A fool always complains of fate, forgetting that it is foolish to blame fate when it is his own fault. Fate greatly resents the fool for unjust accusations and forces him to carry water until he repents and admits his guilt.
When you're under chorus of allegations, no need to kneecap them all, remember the first and main one, ignore the rest. When the flow of accusation will weaken, kneecap the first one.
Suspecting your own self of the most awful mistakes can drive to an abyss of forlornness...
In order to be saved... - do not believe these absurd accusations... you're impeccable and there's no one but yourself who knows it better than anyone else.
"The thief and the cap burns" in the sense that fear is a sign of Vice. The virtuous have nothing to fear, and sinners are full of paranoid fears and begin to fear even the most foolish fears and accusations.
Everything that helps you achieve your goal is useful. There`s often a great desire to quarrel and fall into a conflict, but this distances you from achieving your goals. From this point of view, I recommend you to refrain from conflicts, offences and mutual accusations, even if you really want to.
Narcissists are suspicious. Those who praise them, they suspect of insincerity, and all the accusations against them are considered unfair and offensive.
Diogenes was accused of public onanism, but Diogenes ' onanism was an accusation of people's pride and complacency. Masturbation is an ode to human vanity and boasting. People are proud of things and pleasures, which, in essence, is public masturbation.
Anything that can be explained is joyful. Anything that cannot be explained creates pain, accusing us of stupidity. Blaming oneself for ignorance is terribly painful.
Chaos and the devil called themselves order. The devil wants to be perfect and seeks overkill. The real one The order was charged The devil in imperfection and called a lie.
The situation with gaslighting is the consequences of suspiciousness and fears that generate an additional reality, in which reality and hallucinations are mixed. The victim of gaslighting sees and feels something negative, which begins to blame his partner. Some of these accusations are true, some are logical, some are suspiciousness and hallucination. The partner clings to false accusations and, emphasizing them, aggressively attacks his victim with the help of gaslighting.
Truth is Extension, and therefore limitation. Focusing on something for a long time, we are forced to abandon many other things. In this sense, truth is very similar to falsehood and idolatry. Only the right to freedom of love and will Saves the truth from such accusations.
Do not judge and you will not be judged. Blame another person for something, and he will certainly blame you in return. You will say that you are innocent and the accusations against you are unfair, but it is not so. You are guilty of the sin of pride, you think yourself a judge.
A victim of workplace mobbing is persecuted through spreading rumors of her incompetence. Accusations of uselessness and inability to work are typical. The victim is deprived of work assignments, she is not informed about work plans. A person practically loses the ability to perform their duties.
A victim of mobbing under a hail of accusations and gaslighting can lose faith in himself and give up, admitting himself to be a good-for-nothing nonentity. The victim begins to blame himself. On the other hand, an interesting question is to blame others badly, to blame oneself badly. Who to blame? That's right, no one. Do not judge, you will not be judged.
The proud are greedy and impatient, and their lust for power is expressed by accusing others of being slow. Waiting is a source of pain for the proud man, so he is full of righteous anger, aggression and resentment.
The relationship of victim and persecutor is the same as that of slave and master, idolater and idol, child and parent. To get out of this relationship, you need to become an adult, that is, an independent person. You also need to throw out of your life criticism, resentment, self-pity, accusations, promises, excuses, pity, the idea of salvation, the thirst for love and ideality.
One of the nasty traits of an alcoholic is the development of delusions, especially delusions of jealousy and abuse of a partner in marriage. However, delusional ideas are diverse, accusations can be absolutely any.
Loving yourself does not mean making yourself a sacred cow. Being a cow is love. Turning yourself into a super-value is also not love, but delirium and a symptom of schizophrenia. Self-love is expressed in resentment, accusing other people of neglecting the illustrious person and lack of attention. How is this different from narcissism?
A man likes to accuse a woman of all sorts of nonsense. This must be stopped in yourself. All the accusations of a man against a woman are the accusation of a child against a mother, that is, bullshit. I don't have enough love, you don't love me right, you don't give freedom to parrots, you limit my doses of drugs, you prevent my vices from making me happy and all that. All this should be viewed with contempt. A woman by definition can not be wrong, so it is arranged. Women's intuition is a perfect quantum computer. And all that a man whines about is the manipulation of a child. Therefore, we do not accept anything. Do not accept on principle.
A male addict inevitably turns his woman into a drug, and then two scenarios are possible. He either howls and whines that he doesn't have enough of the drug and she doesn't love him enough. Or to this is added aggression and accusations that it prevents him from being happy, limiting his pleasures. What to do? Do not take his whining to heart, and when he is rude or crying, mentally beat him. The bottom line is that his virtual sufferings need to be limited to real causes.
Most of the family conflicts can be reduced to jealousy and greed. A man is an egoist, he is a drug addict, or howls that he has little pleasure, Lubo, having received what he wants, is fed up with his woman and begins to run after other women, while accusing his woman of interfering with his happiness. Such accusations are expressed in constant complaints, criticism, inattention and neglect.
When a man reproaches a woman with commercialism, he must be prepared for a retaliatory accusation of lustfulness. Answer yourself, Why do you need a woman? You can wonderfully love her platonically by watching a picture on the internet. But no, the illusory joys of an onanist are not enough for you, you need real and pure energy of sex. So a woman needs real energy, not your infantile masturbation.
First, the neurotic invents suffering and its perpetrators, and therefore tries to take revenge by inflicting suffering on his fictitious offenders. Moreover, insults are very much rationalized, leaving no doubt about the guilt of the accused. The neurotic fancies himself a righteous judge, fighting for the cause of Justice.
Hula occurs from his pride, which accuses his neighbor of pride. Proud people love to blaspheme the reflection in the mirror and their neighbors for pride. Another reason for blasphemy is envy and jealousy.
Narcissists are useful, because their suspiciousness and paranoid schizophrenia is very touchy and likes to blame people for what they did not do, and this, as Buddhist texts teach us, is a direct path to development and perfection.
The essence of radical forgiveness is the denial of lies. Why can't they forgive each other? What is the essence of their accusations? They cannot forgive the lack of self-love. It seems to them that they are not enough and wrongly loved. They need love nerialno ideal, and to real love they have big claims.
You ask " why?" They give you a reason, and you look at that reason and you don't understand. This reason is small, like a mouse from a fairy tale About the turnip. You begin to accuse people of stupidity that they turned such a small reason into a super-value. You're very hurt, you think it's unfair. You are an ignoramus and a fool, you have forgotten that the catalyst is the last cause that has overflowed the cup of patience, it is the hundredth and thousandth cause, it is the tail of causes, in the place of which there could be any reason. The real reason is a huge multicellular monster whose tail you managed to notice.
Learn to find your strengths in your shortcomings. Your shortcomings are laughed at, it hurts your self-esteem if you are a fool, but if you are smart, you will find your dignity in it. Imagine, I was laughed at and insulted a lot. However, I picked up all the insults and turned them into virtues. I have been called a naked King, Captain Obvious, a clown, a liar, an ignoramus, a ridiculous visionary, a devil, a heretic, a sinner, an idiot, a vain prideful, a scoundrel, etc. It was said that in the book Variothoughts a lot of water, a lot of excess. They said: "Your creations are redundant, paradoxical, imperfect, defragmented and unstructured, like nonsense and heresy." I turned all these accusations into my pluses. I really appreciate and am proud of every minus.
The offended is always the accuser. The offended one complains and blames. For the fullness of the fall, he still needs to justify himself and tell about his innocence. Remember, a decent person, does not complain, does not accuse and does not justify himself.
The task of the psychologist is to free a person from unnecessary doubts, unjustified feelings of guilt and shame, painful self – accusations, uncontrolled anxiety, illusory debts, false judgments and unreasonable impulses. The point is to calm a person down and help him put his thoughts and desires in order.
The accusations are senseless and unfair. The accuser himself is guilty of the same sins as the accused. The accuser, accusing the accused, accuses himself. The accuser accuses the mote in the wrong eye. The only point of this procedure is to divert attention from the log in his own eye.
Healing from neurosis is associated with self-love, in the sense that it allows you to take responsibility for decisions made without blaming other people. When a person loves himself, he can easily take the blame on himself and forgive himself.
The example of Dr. House is a typical example of a neurotic. There is a problem, other people are to blame for this problem, their ignorance, as well as inevitability and randomness. We see a great reason for self-pity and blaming other people for their problems. On the other hand, the problem generates Dr. House's personality, transforming that person into who he is, shaping his lifeline.
Self-accusation and blaming other people, that is, resentment, are two facets of one mortal sin, which is called Pride. Proud people are very fond of blaming someone, being ashamed and suffering.