The first reason for most conflicts is suspiciousness.  People invent fears and attack each other out of fear. 

The main reason for all conflicts is mutual fear and misunderstanding.  A little attention to the opponent, and most of the problems will be avoided.

If we want to instill confidence in the interlocutor, so that he was not afraid, it is necessary to put him in an active position, and yourself artificially passive.  However, since you artificially create this situation, you control it, and therefore it will save you from the fear of a passive position.  In fact, we get a paradoxical situation when two active positions.

Suspiciousness is an automatic reaction of brute force to passivity and passive fear.  Experiencing chronic fear from passivity and attempts to external control, subconscious includes suspiciousness in the hope provoke activity and destroy fear.

Quarrel  and  joke  are  interchangeable  essences.  If  you  want  to  quarrel-you  better  joke.  Reduce  conflict  to  joke.

The  best  way  to  extinguish  flames  is  not  to  put  wood  on  the  fire.  The  best  way  to  dampen  down  a  conflict  is  to  keep  silent  or  repent.  It's  also  possible  to  attack  but  it  takes  great  skills  and  superiority  over  an  opponent.  The  best  way  to  overblow  a  conflict  is  to  find  excuses  and  answer  back.

The  best  way  to  extinguish  flames  is  not  to  put  wood  on  the  fire.  The  best  way  to  dampen  down  a  conflict  is  to  keep  silent  or  repent.  It's  also  possible  to  attack  but  it  takes  great  skills  and  superiority  over  an  opponent.  The  best  way  to  overblow  a  conflict  is  to  find  excuses  and  answer  back.

You  quarreled,  you  are  to  make  it  up..
You  took  offence,  you  are  to  make  it  up.
You  suffer,  you  are  to  make  it  up.

Arguments  and    breakups  clear  relationship.  Renewed,  they  are  ready  to  love  again.

Don't  jump  to  telling  someone  truth  about  himself,  let  him  save  face.  Loss  of  one's  face  is  a  great  insult,  fraught  with  aggression  and  conflict.  Even  if  someone  is  a  scoundrel,  snake  and  idiot,  it's  not  always  necessary  to  say  it  out  loud.

A  conflict  should  be  treated  with  humor,  this  way  it  takes  little  space.

A  conflict  should  be  treated  with  humor,  this  way  it  takes  little  space.

Don't take hits from inconvenient adversaries, they often want to provoke you and involve into conflict, they feel your weakness, feel they can eat you and own your energy. Nearness of the food makes them aggressive, they attack you, barking, trying to provoke fight. The best you can do is shout “No! No, doggy”.

Progress   is   a   consequence   of   contradictions   and   conflicts.

Making a claim to a person, you start a conflict. War is always bad, before you start a war, think, and whether it is necessary for you?

Man has two important needs: one is to become God and the other is to become a prophet. Since many want to be prophets and gods, competitors are very annoying to each other, which is a source of quarrels and conflicts. To avoid conflict, you should preach in secluded places (remember how the Apostle Peter preached in the desert). The eye of the outcast in the desert is clearly heard from afar. Who should, he will hear and he will come.

To spoil relations with a man as follows: to find fault, criticize, not praise, stand against him in argument and conflict, don't encourage him, take offense, interrupt, not listen to the end, get mad, swear, treat with contempt, mock, take off the mask, publicly reprove, deceive, pretend in its place, etc.

Inside  a  person,  there`s  the  steam  that  should  be  blown  off.  It’s  good  for  his  health.  Expressed  offence  is  the  weak  one.  Expressed  fears  and  problems  are  not  so  scary.  There  are  many  situations  when  it’s  necessary  to  tell  things  off.

You  should  not  take  offense  at  the  interlocutor,  who  blows  off  the  steam  of  his  offences  and  complaints,  because  it  calms  the  person  down.  If  the  person  has  an  emotional  burst,  you  should  just  listen  to  him  sympathetically.

Avoid  unnecessary  conflicts,  they  only  exhaust  you.  Look  for  use  in  Nothingness  and  emptiness,  somewhere  you  can  get  it  without  fighting.

Greed  is  a  great  remedy  against  any  conflicts.  The  more  costly  a  conflict  and  its  consequences  are,  the  weaker  desire  there  is  to  get  involved  in  it.

Often, the best way to avoid escalation is to pretend that nothing happened and that the problem or conflict did not occur.

Want to follow yourself and keep track of their wishes and thoughts.  Attempt to want and to think for other people monitoring their thoughts and behavior, reminiscent of pride and leads to conflict.  It is necessary to control its territory up to the borders, to climb on someone else's territory forbid you. 

Where there is no idealism and dualism, there are no quarrels.

Wasting time on quarrels is impractical.  If you quarrel, there must be a benefit.

If a person is beaten, punished and scolded, and then given a candy for it (a gift, a reward, an apology), a conditioned reflex will develop in a person that conflict is good.  A person will cease to be afraid of aggression in his address, will begin to provoke conflicts.  Familiar?

The conflicts and clarify the relationship doomed to failure.  For all history of mankind we do not remember any fact of successful experience of clarification of the relations.

Mutual  understanding  brings  joy  and  pleasure,  while  misunderstanding  is  a  common  cause  of  conflicts  and  pain.