Dependence on external opinion is a violation of the commandment "do not judge" with someone else's hands. You go into a passive position, look for a judge, try to bribe him and demand a favorable sentence for you. If the judge is incorruptible, it creates wild fear and anger in you.
Dependence on someone else's opinion is the inability to independently answer the question " Who am I?". Such people are cunning manipulators, they really want to make the mirror lie, giving wishful thinking.
The inferiority complex generates megalomania and the question " Who Am I?"A person divided in two does not understand whether he is good or bad. "Who Am I?"- the person asks each counter. And if people say, "You are good," the person falls into pride and megalomania. Having become imbued with pride, a person begins to force people to lie, calling him good.
A narcissist is a person who is dependent on someone else's assessment in the sense that he has pushed all the negative assessments of himself out of his head. Since there was no self-criticism left in this person, he lost his immunity to criticism. Now this person only wants to hear from others how good and perfect he is.
To the question of dependence on other people's ratings, can I ask you, on whose opinion exactly are you going to depend? What do ants think? Ants think about food, twigs and leaves, sand, mushrooms and aphids... What does it have to do with you and your business? Are you food? Can I eat you? Or don't you have enough sex?
The feeling of your own uselessness is a sign of pride. You cry, everything is useless and no one needs it. You don't love yourself. You try to judge other people in your pride. What do you need? If you don't need yourself, why do others need you?
When you are told that you are bad, if you believe it, you will fall into pride. If you don't believe it, you'll get proud. If you fall into pride, you will fall into fear, paranoia, and schizophrenia. Don't judge. Say: "I am not bad or good, I am what I am. I'm real."
It is difficult to live appealing to many judges. Man is dependent on his judges. It's hard to be dependent on everyone. Let you have only one judge left. Tell yourself, God is my Judge. What will God say about me?
A person who is dependent on someone else's opinion very much wants someone else's approval and thinks something like this: "What approval? From whom? From this gray mass? I don't care about them, I'm out of the crowd."
The fear that I might be scolded is pride and self-denial. Pride is self-denial. Pride is a lie that I'm bad. The lie that I am bad creates a denial of lies and a new lie... I am perfectly good. Humility is the realization of the integrity of truth.
The narcissistic person can't stand being bad and craves love. If a child tries to be "I am good" all the time, he will begin to deny himself "I am bad". You can not praise the child all the time, you need to scold him periodically, otherwise an extremely sensitive person will grow up, dependent on external good attitude.
Self-pity can be seen as a drug breakdown, due to lack of external love. They don’t love me, a person dependent on love experiences and cries. To stabilize the situation, you need to fast and suffer steadily, waiting for the body to clear itself and be ready to love again.
Is it possible destroy the sun by ignoring it? You closed your eyes and the sun disappeared? You hid in the night, but what does the sun care? God is the sun… You can use the sun, you can not use it, it's your own business. Moreover, even if you want to renounce the sun, you can't do it.
There are different ways to calm your fear of people. Imagine that people are abstract functions or ephemeral forms of things. Fear is a function, an information signal. Fear suggests that the boundaries of the forms converge, an accident or absorption is possible. On the other hand, both the form itself and the fear it generates are all illusions.
Everyone is afraid of being thought badly of. This is normal, we all live in a society. On the other hand, given that everyone is focused on themselves, people think about others solely about their attitude to themselves.
Your desire for everyone to agree with you and intolerance of other people's opinions is also pride. What is surprising is that your life is a continuous burden against the background of rare bursts of contrasting pleasure, necessary for you not to get used to your suffering. The sinner must suffer; it is not good if he gets used to suffering and so exhausts it.
The crucifixion Jesus on the cross is a metaphor that your faith should not be dependent on other people's opinions. Even if your love has been crucified, you must be the one to resurrect it. True love is good because no matter how many times it is crucified, there are those who will rekindle the flame of love.
Poor ball-shaped man. His movement on the field is very chaotic. Other people's feet are very nimble ... decide where to roll… Well around, repairing the mischief, he shouted:… ... you cry here and laugh there…
The best praise is when you praise yourself. This very self-pleasure that tells you - Yes, you managed to do it, You did it, You won over yourself, You got a nice bag, Today is your day.
It's silly to accept the reaction of others in this situation. As these people may have strange motives and may know nothing about the object of the hunt. Or they may be in the wrong mood and don't care about you. People are full of envy, vanity, anger, greed- so does it really matter what they may think?
A predator praises himself for his bag on his own and it's only sheep who wait what the herd may bleat.
Firmness of convictions shouldn’t give in to opinions of the people around. No majority or authorities will persuade me that I’m wrong when I’m right. The truth and justice are the only judges whose opinion I value.
Common sense is above justice and the truth. Many things are unjust and false, but they have to exist, as so is necessary and right.
To do anything because you want to be praised or admired is vanity, and therefore the sin of pride. It is clear that feeding vanity is a great pleasure. Understand correctly, when your pleasure depends on other people, it is not very good. Try to do things like this when you enjoy the process itself, not the evaluation of others.
It's not true that you need someone who appreciates you for who you are. You need someone to make you better and pull you up. The maxima that you're good anyways is stupid. There is no limit to perfection and we have more disadvantages than advantages.
You're wrong about what other people think of you. Your well-being is 90% dependent on other people, do not care about their opinion, you are at great risk. If these people don't want to do business with you and tell other people what a bad person you are, it will make your life very difficult.
Addiction to someone else's opinion is a sign of vain weakness. This person is like a doggy wanting to get a pat on the belly.
-Tell me, Tell me that I'm good, oh, praise me, please, -begs he for others 'approval. He is so eager to feel this vain pleasure over his body. He will do anything to let this sticky feeling never end.
Two idealists, a boy and a girl, coming together, form a pair of people dependent on someone else's opinion. The consciousness of these two focuses on what the partner will think about them. About the partner they think exclusively in the perspective of "does he love them" and"is this love right".
Look, the point is, if some people praise you, others will automatically bark. If large praise, scold small, if small praise, scold large. The fact is that in this world the main thing is balance and simultaneity, they ensure the integrity and growth of being.
The point of democracy is to show the doubters that the majority is right. Doubting and disbelieving people are very dependent on others ' opinion, because they are afraid to take responsibility for making their decision.
Emotions should be expressed moderately and immediately. If emotions are restrained, they accumulate and turn into a neurosis. "Why are they holding them back?" Fear, they fear the disapproval of other people.
Judge not, lest ye be judged, means do not Express value judgements. If you want to judge someone, judge yourself and your Affairs. This will allow you to love yourself and not to extort this love from others.
You value other people's opinions too much and yours too little. You value your opinion too much, and others ' opinion is too little. You value someone else's opinion of you too much, but you follow someone else's advice the other way around. You fool.