Shame is a sign of imperfection. Shame is not something to cherish, but something to build on in order to grow. Shame is something to run from. Your task is to get rid of shame, not by killing it, but by outgrowing it, becoming bigger than it.
The original shame, the feeling of one's own nakedness, is the realization of one's own inferiority and the beginning of growth to perfection. Shame is a sign of imperfection, you are inferior and it is a shame. Now that you have learned of your imperfection, you are ready for hope. Yes, the devil brought you hope. Yes, hope is passion and greed. But who is the devil? The devil is the Reaper, and hope is the seed of love.
Shame and conscience are good things. Shame is about heeding warning signs as shame shows that as a human, YOU are doing something wrong. You do something that makes others think badly of you. You really risk to destroy your reputation. And later no one will want to deal with you. They will point fingers at you, discuss you and «sling mud at you». YOU'll become an outcast. You will no longer respect your own nature and won't be able to tolerate yourself. You'll become sleepless and will howl at the moon. So, you may lose too much because of your wrong actions.
Thus… It's an information signal that should be heeded. However, sometimes this signal is very strong but still you can't do anything not because you're so bad but due to some circumstances. In this case it's better to switch off this signalling system. Of course, you realize that your car has been scratched and probably it will soon be towed away. You'll do anything within your power to change the situation. But the signalling system should be switched off as it's too loud to let you work properly.
It's also possible that after weighing the pros and cons, you decided that what you are about to get will cover your losses. For example, when you're having great sex in a changing room of some mall. Of course they may bust you and the consequences will be less pleasant. But if you're consciously ready to destroy your reputation because of this experience, then forget your shame! Switch off its signalling system.
When a good day is over, you go to bed to sleep the sleep of the just.
Happiness is the state when you don't have to be scared or ashamed of your actions. "You did everything right and you did everything you could." And this is the thought that makes the sleep especially sound.
It's important to set such a goal that after achieving its 80% result, it would be не стыдно было вовремя остановиться и зафиксировать прибыль.
Everything made to be more than 80% perfect, slows down this process and leads to death. Any thought going like this «well, that's all. I have done everything and now can relax and sleep a peaceful sleep» is the thought occurring a second before the end. Besides, it's also a thought leading to troubles and problems. Recollect the «last mile problem» or the fact that the final 20% of income result from 80% of your efforts.
The conclusion. Always leave some space for growth. There should always be an unrealized plan of growth. However, after having achieved 80% of growth, it's important to stop suddenly and avoid any changes or stop any progress. And it will save you from many problems.
When you're scolded, say to yourself, "idols don't matter." When you're praised, say to yourself, "idols don't matter." When vanity overcomes you, say to yourself, "idols don't matter." When shame overwhelms you, say to yourself, "idols don't matter." When fear overwhelms you, say to yourself, "idols don't matter."
The book of ZOHAR is a metaphor for the resurrection of the dead. When it comes to raising the dead, it means awakening the sleeping mind. In order to awaken the mind in a person, he must eat the Apple of knowledge and realize his inferiority, be ashamed of it and begin to improve and work. The sleeping mind dwells in the garden or forest of its illusions, preferring to work by sitting idly on a palm tree.
Passion and vices, there is something deeply shameful and unnecessary. You can deny it, you can not deny it, but the soul feels it, and therefore it is tormented by remorse, fears, anxiety... and to be saved, it makes the mind suffer.
The book of aroused feelings. It arouses the soul and heightens appetite for life. Symbolism and surrealism in erotic poetry. Noir texts in male and female narration on the edge of shame and shamelessness. A thin line that separates erotica from vulgarity, beauty from gaudiness. A library of erotic images and symbols of all time. From humor to loud feelings. Greek, japanese, chinese, indian, medieval eroticism. Modern erotic futurism and surrealism, pop-art and provocation. For real lovers of the beauty of hot feelings. Very interesting texts that help to get to know how people used to describe sex in the old days. A jade rod, sea bay, balls made of ivory, a back entrance wicket, Aphrodite's grot, a powerful fireman, warm anophyte of lips, woolly and a pod, ringing bells, butterflies below the waist and many other ways to describe IT without crossing the borderline.
Many people are very ashamed of their relationship with their parents. They are told from all sides that parents should be loved, and they hate their own. This thought leads to the conclusion: "I am bad" and undermines self-esteem. Let me tell you a secret: half the people hate their parents and there are plenty of fair reasons.
Shame, criticism and inferiority complex lock a person in his illusions like gin in a bottle. This gene, the more flawed his life, the more proud and great in their fantasies. - Is it possible to pull him into reality? - There is a problem, without external pressure it will literally tear from pride. "Do what?" "The devil knows.