A family is not just a marriage of two people, but a united symbiotic organism that once achieved synergetic wholeness. A united wholeness appears where once there were two people, and this wholeness is quite larger than the sum of all its details. The essence of family is in getting enough energy for providing future generations. The essence of family is children. Attaining harmony and happiness in a relationship is a high art. As a master of a family, a woman is supposed to know this art as it will influence happiness and success of all family members.
Dramatically reduce the number of divorces is quite easy. You need to divorce every couple forced to undergo therapy with a psychologist. People have lost the culture of family life, they do not know how to live together. Such therapy will save up to 70% of marriages.
People can't get along together because of stupidity rather than because of incompatibility, differences, intolerance etc like most people think...All these human little peccadillos are nothing more than the result of the poverty of intellect in the body.
A storm in a glass of water is a symbol of a limited and manageable scandal to relieve tension and stress. Family and other relationships useful such scandals out of nothing, to avoid these storms.
The most important thing in family relations is to spare the feelings of near of kin... After all, any word or action will be taken as of tenfold strength...
A man needs a woman for keeping touch with reality. A man is a potential god-creator, he always tries to create a new world and get lost in it after having lost touch with reality.
Usually an idealist is especially hated by all his close relatives. The idealist worships his idol, and demands the same worship from all those dependent upon him. Dependent people such ideological slavery is not happy. For example, a man who is particularly fond of his parents will have serious conflicts with his wife and children.
A constant demonstration of love is what one really needs.
Love is ethereal. You're constantly in fear of losing it...
And fear brings pain and discomfort so you should overcome it.
Demonstrations of love is what can help you get rid of fears to be happy.
Love is a very precious thing. The presence of love brings pain because one is constantly afraid of losing it. "My dear- you say to it. - You'll be forever mine". But you're talking to an invisible thing and that's why you need demonstrations of it. Otherwise you'll simply go mental from fear and painful feeling that you've lost it.
Once a boy and a girl got married, but the marriage quickly collapsed. The reason was cognitive dissonance and an irresistible pattern. The girl in the family dad gave mom money, and she went shopping, buying food. And the boy in the family had money from his father, and they went shopping with his mother, together chose and dad paid. In General, the boy could not give her his money, and she could not stand the fact that the money was not given to her.
In a family conflict, the best solution to cognitive dissonance is to run away for half an hour, and then whoever is smarter and stronger should come, apologize, maybe give flowers or some other gift, and reduce it to sex. Such a scenario will further strengthen the family. It is necessary to extinguish the desire to escape and encourage yourself with hope. The man usually gives flowers and gifts to apologize, and the woman cooks food or seduces with sex. The other side should support reconciliation.
If girls aged 12-16 read the book "Variothoughts" (family, relationships, arrangement of men and women), their experience of relationships and family life would not be as miserable and nightmarish as 99% of other women. I know very few women who are happy in their relationships, but men are also happy in their relationships.
A woman should understand that most men are paranoid and the only thing that can make them sane is female love and gentleness. Otherwise, a man may become a loose cannon who will plunge into anger and grumpiness. That's why it's very dangerous for a woman to get offended by a man and show her irritation or indignation to him... This way a man will see her as an enemy with all consequences it may involve (anger, aggression, attempts to get rid of the aggressor)...
Ask, and it shall be given you, but many people do not want to ask out of arrogance. “We don’t want to ask anything,” they say. “We want that it be given to us just like that. If we ask, we will be in debt.” Arrogance turns them into sinners and makes them suffer.
Ask, and it shall be given you, but many people do not want to ask out of arrogance. “We don’t want to ask anything,” they say. “We want that it be given to us just like that. If we ask, we will be in debt.” Arrogance turns them into sinners and makes them suffer.
Often the concepts of a 'Smart woman' and a 'strong woman' are associated with unhappy family life. I think it's nonsense... Everything is always orderly arranged in a smart woman's thoughts, family and house...
- Working for bread and butter. - Studies and self-education. - Personal life, famil and relationships - Leisure time, sport, travelling - Optional: «hobbies and overarching aims»
These items may often be interrelated and interconnected. There's also an important item called «hobbies and overarching aims». It may replace or go well with any of the first four items. But it's important in this balanced apportionment of efforts and time not to let some item take more than 20% of efforts and energy.
The main problem with children is that people don't know how to be good parents. The problem with families is that people don't know how to be a good husband or wife. People don't know how to be good friends. How to be an honest person. How to be a good person. How to be a strong person. How to be human.
Before the birth of a child, the mother neurotically loves her husband, then her husband removes love and throws it on the child, the husband without love dies from the cold, and the child, on the contrary, love burns. As a result, everyone suffers.
An egoist is a person who doesn't want you to like him. We like to take offense at those who do not want us to like, this offense is also called selfishness.
A man doesn't want you to like him because he doesn't see the reason. Of course, this fact is very traumatic for your self-esteem and causes resentment. But who's to blame, isn't it you?
Social barter is a basis for social division of labour. Quid pro quo, everyone shares what he has. The person who wants to be loved for nothing is an egoist and a freeloader. Every person should bring benefit.
Social barter is a basis for social division of labour. Quid pro quo, everyone shares what he has. The person who wants to be loved for nothing is an egoist and a freeloader. Every person should bring benefit.
A person who does something for another person, secretly hoping to please him and for this wanting something from him, concludes a "black contract", that is, a one-sided contract, which is known only to him. The second party, without ratifying such a contract, is free to execute it.