To love yourself is not to love yourself. True love is when love is inside you and you serve your mission in life. Self-esteem and self-love is based on the realization that you have love in you, and you have the courage to serve it.
Because you don't love yourself, you're constantly afraid that others don't love you. You need constant signs of love, otherwise you're going crazy. Not to love yourself badly, you should treat yourself better.
Wrestling (judo, Sambo, etc.) develops self-confidence in children. Such a child is not afraid of violation of the comfort zone, do not confuse him and touches. On the contrary, coming closer, he feels confident that he is in control of the situation, everything is in his hands.
Self-esteem must be based on many internal and external sources, otherwise there will be a paranoid fear of losing the source of self-esteem. The loss of an external source of self-esteem can destroy the personality, plunging it into a swamp of depression.
Need a win without a victory in any way. Great victory to wait a long time and you can be exhausted. Stripped big plan into small steps and rejoice with every small victory. When there were no victories for a long time, make a small feat and rejoice to it.
Having ceased to amuse oneself with illusion, a person can get rid of the mask of this illusion. The mask gave the person a form and imposed on him methods and properties of this mask. Attempt not to obey the mask caused a feeling of guilt and pain in his chest. Answer yourself – who am I... I am a mother, I am a wife, I am a citizen, I am a Christian, I am a good person, I am an honest person, I am a good daughter, I am a good granddaughter, I am a good friend. Every single one of these masks puts obligations on you that need to be followed. However, you can override the properties of the mask, more accurately defining what is also good and bad. A man must be good. When he's bad, his own Self starts to self-destruct, howling with pain and suffering.
Man, submitting completely to his feelings, renounces the uniqueness of the consciousness of his Self and his goals. I was his form and meaning of life, having lost all this, man turns into an animal and goes under the control of their biological programs, the same for all people.
Psychoanalysis believes that the problem is unconscious desires. There is some truth in this, but there is another problem. Man is not simply not aware of his desires or wrongly aware of them, first of all, he does not know how he can satisfy them. It seems that whatever he's doing, all to no avail and hell is inevitable.
Freud saw the cause of neurosis in suppressed sexuality. Erickson – the inability to fulfill your destiny. Adler is in a lust for power that stems from sexual instinct. Still it is possible to say that neurosis is a discrepancy between his view of himself or a growth problem. In General, we can say that the definition of Erickson wider than all other ideas.
God specifically offends a person to make him love himself and serve himself. That's what he does with a little faith. Those who are firm in their love and service to God, God also loves firmly and without any unnecessary resentment.
Fear. Your fear, referring to your weakness and lack of confidence, whispers to you that any action and effort is useless. The feeling of uselessness kills desires and causes laziness. Immobilized, you lose access to money, luck and other bonuses and joys of life. Who does nothing is good at nothing.
Everything is meaningless, especially if you do nothing.