You shouldn’t blindly trust a kind man. A kind man often plays in a duet with an evil one, the evil man attacks and the kind man rescues. The goal of this game is to cause the feeling of gratitude and trust in the victim in order to use it for their own benefit. It’s hard to play against a kind savior because of bad consciousness and shame.
How is this different from the situation when the squirrel runs from the whip to the carrot? It's still carrot and stick slavery, bad COP and good COP. To hell with the bad COP, let's pray for the good one. The classic motivational scheme. The Director is kind and fair, and his Deputy is a scoundrel and a despot. Of course, the people love the good king and hate his bad servants.
The chief of staff must be spiteful, so that the battalion commander is kind against his background. The "bad COP and good COP" scenario. The good king and the evil Ministers. The scheme is very mass and effective.
A good king rules with the help of bad servants. The people hate the king's servants and run to complain to the king. The king is kind, the king will listen to everyone and help. The king rules by love, and everyone loves the king.
The essence of management is to simultaneously approach and repel. Simultaneously caress and criticize, to give and sweet to hurt. You can't just give sweets, you can't just beat them. If you can't be a demon and an angel at the same time, take a bad COP as a Deputy and let him beat you, and you'll be a good little hypocritical angel.
The essence of good and bad COP in that it is not necessary to beat the naughty cat with your foot, hit it with a slipper, if she thinks you're a good God, and sneakers - the devil the devil incarnate.
In family one parent should be as a good policeman-an angel, and the second as bad - daemon. One praises and raises self-esteem, the other scolds and understates it. In such conditions, the child will grow well and strive for the stars.
The system of sheep, shepherds, dogs, and wolves is symbiotic and stable. The shepherd and the wolf form a system of "bad and good COP". The shepherd is kind and reserved. The wolf is angry and unrestrained. Sheep are afraid of the wolf and seek protection from the shepherd. At the same time, the shepherd, having entered into an agreement with a part of the wolves, loved them and turned them into dogs. Now dogs (former wolves) manage sheep and protect them from wolves. Here we see the use of the "divide and rule" principle. The shepherd loved some of the wolves and called them dogs, and called the other part enemies and does not like them. The shepherd is kind, he protects the sheep, makes sure that they breed well, they have food, warmth and safety. The shepherd loves the sheep, he especially loves their wool, milk and meat. On the other hand, the rams also benefit from the system, because they got their ecological niche and became one of the dominant races of the planet Earth. The system of dogs and wolves is also stable, because as long as there are wolves, dogs are useful and they are fed. The most unfortunate in this system are wolves, but their sin is greed, malice, and pride. The implicit benefit of wolves is that this situation provokes them to develop intelligence and personal growth. In order not to die of hunger, the wolf must be cunning, smart and strong.
Manipulators like first say a lot of nasty things, and then pretend to be kind and good. In fact, this is the implementation of the principle "water is carried on the offended". First we offend or frighten a person by instilling a negative... and then we show our good half. Thus, the person running away from the bad, tries to subconsciously behave so that the manipulator was good and kind.