Pride is the inability to admire. The proud man lies that he is clever, says that he has nothing to admire. The proud man is blind, he has forgotten how beautiful a grain of sand and a drop of dew are… The proud man is blind, and does not see the beauty of obvious and simple things. A proud man is an idolater who burned his eyes while praying in the sun.
To love a person is to admire them and be happy that they exist. Dependence on his attention and love is drug addiction, obsession with their own pleasure and inability to extract this pleasure from other sources.
They are looking for love, but they can't find it, ... but because they are not looking there. Love is a human soul, love should be inside, not outside. Love is a person's own ability to recognize and understand reality, to see beauty and to admire banal and obvious things.
In fact, it doesn't matter who you admire or who you find love in. Everything is perfect. You can draw inspiration from seeing kings and heroes, or you can see ordinary people or children. Moreover, the grain has much more potential energy than an adult tree.
When you let go of ideals and forms, you will feel like a stream of energy that cannot be stopped. The possibility of stopping creates fear. The realization of the impossibility of stopping and the infinite variety of options, generates infinite joy and delight.
There are two ways, the first is "we wanted the best, but it turned out as always". This is the way of pride, and the result of breaking the commandment "do not judge". Everything is bad, let's make it better. The other way is when we are enraptured by hope and smoothly evolve towards it by performing an act of faith.
To understand the truth can only one who loves it, otherwise it will seem banal and not interesting. So I tell you that God is love, and I am filled with divine delight, and you look at me like a RAM on a new gate, and you think that the RAM is me...
The following ways can be used to create a comfortable psychological background: support by agreement, support by approval, flattery and admiration, approving gestures, sharing common interests and ideas.
The concept of a bored God lies in the idea that the world was created by God who felt bored. The goal of this world's existence is in giving his boredom the brush-off. We, people should create something to make him wonder and heat his imagination. He's in acute need of novelty and perfection, beauty and astonishment…
Hence, the most of wealth in the world will go to those people who are the best at giving the Supreme Being's boredom the brush-off or at delighting his well-seen eye with beauty and perfection.
Even wars and destructive actions are accepted by this God (but without any fanaticism), as they bring diversity to his boring existence and clear the space for the new. This God is also into humor and jokes. He likes to make fun of people and people to make fun of each other. He's the main joker. Every good joke makes him laugh and feel nice. He likes human passions. Passions are his special forte. Life's an endless soap opera full of feelings and emotions. Perhaps our God is not even alone. What if he's got friends whom he invites to show what happens to us here on earth.
A woman wants and admires a strong smart man. Her instincts simply scream out: I need his power and wits, …. I will be both strong and smart with him... No person will ever offend me or laugh at me. Now everyone will admire me and be scared of me. And my children... my wonderful children will derive only the best from both of us...
There is one more demand: he should be kind with her. Firstly, because we're kind with those we love and secondly, we remember that demons cause pain while noble people are kind.
Marriage is a house built on chemistry, mutual respect, admiration, friendship and common goals. And now imagine that your house lacks something, for instance, bricks or cement, or windows. A house should be full and harmonious. A half built or badly built house is nothing but the embodiment of a breakup.
A person who wants to make money by creating works of art is a fool. Besides, this person is doomed to be poor as art doesn't like hagglers. Art is like a woman: you should admire it for its beauty. You should be excited even by being close to it. But try to imagine what will happen if a woman finds out you're with her only for money.
On the other hand, there are kept men and pretenders who are professionals and their love is a hard job.
A man looks for a better and more perfect version of his own self in a woman. And the more perfect than him a woman is, the more admiration she gets from him.
A woman, on the contrary, looks for someone rather different from herself. It's novelty and power that she appreciates in a man. The more unique a man is the more admiration this woman will get from him. Besides, if a man of this kind has power (intellective power or power of money), then his woman will want him more than anything else in the world.
Love is greatly connected with giving birth. If a couple already has children and they don't plan to have more, then epic love will no longer exist. And their marriage will last with the help of being mutually useful.
There's also love for perfection. Beauty and perfection make people admire them. But it's another kind of love.
He was married, she wasn't. He courted her passionately. She likes it. Then he performs a feat for the sake of love and leaves his wife. He wants awards, he wants her admiration, but she did used to admire her and are very unhappy with the weakening of passion, he is also dissatisfied with the lack of rewards. The end.
It's important to visit a family psychologist long before a relationship starts to break up. Boredom, mutual misunderstanding, indifference, inability to compromise, absence of reasons to admire each other and mutual distrust - all of these factors are the first signs of a relationship that goes wrong.
Narcissism and self-confidence says that the soul of this man loves and admires him. The souls of other people are interested in this situation, they also crave to love perfection. If a person believes in himself, loves himself, hopes for himself... not knowing doubt and fear, then and other people will to him treated also.