Too much attention is too much love, too much love, and the output is a large internal antagonism. And then people cry about the injustice of being, they say, we are so good, and we are not loved. Moral: "don't strangle people with your love."
Pride is too much self-love. A narcissist is very afraid for himself. Fear for himself, for injustice to himself... for not being loved enough, poisons the soul of this person. Proud people are always ill, have a lot of problems, are suspicious, vain, crooked, touchy and all that.
Metaphorically, the proud person so over-loves himself that he gets used to his own love and now needs love from the outside. The proud man begins to demand love from others. The proud man is ready to do anything to be loved... but, an important point, this readiness of his is not love directed outward, but a thirst for power over love to direct the flow of love to himself.
Over-love is too much attention. A person gets used to attention and begins to feel the eternal insufficiency of this attention, try to attract attention, experience pain, sublimate it into anxiety and aggression.
The life of an over-loved girl is not sugar. Look what's happening: her parents fall out of love with her and she tries to protect herself from love, saying: "I'm bad, you don't have to love me." Parents deprive her of her freedom and say: "Be good!» And she tells them: "Go to hell with your love! I'll be bad!» And it does the opposite. Doing the opposite, the girl gets extremely unpleasant results and gets into a bad story. In the end, it turns out that whatever she does, everything turns out badly. The inability to be good drives the girl crazy and provokes a split personality, suspiciousness (paranoia), fills life with fear, mysticism and all the others phenomena that are well suited to the symptoms of schizophrenia.
The narcissistic person can't stand being bad and craves love. If a child tries to be "I am good" all the time, he will begin to deny himself "I am bad". You can not praise the child all the time, you need to scold him periodically, otherwise an extremely sensitive person will grow up, dependent on external good attitude.
Cleopatra syndrome is a woman's reaction to being overly in love. The lover creates an idol out of a woman and wants to have power over her. The situation creates addiction, withdrawal, fears, conflicts, power struggles, etc.
It is difficult for a person who was over-loved in his childhood to find a good job because he thinks everyone owes him something. For such a person, looking for work is beneath his dignity: he considers that others have to offer him work. In his view, he does his employer a huge favor by working for him. Not all employers need that favor.
The Oedipus complex is the desire to win love and is usually accompanied by Thanatos (the desire to kill rivals). And if the object of love is not particularly looking for this love, then Thanatos with hatred refers to the "beloved" person.
Over-loved children believe that everyone owes them something, should love them. They believe that failure to fulfill any of their whims-a sign of dislike and great resentment. Such people are touchy and vile. The idea that love requires exchange is unknown to them. These people think in terms of"should." On the other hand, they think they owe something to someone. However, they usually owe much less than they owe them. Having received the same equal that gave such people are usually very offended and consider themselves deceived.
It's like showing a tree in the desert withering away from everyone's love. Like an over-loved child, good is covered with the soot of evil. And the evil inside, as new, only grows more and more, hidden away from prying eyes and hands.
You can not love a person too much, he then gets used to love and begins to feel keenly that he is not loved, and from the lack of love is very offended, angry and turns into a demon of evil. However, with the lack of love is the same.
Complacency is a situation of self-love. As a result, such love dies and the heart fills with fear. Fear is the absence of love. When you feel, that not like you, heart of fills fear and pain, resentment and aggression,...well, further down the list.
An interesting point about the essence of busting love. Observing a chemical element itol responsible for the smell of flowers, I noticed that in small doses it smells like flowers, and in large and concentrated - feces. A lot of love all spoil, however, when you do not give flowers, it is also not happy.
The over-loved child is afraid of losing love. He is always tormented by the fear that he is not loved. It is necessary to talk to him, to say that everything is good, that everyone loves him and loves his mother. And especially his mother loves him when he behaves well. And if he doesn't do what he's supposed to, mom gets sad and mom feels bad. If he is a good boy, his mother will love him, and will not be sad, and will smile. The main thing is to make sure that the child does not have the idea that when he behaves badly, his mother pays attention to him. You should ignore his bad behavior, showing complete coldness. On the contrary, good behavior should be responded to warmly.
Overabundance of parental love turns the child into a self-centered egoist. The child is infected with love from the mother and if the mother does not love herself, does not love her husband, and concentrates everything on the child, then the child will love nothing but herself. The child, having received all the fire of maternal love, turned into a drug addict and is now not ready to give an ounce of love to anyone. Cost him even a second to lose attention, he gets angry and runs into aggression (hence the passion to communicate). And any attempt retaliatory aggression snarls and goes in games, phones etc. Perpetual anxiety of losing love leaves no child. He has no other desires, only to be angry, to run and despondent boredom. He is stifled by jealousy, resentment, uncertainty, fear, anger, laziness.
Prelomlenie neurotic happens to expectations and did not justify. The one who justifies is praised, the one who does not justify is scolded. The first becomes very honest and loving order. The second is false and a loving mess.
Attention deficit disorder is when a child is over-loved and there is no love in him now. Such children are extremely unhappy. They're either brainless or suffering. The mind in the absence of love either dies or rots alive.
The absence of a mother breeds fear in the child, which breeds inferiority complex, pride, narcissism and megalomania. "What does the absence of a mother mean?" - Excessive demands, negativism, perekuplennosti, cast.
Attention deficit disorder is a consequence of an over-loved child, a drug addict who has fallen into chronic withdrawal. Such a man loves nothing but his pleasure. In the absence of love, the soul is filled with fear, laziness, aggressiveness.
The symbol of the red riding Hood is a symbol of a woman over-loved in childhood. Red riding Hood is a symbol of passion. The wolf is a symbol of the victim of passion, a symbol of men who love men. The wolf is a symbol of what can result in a passion for the greedy and stupid men.
In the" Scarlet flower " beauty is a favorite daughter, that is, a child over-loved by the Pope, who will now compare all men with the standard love of his father. All men were monsters to her now, compared to her father. A woman herself can not find love next to her, she does not like anyone. Time passes, the girl stayed at home, she is sadder and sadder. Sad and father, seeing such a negative scenario. Resolution of the scenario is classic: the father chooses her husband away from the house. In the book, this situation occurs under the pressure of external circumstances, but we know that subconsciously a person is looking for exactly those circumstances that help him fulfill his true desires.