Many people are afraid and hard to tell the truth, but they are happy to lie. When you let them lie, you give them joy, and they love you for it, for joy is love. Faith is love, when you trust people, you show them love. On the other hand, lies create fear within them, and they want to keep the lie intact. Thus, the inner fear is sublimated into outer love, and provokes people to turn lies into truth.
You worry about being used… You're stupid. You do not understand that by allowing yourself to be used, you are dominating your master, making him dependent on you. Having become dependent on you, your master must now protect and feed you.
Manipulators like first say a lot of nasty things, and then pretend to be kind and good. In fact, this is the implementation of the principle "water is carried on the offended". First we offend or frighten a person by instilling a negative... and then we show our good half. Thus, the person running away from the bad, tries to subconsciously behave so that the manipulator was good and kind.
The meaning of the proverb "the offended carry water» the fact that first you are offended, and then you are afraid that you will be offended again, you serve your abuser, doing everything so that he does not hurt you anymore.
Recognition is a great value. Recognizing other people's virtues, you will become a very valuable person for them. It is especially useful to recognize the merits of their subordinates. Than a man is "less than", the more important it is the recognition of his merits.
When you give, people automatically want to give something back. Give people a good mood, thank them, give small gifts, help to realize their desires, amuse self-esteem, and they will love you in return.
You should know that idealists are extremely inattentive to the little things that are not interesting to them, and absolutely attentive to everything that is interesting to them. Yelling at a neurotic for inattention is generally ineffective.
Ask people for a personal favor. Say that if you fail, you will be punished. That is, if a person does not help you, you will be punished, and if he does, he will save you. People are pleased to know that someone owes them now.
Perhaps, many people don't get words. But they feel them very well. So if one is sure about what to say, then all those listening to this person even without understanding the subject, will be likely to trust the one talking as they feel the confidence in this person's manner of speaking.
When you go to negotiations or communicate with people, think not about what they can give you, but about what you can be useful to them. For example, you can amuse their vanity or bring other joy. No one likes useless people who just take up time. Unity and conflict of interest.
It's something forbidden to do that people enjoy doing most. Tell them what they should not do and they will be set to do it…
The sense of contradiction and desire for freedom. People are curious and they tend not to trust others' experience and check everything on their own.
And they like to feel themselves winners as well... As doing things the opposite way is a little (or a big) victory. Victory brings great pleasure and joy. They do things the opposite way just because they're slaves to pleasures.
Interchange is a principle that makes a person sell his soul to the devil in exchange of freebies. “I exchange nothing for nothing,” says the wretch, rubbing his hands in joy, and, certainly, he is quite mistaken.
Hypnosis is a method of eviction. We overload the human brain with new information, displacing the old from it. So you can completely reprogram a person, filling him with truth, replacing lies. Thus the fool becomes clever, the weak strong, and the liar honest.
On offended water carry because the one who will be offended, constantly thinks of the offender, so there is love. And if the offender asks for forgiveness, apologizes or takes another step towards, it will be the strongest source of pleasure, addictive drugs.