The efficiency of the child's learning is described by the exponential law. The main progress occurs at the last stage at the moment of achieving the knowledge integrity.
I think the education of girls this is a more subtle art than education of boys. This little delicate flower so easily ruined... Boys are easier that way...
There are several reasons why it's mostly women who bring up children. Men work more, plus there are many incomplete families and divorces. All of these factors make women ask how to bring up boys properly. The thing is that a boy who is brought up like a girl, will never be successful in life and won't be able to start a normal family. Such boy will be passive, lazy and will resemble a princess rather than a man. Bringing up boys, is mostly about bringing up Heroes and Hunters. Bringing up breadwinners and protectors. The process of bringing up boys has many peculiarities that should be taken into account.
In bringing up boys, a woman should beware of infecting them with her fear. That very cowardice that often hides behind the mask of prudence is extremely harmful to heroes and hunters.
School education contradicts the idea of love, forcing children to learn everything, not just favorite. That is why boys who are more passionate and amorous, learn worse than girls, who are afraid of their parents and the system, in General, do not care what to teach. The weaker and more cowardly a child is in this sense, the better he learns. But knowledge is power, and over time the child can gain power.
The over-loved child is afraid of losing love. He is always tormented by the fear that he is not loved. It is necessary to talk to him, to say that everything is good, that everyone loves him and loves his mother. And especially his mother loves him when he behaves well. And if he doesn't do what he's supposed to, mom gets sad and mom feels bad. If he is a good boy, his mother will love him, and will not be sad, and will smile. The main thing is to make sure that the child does not have the idea that when he behaves badly, his mother pays attention to him. You should ignore his bad behavior, showing complete coldness. On the contrary, good behavior should be responded to warmly.
They say girls learn the faces, and boys items. They say that the boy looks at the girl as an object that requires knowledge, and the girl looks into his face, wondering if he can know me.
On average, boys do worse at school than girls because the masculine brain is more specialized than the feminine one and is unable to learn everything just in fear of parents and teachers.
Hypersensitivity have prelomleniya children observed as fusion matter. Largely this fusion is characteristic for girls, less for boys. If the child is alone in the family-it increases the risk. The more neurotic the mother is, the more likely it is to merge. The stronger mother nature absorbs the child, the mother's desires become part of the child's soul, his conscience, his super Ego, thus generating a pseudo-split personality. The child begins to live not with his feelings, which he does not have, but with others. The feelings of the mother, a loved one, other people and systems.
Women in fear looking for protection and company, the boys in fear seek solitude. These are two reactions to conflict and stress. Boys don't need witnesses of their fear and girls need protection from fear and loneliness spoils their health.
Boys need to praise and to give them freedom of activity, but to watch them with one eye. If the boy is not praised and all his freedom of movement is restricted, he will wither.
Teaching children in mixed classes is a big fool. Boys need loud and more questions. Girls need quieter and more answers. As a result, teachers speak quietly and tell something... This manner teaches only girls. Therefore, in recent years, excellent girls became more than excellent boys.
Education of children is not reduced to the concept of "who is a good child", but the answer to the question: "Who is a well-mannered parent?". Bad parents can't raise good children. The problem is that parents do not know or are deeply mistaken in the question "how to be good?".
Sport. Group or one-on-one training. Single combats or competitive games. Track and field sports. Constructive labor and masterhood. Philosophy, ethics and moral codes for being learned by heart. Foreign languages - for being studied every day for a long time. Mathematics and physics – for learning the essence of different processes. Native language and literature for writing essays and studying the list of books useful for reading. Various classes and hobby clubs. Some special classes for major subjects. Biology, chemistry etc. Gender-segregated education that considers psychological differences of boys and girls.
All knowledge should be background to remain forever. It's forbidden to study anything new without having got really in-depth knowledge of the studied matter or subject. It's rational to reject the track system and pay attention to personal classes system. Thus, a pupil should have a personal tutor who is supposed to know everything about him or her so that to make a plan of how to teach this pupil. Every tutor should also give recommendations and manage their pupils' time.
Parents should restrain and not restrain the child in his desires in order to bring up a harmonious child. Push and to show anger is undesirable, it is better to remain calm. It is undesirable to show children that they do not meet expectations, it creates fear and aggression in them.
A child is quite a high-tech product. It takes 17 years so that parents would make a person out of "nobody". Mistakes are inexcusable. The price for mistakes and defects will be really high.
First of all, it's rectitude of judgement that should be fostered in children. It's rational to free mind from extremes, illusions and other stupid things.
You can't separate the wheat from the chaff as long as it's small, because don't judge and you won't judge. By defining an object as bad, you will stop its development. By defining an object as good, you will provoke a wave resistance, and when the child grows up, he from "white" will become "black". The later you judge the kids, the better.
To the child fell in love with physics and mathematics, you need to learn a few topics well and solve puzzles on them. Tasks are like small victories. Hero happy. You need to Polish the level of solving problems to perfection. When the child loses fear and finds joy, he will be ready to quickly learn all other topics. You can not rush and miss the victory over small tasks.
The attempt of parents to turn their children into heroes in 95% of cases poisons their life with neurosis. The hero is the same genius, try to raise genius usually turns the child into an idiot.
It is very important to monitor what kind of behavior in the child (person) is encouraging. What is effective and brings results, then the child will use, developing this skill to get what you want.
To combat negative trends should be by limiting them. Solid frames and a sandbox to help you. Trying to destroy them completely would rather make them stronger than win.
Parents should monitor their children's goals. Goals will allow you to train the skill of concentration and attention to detail. In fact, the goal is a simulator of love. If the child has no goals, there is a development of histrionic personality disorder, accompanied by laziness, frustration, inattention, etc.
Stupidity is a consequence of avoiding personality disorder. A fool is one who is afraid to think. Once such a person opens a textbook, his thoughts begin to stick and get confused from fear.
Teenager after 18 years harmful to live with their parents, because it creates fear and inferiority complex and, therefore, laziness, weakness and vices.
The father is a tyrant and a proud man capable of raising two types of sons. One will open the false rebel. The other will be a hidden liar. To hate father are both.
The abuse of the use of order as a cure for fear leads to the degradation of other tools to combat it, such as humility, immunity and courage. There is a greenhouse effect, when under the protection of rituals and templates "I must", a person is more or less free, but the slightest violation of the template generates panic and fear.
External pressure on the child causes over-development Of "I must" and degradation Of "I want". As a result, self-consciousness and personal "I" degrades, turning a person into a living robot.