The human brain is a closed balanced energy system. You can't reduce something without increasing another. Perfection in one begets degradation in the other. Suppression of some fears provokes the growth of the second.
You can't suppress your inferiority complex. You can't suppress your delusions of grandeur. Let these two suppress each other, then you will attain the virtue of dispassion. If you suppress yourself, one of your vices will grow and devour you.
The question of children's growth is not a question of genetics, but a question of psychology and fear. The less fear there is in a child's life, the bigger he grows.
Truth is the only effective method of dealing with fear. The main source of fear is ignorance. Truth, by killing ignorance, makes man strong. All other ways to deal with fear lead to the loss of immunity to fear. Is fear to penetrate the armor, it in one moment destroys the human psyche.
The conditions and circumstances of human life are determined by the current structure of his brain. Everything a man feels, thinks, and has is firmly sewn into his brain. To change your life, you need to ReWire the brain, causing it to change and grow. You can't change lives without changing the brain first.
The role of genetics in human life is greatly exaggerated. Imagine that there is one good driver and two cars. One car is very expensive and good, the other cheap and bad. I assure you, a good driver Slippers will not prevent a good dance. Moreover, drivers are trained on cheap cars, not on expensive ones.
If a person is beaten, punished and scolded, and then given a candy for it (a gift, a reward, an apology), a conditioned reflex will develop in a person that conflict is good. A person will cease to be afraid of aggression in his address, will begin to provoke conflicts. Familiar?
Beliefs and phenomena of human consciousness are in close connection with his other beliefs and phenomena, as well as close people, work and lifestyle. Anything to move in this system can only be complex.
Freud was right that it was all the parents ' fault, and most of the reasons for our problems and failures lie in childhood. An improperly brought up child becomes an easy victim of neuroses and psychoses that break his life. But I will comfort you, self-healing as well as self-education is possible.
Classical cognitive psychology speaks of cognitive distortions with a minus sign, but there are also distortions with a plus sign. You can concentrate not only on the negative, but also on the positive... With, and the, and the will poison. It is necessary to be attentive to reality as a whole, and not to its separate parts of a body.
Neurosis always produces a split personality. By creating perfect images within, the mind is forced to piece them together. For example, one I - poor, other - good, or just one perfect partner no, need two or three to collect. Under each piece of the ideal is formed its semi-independent personality. Each personality of their own loves and hates, has its own preferences and tastes, usually in conflict and criticizes other personalities.
The source of most human diseases is a great internal tension that does not find a sufficient outlet. The more self-control and restraint, the more terrible psychosis or breakthroughs in disease.
Neurosis differs from schizophrenia in the degree of self-control. The stronger the neurotic's self-control, the more terrifying his psychoses are and the more likely he is to achieve a degree of schizophrenia.
A neurosis is a dislike of yourself and schizophrenia is hatred. A neurotic makes efforts to restrain himself whereas a schizophrenic brings in tyranny and absolute power. Floods of neurotics are horrible and those of schizophrenics catastrophic.
Sexual energy sublimates into movement (creation), illusion (lies and fantasies), aggression (anger, motivation and clearing space). If creation and movement do not occur, all energy is spent on illusions and aggression, hypertrophied increasing them. On the other hand, restraining anger and fantasies can be part of the energy to transmit movement. Movement is good, but the essence of movement is to become creation and fruitfulness, otherwise one simply becomes a squirrel in a wheel.
A very ... very fine line between a conventionally normal person and an imbecile... In fact, the imbecile is the same as normal, but a little more pronounced... That's a little bit literal... 1 mm.
Insensitivity is not a given, but the result of great restraint on the part of consciousness. Such a tightness generates a lot of vices of the soul and body in a person. The extreme form of such restraint generates psychosis and schizophrenia.
Consciousness is a form, an unconscious content. Forms of objects are determined by the purpose of their existence. What is your goal, is your consciousness. Goal defines consciousness. Consciousness determines the form and all its properties.
Psychoanalysis believes that the problem is unconscious desires. There is some truth in this, but there is another problem. Man is not simply not aware of his desires or wrongly aware of them, first of all, he does not know how he can satisfy them. It seems that whatever he's doing, all to no avail and hell is inevitable.
Freud saw the cause of neurosis in suppressed sexuality. Erickson – the inability to fulfill your destiny. Adler is in a lust for power that stems from sexual instinct. Still it is possible to say that neurosis is a discrepancy between his view of himself or a growth problem. In General, we can say that the definition of Erickson wider than all other ideas.
The Oedipus complex is the desire to win love and is usually accompanied by Thanatos (the desire to kill rivals). And if the object of love is not particularly looking for this love, then Thanatos with hatred refers to the "beloved" person.
Allowing the child to sit on his hands for a long time, sleep with his mother, the mother concentrates it on his love and turns into a neurotic. Now, when a child is separated from his mother, he feels fear and anger. Now the child will be paranoid with delusions of vanity.
Continence makes hormones poison the body and give a rush to the head. A person may become very aggressive or strange... However, continence may be useful as it may redirect the flow of unreleased sexual energy to some other activities. For instance, studies. Hence, continence is useful for studies. It's also useful for soldiers before battles. Thus, continence becomes useful when some extra energy is necessary or when one feels exhausted or lacking energy. But when this unreleased energy is not channelized into some constructive tasks, it may simply drive a person crazy. As this person may simply be on the boil like some crazy whistling kettle, go a little nuts and go straight to a nut hospital.
A recipe for success and happiness in life is about being able to take it easy.
Vanity and weakness that see everyone as a judge, become vulnerable to any critical remarks. They take everything personally. Their responsibility is hypertrophied as they think they owe something to everyone and look for approval in others' words or actions. And if they don't find this approval, they will become depressed and melancholic.
Any of suchlike souls likes to justify itself by being morally upstanding and saying: «I'm a very responsible person and that's why I can't, I simply can't stand hearing or seeing any disapproval of my actions». And a person of this kind will suffer and go crazy.
It may seem that such a person is a great worker. As this person would sell his or her soul for praise. And if they criticize this person, it will make this person work harder and go crazy with low self-esteem. Generally, it's true. If this person's boss uses it all to his advantage, then this person can be a great worker. The only problem is in some incompetent bosses who may be too silly and greedy and drive a great worker crazy.
Vain weakness tries to see everyone as a judge. It's full of fear and wants someone to prove its uniqueness. That's why people who got vain weakness always lack flattery and approval. Flattery helps them forget their fears.
Besides, vanity craves for freedom and power over itself and then over everyone around.
The main human problem is fear. Fear engenders paranoia. Most people are paranoids. Paranoia engenders anger, aggression, sufferings, despise, disappointment and dejection.