Being offended by criticism, you weaken and, exhausting force, you get dependent on these people. Willing to do anything to deserve their good treatment, you're doomed to think of them. And if they praise you, you will carry water for them. If the script gets complicated, the bad will hurt you, and you will serve the good.
An egoist is a person who doesn't want you to like him. We like to take offense at those who do not want us to like, this offense is also called selfishness.
Is there anything more noble and difficult than taking a grip on oneself and repentance?
You say that you're not guilty? - Maybe... However, all of us are more or less guilty of something. It's not difficult to find reasons for repentance. What's difficult is swallowing pride and getting over fears and stupidity.
A man who has no humility is doomed to falsehood and suffering. For the best of reasons, afraid to hurt him, everything will always lie to him, and he will suffer and be angry.
Offended the man that God is very offended God... Very. A person offended by God is a great sinner, who not only offended God, but offended and did not apologize, offended and did not repent. And he did it more than once and not twice ...a lot ...many times ...until God finally stood up and cursed him and all his offspring seven generations ahead.
That's how it is loved... loved someone, then had an argument even started to feel hatred, and time passed …and the person visits dreams… Visits dreams every day…and the dreams aren't about the past... no …no … the dreams are about the alternate… … as it was said, guard love…guard it. … but alas... it's a theory… but in practice: one lost it and dream about it all one's life. … a very painful feeling… approximately a hundred times worse than any offences and conflicts that led to it...
Neurotics are very touchy and prone to fears, as soon as they feel the slightest aggression or negative, they immediately take offense. Chat with them you should either disregard, or love.
First it scares and attacks you to offend. Then you run away from him, offended. Then hurt you sit and cry, feeling sorry for myself, and it is ideal friendly and smiling... Then you carry water for him. If you want to run away, it repeats everything again.
The desire to justify yourself turns you into a slave. You were wrong and you were wronged, but you were wrong because you were wronged first. - I was offended, - you say, and now you want to justify yourself, forgetting that the offended water carry. You want to prove them wrong? "Fine," they smile at you, " prove it."
God specifically offends a person to make him love himself and serve himself. That's what he does with a little faith. Those who are firm in their love and service to God, God also loves firmly and without any unnecessary resentment.
The boss screams, and the subordinate is silent in fear or anger, restraining himself, swallowing the offense. The subordinate wants to escape, and having escaped from the commanding ora, first he is in apathy and laziness, then, filled with guilt, runs to work, trying to curry favor and make amends.
A man doesn't want you to like him because he doesn't see the reason. Of course, this fact is very traumatic for your self-esteem and causes resentment. But who's to blame, isn't it you?
It's close people who may hurt each other really badly. As their feelings towards each other are dozens of times as stronger.
It's rational to make a list of what is good and what is bad, then learn it by heart and stick to it despite one's moods and circumstances in order not to hurt a close person again.
Watch your words carefully. People are quite easily offended, especially loved ones. Communication is a ritual, the violation of the ceremony of which is fraught with mutual grievances.
From a particular point of view, all events are quite predictable and obvious. People's motives include greediness, lust, vanity, laziness, pleasures, offence, love, hate and other feelings.
The most valuable thing in a relationship is not to overreact being mortally offended. The most valuable in relationship is the ability not to climb down a bottle.
A woman should understand that most men are paranoid and the only thing that can make them sane is female love and gentleness. Otherwise, a man may become a loose cannon who will plunge into anger and grumpiness. That's why it's very dangerous for a woman to get offended by a man and show her irritation or indignation to him... This way a man will see her as an enemy with all consequences it may involve (anger, aggression, attempts to get rid of the aggressor)...
It's important to forgive people. People are far from being perfect and are full of sins and weaknesses. For they don't know what they are doing. People are slaves to their desires, passions and their nature. So what to blame them for if they can't even control themselves... It's only what happens now that matters and it's irrational to remember the past. A person could be wrong and mistaken. If one managed to realize one's own mistakes, then one can be forgiven.
Be a nice and friendly person everytime and with everyone. As no one knows when and why you may need a particular person's help. And it will be unpleasant for you if this person considers you not very nice due to something in the past.
Forgive women their little sins. At least 15 days per month they are ruled by hormones. And hormones are an awful thing. It means irritation, conflicts, mood swings, getting offended and crying etc. But other 15 days it means being another person- a kind, soft and happy one.