A friend of mine complained about her young man, accusing him of passivity and unwillingness to make decisions and act. Say like says I love you, even jokingly offers to marry, but the steps do not. Still waiting for steps from her. It's like he's some kind of Princess, and he needs to propose. My friend, trying to rouse him, even provoked a love triangle, trying to Wake the young man, make him fight for love and take some steps forward. Instead, he passively surrendered. He said he'd love you forever. Then he went on a binge and got lost. And now the girl doesn't understand what it is all about and how to live with it and fight.
Let's take a close look at this situation. Here, in fact, there are two options:
The man is corny tired of relationships ,... does not want to get married. However, being a weak and indecisive in the face to say it is afraid, so I am glad of any occasion when he would be able to escape, "saving face." He would never say to his face that he was "leaving a girl," he simply did not have the fortitude. He will constantly whine, suffer, write fervent assurances of love and pretend to be a miserable romantic. The truth is, he's just fed up with the relationship, and he's generally glad it happened.
Option the second, slightly more complex. In fact, he wants to continue this relationship, this woman he needs. But ... but ... and another " but." There are many moments in life why he thinks they don't need to be together: he thinks he is too young to marry; he is afraid that his girlfriend is not approved by his relatives and parents; he is afraid that such a marriage will not justify his life hopes and aspirations for career growth and the merger of family capital (perhaps he wants to be related to a more "decent" family, or he simply doubts that this girl is worthy of him); or maybe he considers himself unworthy and fears that he will not cope with such responsibility. In General, the reasons why he does not want to be together, can be many. But that doesn't mean he doesn't love. He may be in love with his soul, but his brain says, " don't." And then a person has a big dilemma: "it seems like you want it, but it also pricks." In such a situation, the person himself can not make a decision. In such a situation, he will suffer, suffer, get depressed, and possibly hinting and whining to her friend that she took decisions for themselves and how to persuade him. He wants his girlfriend to make the decision for him and remove his psychological responsibility for all these "why not".
In such a situation, it all depends on the woman. She had to think about how valuable this man was to her, whether she needed him. Weigh the pros and cons. If need, then simply to accept for him decision and not ask unnecessary questions.
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