Look for criticism to make your case better. Critics are your best assistants on the way to perfection. But remember, the main thing is not a critic, but beauty and perfection. We serve beauty, not idols.
The critic must love what he criticizes. Beats - it means love. The critic has to beat what he likes to make him better. Not to criticize, not out of love, criticism, devoid of love, is a lie and a fake.
Criticism is white noise. Criticism is like radio interference and distortion in gravitational fields. If there is not even criticism, it says that the mass of the object is zero and there is nothing in front of us.
Destructive criticism is also love. Destroying excess, critic frees up space for the desired. The critic is the one who clears the field of weeds, leaving room for useful. By destroying the ugly, the critic allows the master to create. The sower sows, the Reaper reaps.
Criticism should be treated as horoscopes and mystical omens, that is, separating the grain from the chaff, to use useful, and useless to ignore as unpleasant, but inevitable and absolutely necessary evil.
In Zen Buddhism it is believed that the enlightened should not react and look back at the shout. Metaphorically, it means to ignore criticism, temptations, and any attempts to distract you from the true path.
To protect yourself from criticism, use the practice of meditation. These practices are many, the principle is simple, switch and clear your head of unnecessary emotions. For example: deep breathing, breath retention, muscle tension, "point concentration", "dispersal", "crab meditation", "rubber band", pain, admiration meditation, etc.
Criticism that cannot be used constructively for the good of the cause automatically turns into destructive criticism. In fact, there are only three options. Or you used criticism to create and that's good. All that creates not destroys. And the third option is total disregard.
It is very important to be able to respond correctly to criticism. After all, if you can not get creative benefit from criticism, it will automatically begin to destroy you. The more intelligent a person is, the greater their ability to benefit, everyone else needs to learn to be non-attracted and ignored.
Understand correctly, hatred and dislike of criticism is also attention, which means that it is love and creation... The prefix "not", in this case, will make the process of love destructively creative.
Judge not, lest ye be judged, this will save you from laziness, apathy, and depression. When an idealist judges reality, it always fails to live up to his ideal, fails to live up to his expectations and shatters his illusions. A mismatch between expectations of reality cause cognitive dissonance and 1000 of his sins and vices.
Nothing spoils a person more than his infinite desire to criticize or to give valuable advice… The two common cents you contribute to the conversation are like flies in a soup. Nobody likes flies, so remember that your criticism, moaning and valuable advice are as if you kept saying “I’m a fool, I’m a fool, I’m a fool”…
Criticism is beautiful, the more you are intensely criticized, the more people, guided by the impulses of restraint, rush to save you and restrain someone else's intemperance. Criticism and praise must be in balance.
If the Creator does not believe and hope that his creations are beautiful, he will not be able to create. To understand, truly do well the creature can either a comparison with an ideal or the cries of the critics.
Being offended by criticism, you weaken and, exhausting force, you get dependent on these people. Willing to do anything to deserve their good treatment, you're doomed to think of them. And if they praise you, you will carry water for them. If the script gets complicated, the bad will hurt you, and you will serve the good.
Don't judge people by their calm expression on the face or their looks. People like to put on masks and the more experienced a person is, the more masks this person has. Behind a totally calm and nice face a real psycho or an utter idiot may hide. And taking into account that there are no normal people at all, then the nicer and more normal a person seems to be, the heavier and worse this person's sins will seem in close up.
Anyway, it's better to be careful with people from the very beginning as only time and working together will let you get to know them better.
With all other things being equal, the only thing that matters is how well one does one's job and on's ability to engage in personalities.
It's rational to ignore and not deal with people who like to engage in personalities. Any profit or money gained from them don't matter at all. There are many perhaps not quite normal but quite sane people in the world.
People do not often criticize or contradict ideas. Usually it's the author or the source of ideas that is disliked. And on the contrary, if people like some author, it no longer matters what he talks about...
A recipe for success and happiness in life is about being able to take it easy.
Vanity and weakness that see everyone as a judge, become vulnerable to any critical remarks. They take everything personally. Their responsibility is hypertrophied as they think they owe something to everyone and look for approval in others' words or actions. And if they don't find this approval, they will become depressed and melancholic.
Any of suchlike souls likes to justify itself by being morally upstanding and saying: «I'm a very responsible person and that's why I can't, I simply can't stand hearing or seeing any disapproval of my actions». And a person of this kind will suffer and go crazy.
It may seem that such a person is a great worker. As this person would sell his or her soul for praise. And if they criticize this person, it will make this person work harder and go crazy with low self-esteem. Generally, it's true. If this person's boss uses it all to his advantage, then this person can be a great worker. The only problem is in some incompetent bosses who may be too silly and greedy and drive a great worker crazy.
Anything new that joins the old, should realize that it's nothing but a joyful spirit yet. And it's possible to become material only through suffering.
The practical meaning of this thought is the following: anything new suffers and gets abused at first, and it makes the new stronger and worth existing. Some living examples in real life include the abuse of new conscripts by older soldiers and heavy criticism from well-known scientists towards new ideas. And probation period and the start of any career resemble it all too.
Everyone and everything should prove its right for existence by the ability to withstand any attacks of aggressive external circumstances.
Take the world as it is. Appreciate what you have. Watch out when they throw something at your feet... Take whatever you can... Search for gold underfoot... Enjoy what you have... Don't waste time and energy on illusions… Everything and everyone around you can be your opportunities for something... …and the main thing... - Don't criticize, don't judge and don't complain... It takes time and efforts that could have been used in a more effective way...
"Don't judge, don't criticize, don't discuss other people. Judge not, lest ye be judged. - Goodbye people. People are imperfect, God made them that way. God forgives and you forgive. "No one owes anyone anything, you owe nobody, you owe nobody. But there is an exchange. Love people. Love thy neighbor. Only love can overcome anger and paranoia. - Do not pull your patterns and stereotypes on other people. People are different. - Don't teach people to live, if you hard not are asked about this. Don't be greedy. Take a little and be happy. Many turn into poison. "If you took anything, give it back." Violation of energy balance is a sin. "Let the people speak, let them speak. "Don't lend and borrow. You're not a Bank. If you want to do a good thing, give it to me. "When you GIVE, you receive joy in return. That's your fee. - Help what grows and moves to perfection. It brings luck. - Beauty, usefulness, uniqueness-three entities that give good luck, health, happiness. - Don't carry, and you carry-take a payment. You're neither a horse nor a donkey.