  value  and  use. 

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2930.   AR AR

Obsessive desire to say too much leads to the need to listen to unpleasant.

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2874. A matter of price.     AR AR

There's  not  a  single  person  who  would  like  to  be  used  by  others  for  free. 

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2868. A smiling face.     AR AR

I'm  not  fond  of  people  who  smile  too  much.  You  may  never  know  what  exactly  they  hide  behind  their  smiles.  A  sincere  person  smiles  at  those  who  he  or  she  is  glad  to  see  while  someone  insincere  may  smile  at  everyone  and  you  never  know  what  this  person  really  thinks  about. 

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2863. Be kind to the decent.     AR AR

Soft  kindness  is  not  kindness  but  weakness  that  is  scared  of  everything  and  hence,  smiles  at  everything. 

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2862. Sometimes it's important.     AR AR

Any  kind  person  is  angry  at  something  and  any  angry  person  is  kind  at  something. 

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2815.     AR AR

It's  only  something  clear  that  should  be  said.  And  it's  better  to  keep  silent  about  something  unclear. 

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2725.     AR AR

It's  common  to  mean  what  you  say  in  the  circle  of  decent  respectable  people. 

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2636. The secret of love.     AR AR

Don't  cause  people  new  problems  as  it's  better  to  help  them  with  solving  the  already  existing  ones.  It  will  make  them  happier  and  they  will  share  this  happiness  with  you. 

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2517. Gratitude to enemies.     AR AR

I'm  grateful  to  my  enemies  and  offenders  as  they  made  me  so  strong  that  now  even  my  own  fears  run  away  from  me  in  fear. 

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2492.     AR AR

It's  not  nice  to  say  no  to  good  people. 

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2177. Love for the "Beast"     AR AR

Surely  you  also  have  to  love  the  "Beast"  of  the  one  you  love. 

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2021.     AR AR

Calmness  and  placidity  are  signs  of  noble  nature. 
Vile  people  are  carnal  minded. 

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2016.     AR AR

I  met  a  person  and  that  person  was  much  more  virtuous  than  me  and  I  looked  so  low  next  to  him.  I  notice  it  and  felt  ashamed.  So  I  took  the  best  from  that  person  to  become  better  myself. 

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1976.     AR AR

To  know  when  enough  is  enough  is  like  to  to  know  how  to  use  spices.  There  is  a  fine  line  between  not  salting  enough  and  oversalting. 

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1978. Let's get over insults.     AR AR

Remember  that  everything  has  its  time  period.  Insults  resemble  debts.  And  if  debts  have  been  long  stale,  it's  necessary  to  forget  and  forgive  them. 

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1544.     AR AR

Everyone  lies...  People  lie  a  lot  especially  about  themselves  and  their  relatives  or  fellows.  Lie  to  seem  better  than  they  really  are.  Lie  to  avoid  pauses  in  the  conversation.  Lie  just  for  fun... 
That's  why  if  they  tell  you  something  and  it  evokes  some  deep  emotions  or  wonder  in  you,  take  it  easy  as  there's  a  big  probability  it's  a  lie. 

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1538.   AR AR

Be sincere. Falsehood makes a person unreal, artificial, turns him into a plastic doll, which is unpleasant to deal with.

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9.93.     AR AR

Don't say what you think, just don't. Say three times less or keep quiet.

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The beginning of the book


3.5. We are united.     AR AR

The   main   point   of   Syntalism   is   that   we   are   united.   We   are   the   same   in   a   good   way.   I   am   you,   you   are   I,   and   that’s   why   we   should   treat   one   another   as   we   would   treat   ourselves   without   trying   to   suppress   ourselves.   The   desire   to   dominate   ourselves   is   arrogance.

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3.9.     AR AR

The same words cause completely different reactions in different people.  However, the smarter people are, the more unified the reaction is, because smart people look at the essence of things, not their form.

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4.7. Arrogance’s vicious circle.     AR AR

A   person’s   disrespect   for   another   person   is   the   absence   of   love   for   a   close   one.   These   people   are   infected   with   arrogance   and   despise   each   other.   They   have   what   to   despise   one   another   for   –   the   sin   of   arrogance   deserves   despise.

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5.5.     AR AR

Half   of   a   person’s   success   in   life   depends   on   his   communication   skills.   Loneliness   is   always   the   result   of   the   inner   rather   than   of   the   external.   Any   person   would   be   glad   to   communicate   but   he   is   so   afraid…   so   afraid…

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5.7. I’m a fool…     AR AR

Nothing  spoils  a  person  more  than  his  infinite  desire  to  criticize  or  to  give  valuable  advice…  The  two  common  cents  you  contribute  to  the  conversation  are  like  flies  in  a  soup.  Nobody  likes  flies,  so  remember  that  your  criticism,  moaning  and  valuable  advice  are  as  if  you  kept  saying  “I’m  a  fool,  I’m  a  fool,  I’m  a  fool”…

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5.9.     AR AR

The safest type of conversation is when you listen to the interlocutor, understand, empathize with him and clearly articulate their own problems.

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7.7. A proud sufferer.     AR AR

Ask,  and  it  shall  be  given  you,  but  many  people  do  not  want  to  ask  out  of  arrogance.  “We  don’t  want  to  ask  anything,”  they  say.  “We  want  that  it  be  given  to  us  just  like  that.  If  we  ask,  we  will  be  in  debt.”  Arrogance  turns  them  into  sinners  and  makes  them  suffer.

Ask,  and  it  shall  be  given  you,  but  many  people  do  not  want  to  ask  out  of  arrogance.  “We  don’t  want  to  ask  anything,”  they  say.  “We  want  that  it  be  given  to  us  just  like  that.  If  we  ask,  we  will  be  in  debt.”  Arrogance  turns  them  into  sinners  and  makes  them  suffer.

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8.3.     AR AR

The  main  weapon  of  a  woman  in  a  relationship  with  a  man  is  her  ability  to  reiterate  her  requests  again  and  again  until  she  gets  his  positive  response.

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90.   AR AR

We are all full of flaws, but
I forgive you, my friend...
I'm sentimental...
You didn't bring into my life
wit, not contributed
good mood,
not even a nice attitude.
a follower....
But all OK…
Over the years you've become
part of that landscape, 
which I don't want to change.

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94.     AR AR

A  woman  will  be  very  grateful  for  everything  you 
do  for  her... 
But  once  you  refuse  to  do  something  for  her... 
the  first  thousand  grateful  moments  will  soon  be  forgotten. 

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97.     AR AR

The  desire  to  take  without  giving  anything  back 
is  often  disguised  by 
the  desire  to  give  what  they  don't  ask  for... 
      …  and  then  angrily  demand  what  they  don't  give 
back  in  response... 

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104.     AR AR

The  traitors  burn  in  the  ninth  circle  of  Hell 
giving  off  strong  and  succulent  smell... 
since  there's  no  worse  sin  than  treachery... 
and  no  worse  sinners  than  traitors... 

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123.   AR AR

Many people naively believe,
that makes others a lot
feelings and emotions.  And that others
nothing to do but talk about them
something to think about.  The truth 
it is concluded that 99.9% 
people passing by we 
perceive as shadows,
with hard remembering their contours.
To remember the name of it is a feat...
Ordinary remembrance of man
looks like a blurry outline.,
which is something it once 
of us want...

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167.     AR AR

Everything  demands  the  sense  of  proportion,  even  the  sense  of  proportion... 

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3.13.     AR AR

When your only friends are things, it's very sad.

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3.21.     AR AR

People are mostly divided into those who have love and those who have no love.  Those who have no love are always anxious to exchange it for something from those who have love.

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3.32. A miracle of love.     AR AR

A   miracle   is   love.   Love   is   fusion   and   synergy.   Love   is   more   than   addition   and   subtraction.   Love   is   always   1   and   0   transforming   into   10.

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3.41. Dog idealism.     AR AR

I noticed that after your friend was a dog, to be friends with people do not really want to. 

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3.79.     AR AR

Those who fight and argue with me love me more than anything, because to fight something, you need to know.  My enemies know me even better than my friends.  Knowledge is love.  My enemies have dedicated their lives to fighting me, I am so glad of their attention.  I know that even if my friends leave me, my enemies will always be loyal to me.

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4.16. Leave the Hippo alone.     AR AR

It's not an easy job dragging a Hippo out of the swamp...  Hippo resists and does not want to leave his warm and cozy home.

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