It is important to understand that to ignore does not mean to run away. Many people, trying to keep peace of mind, run from any negativity, and it turns them into a squirrel, fixated in the wheel of all that they do not like.
Inside man is illuminated by the sun. If this energy is not used for growth and movement, there is negativity and fear. Fear is like a radiator, something that drains excess energy. If fear is turned off but growth is not turned on, the system will burn.
Every feeling is an expenditure of energy. Energy desirable spend on useful creative activities. It is foolish to waste energy on negativity or pleasure, especially since pleasure can be obtained for free in the process of creation.
The harm of fear is that we fear in advance for a very long time. Fear has not yet come, and we have already spent all the energy and exhausted forces. With an effort of will and mind in advance to hope for a positive outcome. If the outcome is negative, the torment will be five minutes. If you suffer in advance, stress can last for days and weeks.
Angry and aggressive people leave themselves wide open for others as they attract too much negative attention and look for trouble... That's why try at least to pretend being friendly and smiling. Even if people disgust you and make you feel nauseous...
Looking at the world through rose-coloured glasses is just as silly as having a morbid outlook on life. Life should be seen in a broad realistic view. Anything organic is always better than chemical things.
All those colored glasses only strain eyes and distort reality. Those who live in a fool's paradise and lose touch with reality, soon become useless people.
Thinking about WHY something may go wrong, will make this something go wrong. And thinking about WHY something may go smoothly, will probably make this something go smoothly even despite some adverse life circumstances.
Any problematic or negative things should be considered in the connection «Problem-Solution», and it's necessary to hope for the best results.
Once a person loses commitment to succeed, soon this person's things will go wrong.
Don't let your opponent demoralize you and break your spirit.
Fear, terror, uncertainty, guilt complex, lack of confidence in one's own abilities, thoughts about losses and negative things- are the factors leading to defeats. It's necessary to separate oneself from the personality of the enemy and the situation in general. It's a game and in a game situation can change any moment. Finally, even a second before your opponent steps on you with a dirty boot, a meteor may fall on his head and smash him like a roach. Nothing personal. Purely impartial observation of a situation… What happens, happens. Even one second can drastically change any situation.
There's an opinion that men don't like smart women.It should be explained. Actually, everyone loves really smart people, both men and women. And a smart person knows human nature and can make anyone fancy him/herself. A person may be nice, positive and good in every way. People like that are loved and they try to help them and find favor in their eyes. Because people like that know how to get on well with people and live well and talk well.
And it's smart alecs who are not liked. Boastful people and showoffs are not liked as well as those who demonstrate their knowledge proving others to be idiots as compared to smart them. They don't like those who crave conflicts and regularly oppose themselves or suffer from superiority complexes etc.
Be happy and positive no matter how difficult it can be. The world resembles a mirror: a person, being reflected in it, sees own reflection. Smile and the world will smile back to you. Cry and the world will share your sorrow. (That's why it's better to cry and suffer at night when no one sees. Crying is useful as well as it relieves stress).
The first strategy. To put sex away to make a man understand that sex isn’t the only positive thing that a woman can give a man, that she has a mass of good things for exchange: tenderness, care, support and so on. And elevate affection to her other various benefits in a man in advance. And go to sex only after this affection is formed and the man understands all the benefits of the woman.
The second strategy It’s understanding that a man gets joyful and excited by the fact that a woman wants to have sex with him. It literally gives man a boost. And he perceives it as very sincere relations. That what they want from him is not some goods and money, but sex. It’s as if - the woman needs the very him. So if relationship is accompanied by crazy sex, by admiring the partner, literally love at first sight, this relationship can also have big future.
In order to feel happy and contented with life it's important to find more reasons for joy and pleasure and fewer reasons for pain and negative emotions.
And it should be taken into account that the weight of any sources of «happiness» and «unhappiness» is relative. It may change with time or may differ among different people. Usually we appreciate something that we don't have more than what we have. That's why available happiness tends to lose its value while unavailable one gets more precious.
One can also be quite happy at the moment when it's possible to get away from various problems and difficulties that bring one pain and disappointments. If one gets what hurts out of the head and concentrates on what brings happiness, it gives the feeling of local happiness.
Not everything that we consider to be evil is evil indeed and what's good is not always good. The good means balance and justice, in the first place. The evil is what disturbs the balance and goes into extremes.
Many people, being full of pain and sorrow, however, put on masks to hide it: smile and pretend to be happy during day time and cry at night when no one sees. People don't like it when others see their weakness, sins or real nature...
When one doesn't have anything to eat, bread crust will make this person happy.
• Dishes get broken only for the best. • You fall on slightly evil days? It's great. You have no idea what worse luck your bad luck saves you from. • You sustain minor losses and lose money from time to time? It happens right before you'll get some large income. • If you step into dirt and soil you clothes, you'll soon get some income. • If you hit your toe (knee, side or hand) against a sharp corner and it hurts like hell- it's a great sign that your enemies will soon disappear. • They scratch your car? Lucky you as the next lot was about getting in a car crash. So you got the best of a bad lot... • You are about to go out for a picnic and it starts to rain. It's definitely a sign that something saves you. Maybe you could have been hit by a car or bitten by a dog. • If you're dogged by misfortunes and terribly late for some really important gathering or a date. – Count yourself lucky! As the providence saved you from one of the most terrible mistakes of your whole life. • If you bought food that is off and have to throw it away. – Remember that your guardian angel saved you again. As if that food had looked "normal" and you had eaten it then you would have been poisoned or even dead. • You bought a thing that soon went out of order or got spoiled. – Hence, that thing wasn't meant for you and damaged your karma. Your friends in heaven quickly decided to deprive you of the bad thing. So, you luckily evaded the problems it could bring to your life. • Something that you're trying to finish or fulfil, gets interrupted or «stuck in the marsh of circumstances». – It's an obvious sign that doing something is a bad idea that may cause serious problems. The providence needs to stop it. Otherwise, it may lead to the end of the world or apocalypse. • Are they having you on? Or deceiving into parting with money? And you believe it? - That's for the better. Anything that makes you realize you're being naive also makes you more rational. • Something that promises happiness gets done easily and runs smoothly. While something bad gets stuck or prevented to save you from troubles. • You get an endless run of bad luck? It's great! According to the law of compensation it's a little preparation for your big success or luck. And during your run of good luck you'll be happy with your life like never before.
According to the eighth law of thermodynamics and partly its second law - all negative nervous energy that gets stored in a person, after having gained its critical mass, breaks to the outside and starts to interact with the outward things, breaking and destroying everything on its way. Thus, if you feel that the whole world is against you, just remember that it's your own inner Evil that has broken loose to the outside to kill you. Remember that evil always wants to destroy those who produced it.
Having got to the outside, this energy starts to break things, attract troubles and cause diseases. Thus, cosmic evil, once it breaks loose, batters the person who created it with all world troubles.
The conclusion: be calm. DON'T let any critical mass form inside yourself. And to let inner tension out, just let off steam sometimes, destress, practice brain cramping.
There are two more nice tips about it all:
Cold shower will help you chill out... Find yourself some «earthing contact», talk to your sweetheart or friends. You need to get it off your chest and tell everything that happens to you. Just keep on telling it all. The task of your conversationalist is just to listen to you and show sympathy. If real people are not a big help, it's better to express everything in written form, putting down the description of events and emotions on paper. This way you will take it out on paper (the most powerful method). When you start to feel that you're getting hot so that the whole world seems to be against you, it's important to stop doing anything at all no matter how urgent it can be. It's better not to make any decisions at this period and prefer reading some nice book, watching a show, do some exercises or swim and catch some rays, or spend time with a partner going out or making love. A thing of ultimate importance. If you're getting hot, just stop making any decisions or doing anything. It's very important! Don't make any decisions. As anything you may start doing will go wrong when you're getting hot. Before you go back to work, you need to cool down.
There is an idea that wit (intellect, abundance of knowledge) works woe.
But this idea needs deeper understanding to «make things as clear as a bell». Wit in itself doesn't make anyone unhappy and generally, wit that has found wisdom, brings purely positive experience to its owner.
The problem here lies in the substitution of notions. The notion of wit includes different things, for instance wide knowledge and rich imagination. Imagination gives birth to too many desires. A person wants too much at once, but at the same time doesn't even know how to get it all. The situation when one knows what one wants but can't get it makes one unhappy.
A person who read too much but didn't do much. A person who knows a lot but can't do much. Hence, it's a knowing Person as well as an Incapable Person.
A person who got to know about some opportunity but doesn't have enough knowledge about ways to achieve it. What's more, one may be weak in spirit and not have enough skills or power to reach goals. One may be too narrow-minded. Or one might have forgotten that it's necessary to indurate the spirit, the will and the body. What's more, reaching some goals demands galvanizing many people into action and being a great manager while our "intellectual type" of people who are self admiring for their wide knowledge, may hate people and be unable to work with them. And people, in their turn, may hate the intellectuals and dislike working with people of this kind. It takes years of patient labour to gain skills for getting along and working with people. Besides the knowledge how to do it, one should learn to feel balance and moderation in everything, feel the instincts as well as both one's own and other people's strengths and weaknesses. Reading about it is one thing, but learning to feel it on one's own takes years of training.
Knowledge in itself is nothing. Knowledge is only valuable when being used in real life situations. But even using knowledge is not that easy. As one should try, train and study the details of using it.
A person who has lost the sense of moderation and gained knowledge but lost the skills. So now his knowledge whisper in his ear the desires that he doesn't have enough skills to fulfil.
It should be remembered that a truly wise person should be both knowing and skillful. Thus, it's someone who knows what he wants and how to get it and has practical skills for getting what is wanted. Someone truly wise is always happy and always gets what one wants.
Sometimes one doesn't even know who one really serves - the good or the evil...
- In fact, it's easy to understand who you really serve. Pain and life dissatisfaction are the devil's traits while happiness and high spirits are typical of everything good.
On the other hand, both good and evil are balanced in a typical person. The good may turn into the bad, and then become good again. It's normal. But big problems only arise when there is too much of something.
Computer games are rather what adults need to escape from reality.
Children are still too early to run, from where it was, they still need to learn and play sports. Therefore, I would say that for children and adolescents, the negative effect of computer games can be compared to marijuana. It is permissible to give children strictly dosed access to computer games as a reward and a "carrot" for fulfilling their obligations related to education, reading and sports.
Dislike, waiting, fear –these emotions and many others switch a person to a mobilization mode. It’s an ancient mode of a hunter and warrior, when a person strains and starts to spend 10 times more energy. It’s necessary to react to danger quickly. However, it’s an extreme working mode – it destroys organism, leads to diseases, causes tiredness and it is linked with aggressive behavior. This mode is necessary for the state of struggle. In the modern world, where the majority of threats is virtual and it’s undesired to kill the adversary, this mode affects a person suicidally. Moreover, dislike, negative and danger of being late literally surround a person, he is in a mobilization mode for days. This should be stopped. Mobilization is needed when there is struggle, if there is no struggle, there is no threat. When you understand logically that there is no threat, you should turn this alarm off, as it prevents from working. You should switch thoughts from threat to something pleasant and easy - to rest, beach, nature, children, home, your loved one. So that inside you feel the click that the «Danger mode» is turned off. When you feel relaxed, you should keep doing main job.
There are some nuances. The key of switching is turning the danger mode off, not reaching the idiotic joy and swimming in it. In doing so, your brain works logically and you know and remember everything. Having turned the «danger-alarm mode» off, you keep doing your job.
We should turn the alarm and «danger mode » off, not more than this. We should remember dangers and know about them. If new threats emerge, they should be reacted to appropriately.
People who are useless and follow the path of fading away are doomed to diseases and hardships. Searching for their usefulness in life, searching for their role in supporting what grows and strives for perfection will help them to avoid the joys of fading away. They should also try to advance in something.