Judge not, lest ye be judged, this will save you from laziness, apathy, and depression. When an idealist judges reality, it always fails to live up to his ideal, fails to live up to his expectations and shatters his illusions. A mismatch between expectations of reality cause cognitive dissonance and 1000 of his sins and vices.
Sins-a terrible thing in the play "the Storm" Catherine, cheating on her husband, falls into a paranoia of fear and suspiciousness. You remember that fear is the devil, the father of lies and stupidity. As a result, it ends with the fact that, unable to stand the pangs of conscience, on her knees she confesses everything to her husband, further aggravating the situation. In my practice of psychotherapy I have seen a similar picture many times, and I want to say that the motive here lies deeper than it seems. It's all the fault of cognitive dissonance and subconscious desire to break the glass house.
The point of cognitive therapy is that when you're a liar, you can't trust yourself. One should question one's own thoughts. It is very important for the healing of a person – humility and self-recognition as a liar.
Economic neurosis leads to cognitive economic dissonance, the second stage of which marks the looping of economics resulting in a crisis of overproduction and a shift to the third stage of decline, apathy and chronic depression.
Trouble is also cognitive dissonance. First you get angry, then you want to quit and run... Then, when you realize that there is nowhere to run, you fall into despondency, laziness and depression. Pain depression allows rethink their mistakes and in next time all do otherwise, to avoid trouble and pain.
Once a boy and a girl got married, but the marriage quickly collapsed. The reason was cognitive dissonance and an irresistible pattern. The girl in the family dad gave mom money, and she went shopping, buying food. And the boy in the family had money from his father, and they went shopping with his mother, together chose and dad paid. In General, the boy could not give her his money, and she could not stand the fact that the money was not given to her.
It is very important to learn to recognize and overcome cognitive dissonance. After fear, failure, conflict there is a strong, mixed with laziness, longing and apathy, the desire to leave everything and run away. This programmed desire, you should either swallow quickly defeating stupidity, or if you want to remove, immersed in suffering, not removing them anesthesia until indifference. The main thing to understand that you can not run away from pain in pain (games, books, SOC.networks, movies, alcohol, travel, lust.) It is dangerous to leave work, family, friendship, study.
In a family conflict, the best solution to cognitive dissonance is to run away for half an hour, and then whoever is smarter and stronger should come, apologize, maybe give flowers or some other gift, and reduce it to sex. Such a scenario will further strengthen the family. It is necessary to extinguish the desire to escape and encourage yourself with hope. The man usually gives flowers and gifts to apologize, and the woman cooks food or seduces with sex. The other side should support reconciliation.
The most effective remedy for depression, grief, suffering from unhappy love is confession by a priest and 3 hours of prayer daily for 6 days. In addition, it makes sense to go to a psychotherapist to teach him to manage his neurosis and correct cognitive distortion of personality.
Imagine is a technique for solving various psychological problems and questions through their rational awareness. Part of the technique is a technique by which the mind can control the subconscious, controlling fears, laziness, apathy, desires, love, psychosis, neuroses, aggression and other emotions. Uses coding methods of the subconscious, replacement, exercise the power of the spirit, etc.
Every thought and emotion has many alternatives that the mind can choose if it wants to. I recommend that you choose the emotions and thoughts that you like best.
What's the purpose of cognitive psychology? - Changing of mind of people suffering from personality disorder. - What's repentance? - Conscious change of mind, linked with impossibility to stand suffering generated by sin and vice.
Most mental illnesses involve cognitive biases of judgment, which in turn are associated with ignorance or falsehood. A mentally ill person is simply a liar or an ignoramus. Of books few people read, and if read, did not understand or read. Have had a teacher or mentor to take it, but the sin of greed and pride ...ruined poor life.
A squirrel in a wheel is a person with a personality disorder. Cognitive psychologists have noticed that people with personality disorders exhibit the same, repetitive behavior much more often than others.
If you have personal goals that you can't achieve. If you feel like a squirrel in a wheel, which circumstances always prevent to achieve the desired goal. This suggests that at the heart of your personality is a maladaptive pattern of behavior that prevents you. To get rid of this scheme, get out of the wheel and realize your goal, you need to visit a cognitive psychologist who will fine-tune the system, turning maladaptive schemes into adaptive ones.
In the ABS system, the reaction to external influence passes through the contour Of the b-persuasion of the person. What is conviction? This knowledge, experience, education, faith, hope. Ignorance and false beliefs generate distortion in B. the Knowledge of the truth and the formation of an alternative belief system is the goal of cognitive psychotherapy.
Cognitive distortion is a belief in the unreal and the impossible. Conviction means demanding the unreal and the impossible. Accordingly, cognitive distortions automatically generate unrealized expectations that degenerate into anxiety, fear, anger, hysteria, laziness, apathy, feelings of failure, and problematic behavior.
A reasonable person can influence their cognitive assessment of the situation depending on their goals and interests. Awareness of the situation, a versatile view of it can reduce the anxiety of the situation, explain it, show its working mode. You can artificially assess the situation as safe, normal or working.
Cognitive therapy is a therapy of truth. The essence of cognitive therapy is to teach the truth. Teach people not to lie to themselves and people. To help a person see the truth.
The main cause of human suffering is called ignorance, the main weapon of ignorance is pride. You could go to a cognitive psychologist and he would save a person from lies, ignorance and suffering. However, the proud man will suffer to the last before deciding to seek help. Asking for help for a proud man is above his dignity.
Try not to tell anyone (even yourself) that someone owes you something. Such a word as “should” does not exist in nature. The word "must" is the greatest deception of mankind, it is the quintessence of the word FALSE. A person who believes that someone owes him something is an immature child. The feeling that you or you owe something is the first cognitive dissonance, the cause of all human suffering. Hand washes a hand. This world works according to the “Win and Win” scheme, all exchanges must be mutually beneficial and voluntary. Should you tell a person that he owes you something, he will feel disgust for you and will send to hell ... and he will be infinitely right. For he owes nothing to you. No one owes anything to anyone. Except, of course, slaves. Slaves owe their masters. But normal people do not want to be slaves ... even you yourself do not want to be a slave.
In man, the main thing is FAITH, faith in yourself, faith in the world around you, faith in people. Distrust of everything is a sign of immaturity and a source of depression. In fact, depression is a loss of faith. But what to believe? Man does not know how to believe, man does not know what to believe and what not to believe. Cognitive-rational therapy brings order to the head, showing what is true and what is false. Now, knowing the truth, one gains faith. Faith is joyful. Truth is joyful. Faith is a cure for depression and fear.
A cognitive psychologist is a gardener who looks after a tree by watering it, grafting it, and caring for it as required. The roots of internal problems and wood gardener's little interest for agronomists and other people have thought of everything and wrote what fertilizer and who need it, when and why someone to instill all that sort of thing.
Wrong thinking is harmful for health of mind, body and wallet. The cause of poverty, fear and 90% of disease is wrong thinking, that is, cognitive distortion of basal beliefs. Basal beliefs are basic beliefs about yourself, other people, and the outside world.
One-on-one you can swear, in front of strangers is not necessary. Because, taking advantage of your weakness, in the second or third stage of cognitive dissonance, a spider can catch you in a web and eat you.
You were deceived, and you took offense. What a swell, go on... This is the second stage of cognitive dissonance from broken expectations, when a person rolls into depression and with successful confluence never comes back from hell.
The squirrel running in the wheel is locked in cognitive dissonance. She doesn't know you can't run away from yourself. The fear that haunts her is within her, so wherever she runs, it stays with her.
Lack of sex breeds in a man irritation and aggression, and then keen desire to run away, which, if not realize, turns into apathy and indifference to wife. By the way the mistress in such a system even saves some relationships, because, fled to his mistress, the man removes cognitive dissonance and instead of indifference to his wife feels guilty in front of her.
The Cinderella story is a story of neurosis and cognitive dissonance. The image of Cinderella can be viewed from the point of view of neurosis and the development of passionate love. The first stage is passion and love, when a perfect false image of the Princess is formed. At midnight, the illusion is shattered, the Princess disappears and the second stage of cognitive dissonance begins when Cinderella runs away in fear. Midnight is an image of sex or living together. In order not to break the illusion, try not to stay the night. Further, in the third stage of dissonance, Cinderella sits and waits for the Prince to find and save her. At this stage, Cinderella constantly thinks about the Prince, hoping that he will come and apologize, accept her real, not illusory. When the Prince finally smart enough to understand the situation, he'll find Cinderella, forgive her all the wrongs and take her real. At this point Cinderella in a fit of mad love given to the Prince of soul and they live happily ever after.
Interestingly, the Prince in this situation develops reverse neurosis. First, he forms a false ideal image, which he falls in love with. Then the image slips away, and the Prince long and tedious runs after him... Finding Cinderella, the Prince is so happy that he is ready to forgive her lies and inconsistency with the ideal, accepts her as she is, while feeling not her real, but her ideal.
The world of drugs is beautiful and perfect, after it the ordinary world is dull, gray, unfriendly. All this causes cognitive dissonance, that is, first fear, irritation and anger, and then the desire to escape back into their illusions. Alcoholism, drugs, gambling and other passionate attachments very spoil this world.
Cognitive dissonance is such a cunning mechanism of the subconscious, which, under the guise of good pretexts and fears, makes a person voluntarily commit suicide. Cognitive dissonance at all costs does not want change... therefore, sinners doomed to suffering and loneliness suffer forever.
The squirrel is locked in the wheel of his own stupidity. Squirrels subconscious believes that if stupidity is not fatal, then it is safe and you can run around endlessly. The subconscious controls the squirrel through cognitive dissonance, as a puppeteer controls puppets.
Usually guilt comes from lying. The subconscious mind, using a cunning cognitive dissonance, deceives the brain into the idea that it has no right to make a mistake or has no right to happiness.
Women are afraid of gingerbread, because they know that it is cheese in a mousetrap. The wild fear of being in a cage causes cognitive dissonance in a woman, she feels anxiety and irritation. The subconscious is looking for any excuse to quarrel and run away, then somewhere alone the hellish suffering to cry from fear and pain.
The fear of death generates the strongest cognitive dissonance, generating anxiety and aggression, the desire to run away forever, laziness and apathy. The squirrel in the wheel is afraid of death and therefore always runs away from it, suffering and suffering.
Classical cognitive psychology speaks of cognitive distortions with a minus sign, but there are also distortions with a plus sign. You can concentrate not only on the negative, but also on the positive... With, and the, and the will poison. It is necessary to be attentive to reality as a whole, and not to its separate parts of a body.
A dream is what gives rise to neurosis. When there is a dream, but there is no possibility to grow, a person falls into cognitive dissonance and suffers greatly.
A man without a dream cannot, a man without a dream dies. People either live and, therefore, grows, or dies and hence, is not growing. A dream is something that gives hope for growth. Neurosis is when there is a discrepancy between the expectation of growth and reality, that is, expectations, breaking, generate cognitive dissonance.
