The pain is inside the person. Internal pain generates immunity to pain. If the pain is repressed, then the immune system is lost and paranoia is generated. If the Pain is pushed and denied, paranoid schizophrenia and hallucinations develop. Pain should not be denied or repressed, but should be known, humbled, and sublimated into useful activity.
Fear cannot be repressed or repressed within oneself. Repressed fear breeds schizophrenia, and repressed fear is neurosis and psychosis. Fear must be put up with, fear must be respected and considered a friend.
The displacement of the fear itself leads to the fact that along with it goes the hope, faith and love. In the absence of hope for yourself, you have to rely on other people. All this is sublimated into a thirst for power. In the absence of self-love, joy goes away, but pain and thirst come pleasure. In the absence of self-belief, the ability to move goes away, but laziness and procrastination come.
If you replace fear, you will also replace shame. Now that the shame is outside of you, you are very dependent on other people's opinions and are bound by a sense of guilt. You should be ashamed not outwardly,but inwardly. Self-shame is called a sense of conscience. Conscience is restraint from the inside, and guilt is restraint from the outside.
When you push out hope and direct it at another person, you are left without a driving force. To keep yourself motivated and save yourself from agonizing expectations and procrastination, let go of your hope and forget about it. Imagine what you would do if there was no hope at all.
It's useless to blame other people in your problems. Blaming yourself is useful because this way it's possible to control personal actions and navigate the little ship gliding on the river of life which is full of...islands shoals ...icebergs ...sawyers …rocks ...pirates ...robbers ...carnivorous beings ...giant whales.
In a word, you're the captain and you should navigate. You are the master who should decide who will be in your crew, where to go and how to handle problems and troubles.
Suffering is a moral work, the purpose of which is to create joy within oneself. A squirrel trapped in a wheel is always running for joy, which is somewhere out there, outside of it. When the squirrel sees, he realizes that the joy is inside, not outside and it will save her from suffering.
Not loving yourself – means to carry his love beyond himself to his ideal and to get the energy from the conformity of reality to the ideal. When a person has transferred his love outside, it is as if he is already gone, he does not believe in himself. The fear of death overwhelms him.
Thou shall not judge, that thou shall not be judged. An increased desire to control what is outside of you is called the lust for power and the mortal sin of pride. Pride is the source of fear, suffering and anger. Pride is an attempt to control and worry about the nature of things outside of you. - Past, future, present outside you, other people and natural phenomena.
One should look for the reasons for success in external reasons, and the reasons for failure in internal ones. This will allow to develop expansion outside in search of income, and inside to maintain the highest level of combat readiness and military industry.
A squirrel in a wheel is a man focused on problems outside himself. He is exhausted and tries to do something, forgetting that it is impossible. The squirrel in the wheel constantly complains that its efforts are fruitless and releases negative energy which the wheel collects.
You have all you need to reach perfection. Avoid temptations and you will have enough energy and time to reach inner and external perfection. ALL you need is food, water, access to the information, sport, some clothes, a roof over your head. All this costs very little.
The cause of most human problems are excessive demands imposed on other people and the world as a whole. To avoid sufferings, it would make sense for a person to have a realistic look at things and to reject 90% of his grand demands or to redirect them onto himself. Demand from yourself what you want from others, indeed, and leave others alone.
It is useful to contain anger, it will cause guilt and allow you to start looking for solutions to your problems inside yourself, where they are easy to fix, and not in the outside world, where everything is not so simple.
To avoid changes, a person prefers to be angry and shout, preferring to look for the problem outside of himself. If you swallow the anger, it will result in guilt and then you have to look for the problem within yourself and change. Many people, especially fools, are extremely subject to change, because they consider themselves to be constants.
Blaming yourself for your own misfortunes is much safer than blaming others. Others can not be corrected, but you can quickly repent and correct yourself, which will give a great chance in the future to avoid mistakes.
This is a problem when a person begins to blame other people for their misfortunes. You can control yourself, but other people are problematic. As a result, loss of control, passive attitude, fear, anxiety, anger... in fact, this is pride and a direct ticket to hell.
Taking offense and blaming other people for your problems is an extremely dangerous idea that generates suspiciousness and stress. You lose control of the situation. Your habitual confidence leaves you, your strength leaves you... but pain and illness come.