There are heavy things and there are light things. Passion and self-supporting thirst are heavy. Charm intertwined with fear. The heaviest thing is the desire to possess an illusion because you are aspiring to possess something nonexistent.
If you really love this person, then you are happy that he is in the world and you can sometimes take care of him... and the desire to own it and control it individually is a story about the ring of Sauron.
A man who has made an idol of his wife becomes dependent on sex, it seems to him that sex gives him strength and energy. In fact, it's all self-deception. In reality, this person is afraid of losing his wife, and since he himself views her as a source of pleasure, he subconsciously thinks that she also views him in the same way. It seems to him that if she does not have a crazy orgasm or she is not happy 24 hours a day, then she is unhappy and will definitely run away from him. The idea that My darling CAN run away is maddening.
"Is he a fool?" – Rather, ignorant, he just did not say as a child that less is better than more. And now he doesn't trust anyone.
Vices need the Holy Ghost. Holiness makes a person too strong, and the feeling of power fills the soul with pride. A little Vice protects the human soul from hellish suffering. However, pride does not give up, pride is a lie. A lie whispers to its slave - you are perfect, you are the smartest, all the people around you are despicable fools. You are the only one who is so special, the vicar of God on Earth.
A proud person is a person who is dependent on happiness and love, who is chronically unhappy and is not loved by anyone. The proud man does not know that the less, the more. The proud man does not know that what you run after runs away. The proud man does not know that it is impossible to rule over love. "My treasure» the proud man whispers, with quivering lips, to his loveliness:"Give me a little love." But no… Pride and happiness are incompatible.
"My beauty" - you whisper, dying of horror that the ring of power will disappear. You feel like you are the master, and pleasure runs through your brain like electricity when you touch the ring. You are a slave to pleasure. You are a rat who would die for a piece of sugar. You console yourself that you are in control of the situation, you say: "This is sugar for me. The meaning of my life is sugar... " You tremble with horror that the sugar will disappear. You ask yourself: "Am I a trembling creature or a man?" and you answer wearily: "Of course, beast! For a lump of sugar I would be a beast and a slave." But still, somewhere in the back of your mind whispers a small voice:"...how to kill a slave in yourself?» It's not easy. Chekov had spent his entire life squeezing a slave out of himself. Moses led people 40 years in the desert. Velimir Khlebnikov wrote: "Freedom comes naked." Oh, this freedom, so sweet, but available only to heroes.
What causes fear, from too much self-love. You are so afraid of your beauty that you are like a princess on a pea, even afraid of sneezing. So what if you die or suffer. Who cares about your happiness, plans or dreams. You think too highly of yourself, relax, do not push, otherwise you will earn hemorrhoids.
A saint is as extreme as a sinner. In this sense, Saints are no better than sinners, and holiness is no better than vice. Holiness is another facet of pride.
One female lawyer got the biggest problem with everything in the world because she always won her lawsuits and was very happy. This gave rise to insomnia, depression, Psychosomatics, panic attacks and many other charms. The moral: good should be a little.
Corrupting a child with freedom and love turns him either into a narcissistic tyrant or he degrades to a yeast fungus or cyanobacteria. Busting control over the child generates the same effect. Moderation is needed to save a lovely child.
Idealists are drug addicts by nature, for their ideals are as narrow as the Procrustean bed. There is very little that can correspond to these ideals, so the ideal becomes super-valuable. Meeting something similar to his ideal, a person becomes stupid from a greedy thirst to devour him. The thirst for power over his ideal Super-Value literally drives the unfortunate crazy.
Parents who think their children are perfect make their lives hell. Such children feel that they do not correspond to the ideal and begin to be ashamed of themselves. It doesn't matter if they think the child is already perfect, or try to force him to be perfect. The former are under the spell of loveliness, the latter are angry and suffer, trying to create this loveliness. Interestingly, the desire of the second to the ideal is expressed in disregard for the real child. However, the first also love not a real person, but their fantasies.
Many respectable and good people have hell in their families. Why is this happening? Because from afar, lies and hypocrisy are similar to truth and holiness, but close people see the real person perfectly. God sees everything, you cannot deceive God.
Shame might have saved the narcissist, but narcissists fear shame like fire, and as soon as they feel it coming, they put on the clothes of self-deception and hypocritical holiness. "I have nothing to be ashamed of, I am beautiful and perfect" Narcissus says, enjoying his self-deception.
The gaze of the dreamy is clouded by the charm of illusions. Dreamy as a blind man, can't see he values the real world, but what is not, turns into a super-value. The dreamy one is like the inebriated one, running away from reality.
What brings good luck and increases karma? Sacrifice their passions, pleasures and charms in the name of the God of love. Humility of pride is self-sacrifice in the service of the divine.
Loveliness is a concept that concerns selfish complacency. When the word "beauty" is applied to external objects, it does not change anything. The man says "my delight," but he means his own pleasure and its source.
A person who has fallen into "charm" is a person who thinks himself almost a saint, but his neighbors see in him a stinking pile of shit. And what do the far ones see? The far ones are indifferent to shit, because until you get into shit, it doesn't stink.
Fall into the "charm" "talk, then: "I am not a sinner, and my sufferings are unjust." Fallen into "loveliness" a person is full of self-pity and thinks of himself as an innocent victim, in fact, he plays the role of a persecutor.
To fall into the charm is to smugly consider oneself ideal, correct and victorious in all vicious thoughts. The natural remedy for such pride is vigil, that is, insomnia. That is, insomnia is often the result of too good an opinion of yourself.
To avoid delusion, one should contemplate God while separating oneself from the object of contemplation. Moving around the divine light, one should realize oneself as the planet Earth, and God as The Sun, the source of life. At the same time, you need to realize that the Earth, in addition to Of course, there is still a mission – to take energy from The Sun and create life. Even if you are not the Earth, but the moon, your mission is to help the Earth create life.
The beautiful Christian concept of " loveliness." In fact, the creation of an idol of yourself or your neighbor. Seduction, self-deception, daydreaming, false holiness, pride, self-satisfaction, the opinion of one's dignity and perfection.
Addicts are very aggressive towards those who decry their charm, their love, their Super-worth. The addict has seen God and fancies himself knowledgeable and omniscient. He thinks he has known life, thinks that he has a super-value, etc. He thinks of all others as ignorant, ignorant of beauty.
He who weeps and then exalts himself is in delusion. These are not tears of repentance, but tears of pride. Such tears poison the soul, but do not cure it.
I noticed that the Orthodox Christian word is "lovely" when translated into English it translates as charm. To fall into loveliness is to become fascinated, and to lose control of oneself. In fact, this is a violation of the commandment "Do not make yourself an idol." Interestingly, the word "charmed" can still be translated as stupid and stupid. Also the word "lovely" can be translated as expensive, wonderful, beautiful, delight, delight, object of dreams, etc.
Suffering is treacherous. Many people turn suffering into the meaning of their lives, because it seems to them that their suffering gives them the right to believe that everyone around them owes them something. You owe me because I am suffering, the sufferer thinks. Suffering gives rise to a thirst for power and a sense of one's own holiness and innocence. I'm like Jesus on the cross, I suffer for people and therefore everyone should worship and serve me. As for me, I owe nothing to suffering, either my own or that of others.
As for the feeling of one's own absolute innocence and rightness, this fills a person with a sense of holiness, megalomania and Awakens cosmic pride in him. Such a person longs for power, thinks of himself as divine and believes that everyone owes him something, while treating other people extremely arrogantly. Accordingly, the feeling of mild shame, guilt and fear pacifies such self-content.
What does holiness mean? It is perfection, innocence, shamelessness. When you are perfect, there is no shame in you, therefore the saint is shameless. This saint looks suspiciously like an arrogant devil. Know, ignoramus. I am the saint, I am the innocent, I am the shameless, I am the truth, I am the head of the lingam or the Holy maiden Mary, these are all names of the mortal sin of pride, a direct ticket to hell. One extreme begets the opposite extreme. Such sanctity is like the devil's fire in the night, around which a whole swarm of midges circles. The abomination is all slaves to Vice. I do not know if angels create demons or demons create Angels, but I see that this sweet couple is inseparable and constantly arguing among themselves, who is bad and who is good. If you're surrounded by demons, you're probably the kind of narcissist who thinks he's innocent.
Our sins are useful to us, because they save us from falling into delusion. Charm is pride and self-admiration for its purity and ideality, which generates contempt, neglect and intolerance for one's neighbor, preventing a person from forgiving other people's sins and shortcomings.
Love subdues the pride of selfish narcissistic personalities. Egoists love only themselves, but having projected their ideal idea of themselves on the outside world, the Egoist falls in love with her as himself. Salivating with delight, the Egoist whispers to his charms: "We're made for each other, we're two halves of the heart, we're one," and blah, blah, blah. All this, of course, is good, but then it will all need to be broken, Of course, and, having subdued the narcissist, teach him to love reality, and not his fantasies.
The slave prays to the idol, greedily longs to possess it and whispers: "My darling, my darling.".. However, a slave can possess an idol only by obeying it completely. Otherwise, you need to turn to your inner ideal, give it power and become the master. A master can own an idol.
The neurotic usually ignores and prefers not to notice his mistakes, which cause negative consequences for him. This gives rise to great resentment, for the neurotic constantly feels that he is being wronged. This further enhances the feeling of one's own ideality and sacrifice. The neurotic is often forced to generously forgive his offenders, and this fills him with a sense of his special holiness.
The idea of one's own ideality generates the displacement of all that is superfluous from oneself and the projection of this on other people. All this, in addition to the feeling of one's own divine holiness, creates great tension and stress, which can become the basis of tumors, cancer, strokes, heart attacks and other problems with blood clots and blood vessels.
The idea of one's own holiness can be greatly increased in the process of overcompensating and denying one's great sins. We have seen people deny syphilis, crimes, and other terrible defects and vices. Such overcompensation and the shame of realizing one's defects often give rise to a delusional super-valuable idea of "I am Holy, I am special" and further, Hello, schizophrenia, and everything associated with it.
There are two types of pride. One pride does not want to forgive lies, and the other pride is always lying and, trying to be better than others, falls into the sin of self-betrayal and arrogant contempt for inferiors. Moreover, these lower ones arose precisely because they managed to pass off a lie as the truth and so unfairly rise above people. Remember, any elevation is a lie and an illusion that are presented as reality.
The form must be the product of sin, and the content must be good. On the contrary, it is undesirable. On the contrary, it generates complacency and pride. When the bad is at the top, it is manifested, and we remember our sins, which allows us to do good. If you put good on top, then a person will forget about his sins and become proud of his good, thereby falling into the sin of self-betrayal and pride. The good should be in the soul, not in a hypocritical mask. The mask should be humble, there should be sins under it, and only then the good. Keep your friends close and your enemies even closer.
Be simpler and people will reach out to you. To be simpler means to stop thinking of yourself as a narcissistic idol. Idols think of their special value, importance, power, holiness and innocence. Idols are arrogant and self-satisfied. Of course, it acts like sticky, smelly and sweet on flies on some idolaters, but most people bypass this shit.
The most idiotic thought of a dependent passive neurotic is "I feel that we will be happy." This is the thought of an addict addicted to his super-valuable drug. It seems to the addict that without super-value, happiness in his life is impossible.
Oh, my darling... in the languor of an impending orgasm, an alcoholic strokes his bottle. In this sense, a bottle is an allegory of a phallus, and an alcoholic is a person who longs for copulation with a bottle. Where does he put this bottle for himself? The oral type of neurotic puts the phallus in his mouth. The anal type of neurotic likes other forms of sex. From this point of view, we can say that an alcoholic is a sublimation of suppressed hidden homosexuality.
An idolater is a person who cannot think of anything other than his idol. An idol is a super-value and a drug. The idol must be served and sacrificed to him. An idolater needs nothing in this life except his charm.
Their sin is pride, they like to feel holy. They like to be offended, then forgive in order to rise above others and feel their special holiness and sacrifice.
Resentment is the face of charm. Scold a person for his sins, and everyone has sins, and the one who has fallen into the charm will be offended. The one who has fallen into the charm is the one who serves pride and desires.
A narcissistic proud man is a man obsessed with the thirst to be perfect, and therefore he cannot bear the feeling of guilt and the feeling of his imperfection. Such people who have fallen into self-pity are intolerant of accusations and criticism. Tell such a person that he is unworthy and he, offended, will run after you, proving that he is good.
The essence of good self-esteem is not to become a narcissist obsessed with the charm of his own ideality, but to come to terms with himself as the present. Indeed, I am a monster and there are no less sins in me than shit, however I am what I am. My sins humble the pride of my ego, and this is good.