A man accepts a woman as something almost identical to the concept of a house...
He's the owner of the house who takes care of it, decorates it and can't stand when others run things in there. The man likes to find home beauty and peace, safety and warmty... My home is my castle.
The man feels really uncomfortable when this very house doesn't live up to his expectations, especially
if it lacks peace and comfort and beauty but at the same time contains problems and difficulties or negative emotions etc. A house of the kind is barely wanted by anyone.
Of course, having one's own house always means a lot of problems and huge expenses on its decoration etc... But still, if a house is good, it gives off more than it takes.
Thus, the aim and task of a woman is to be that very beloved house a man wants to care about, decorate and that brings positive emotions as a place of warmth, comfort, safety, freedom and peace.
A woman too wants to be this very beloved house and be loved, decorated and guarded.
These two desires of both a man and a woman support each other mutually and fit perfectly in harmonious relations...
However harmonious relations are not as widespread at they could be... The reasons are the following: a woman doesn't try to transfer the "house" to the "ownership", while a man doesn't feel like taking care about anyone else's property.
The second important reason is the absence of the emotional comfort in that house. Plus, the presence of some negative factors near a woman that cross the personal space: relatives, friends, other men etc.
In fact, emancipation really undermined the institution of the family,
...ruined the base of people's personal happiness.
There's a state of things, - the way it should be, and disturbing this state, in most cases, breaks the whole process...
1. A woman should admire and be proud of her man, his wits and strength... And a man should be proud of his woman and see her as a big help and a base for his house.
And it's really a man's house but not a woman's. Many people think that the house belongs o a woman but it's not true. A woman is a house in herself and the house can't belong to itself as an ownerless house is a symbol of destruction...
2. The method of motivation that a house rules its owner with is based on positive emotions and pleasure. To look at one's big lovely house is a big pleasure, to live in it is a big pleasure and to own it is a big pleasure too. If something breaks inside it, the owner wants to fix it, decorate it and maintain it in the state when it brings pleasure.
In fact, when god created this world, he made it so that everything done right and good would bring pleasure and positive emotions
(that very stick and carrot method, which essence should be understood extremely right)
The same here: the house rules its owner by means of pleasure and joy it gives to him...
And really, there exist negative ruling signals like: pain, fear, abuse, offence. But the aim of these signals is not motivation for the good but a quick stop of the negative and harmful behavior.
Many people don't get it and try to use these ruling signals to motivate a person for good and right actions. Alas, it's impossible and wrong. As the best motivation for proper behavior is just pleasure and joy (one may call it a feeling of happiness).
3. A very important issue in a house and its owner relationship... is the exchange of energy in this relationship. Useless energy loss destroys the soul of a person. One may waste lots of efforts and energy on care and decoration of the house. It will remain dirty, cold and unattractive... And unsolicited guests or even enemies will enter it - mothers-in law, relatives, someone's men, female friends... Or when you'll be back home you'll get paint cans falling on your head, floors will get a splinter into your feet and doors and bed will creak and crack like hell leaving you sleepless...
It will embrace you not with warmth and joy but with indifference, anger, coldness, complaints, etc.
All these negative factors will leadto the main question: why waste time and energy on this enemy house? The house, in its turn, starts to feel lack of care and attention to itself. And starts to show signals about improper attitude to itself... The spiral twists tough, relationship breaks.
An interesting additional thought...
While having enough resources an owner can have two houses... But having two owners is a bad idea for a house... As having several owners is, in fact, like having no owner at all...
The personal can't be public as the personal never can.
A timeshare will never replace a house.