Resignation implies that benefit shall be sought in what is available rather than trading bad for worse. Trading bad for worse is the symbol of the hamster running in its wheel: it eternally tries making things better but keeps making them worse.
The prohibition of divorce by religion protects children and partly women, such a ban is not very beneficial to men, though... assuming all women were the same, what would he find by swapping his awl for soap?
Everything you do, you should do under pressure and try not to look for the best, where there is good. Try to always look for the good, not the best. But it's best when the good finds you. I noticed that any attempt to change the awl for soap always hurts. An attempt, without acute need, to change the good for the better usually ends as always.
Women rightly believe that in General all men are the same, but men, while stupid and inexperienced, think that all women are different and are looking for"the only one". With age, men become smarter and realize that women are also not much different from each other.
You can't change the bad for the good. Before you change the bad, you need to understand why it is good. You can only change the awl for soap, that is, good for good, or bad for bad.
In the name of the true treasure, it is not a pity to sacrifice all your illusions. However, pay more attention to victims of illusions is an exchange sewed on soap.
They say that service is giving the best for the best. And I would find fault with the word "best", because the best is pride and the enemy of the good. The road to hell is paved with good intentions. Like the best, was as always... And it is an exchange sewed on soap. Changing one known hemorrhoid to a new unknown hemorrhoid. We exchange one best for another best, one devil out of a snuffbox for another.
To humble oneself is to cease to thirst for salvation. The Savior is called The devil. He offers you the best and always deceives you. Another question is that there is no difference between the best and the good, and you have freedom of choice, but this does not mean that the Savior is better than before. You just swapped the Awl for soap. However, there is a difference, but it is within you. You loved the Savior and you loved the hell he created, which turned it into Paradise. Nothing prevents you from loving the current hell and also turning it into Paradise.
You are not satisfied with what is, but you are afraid to change the situation, because you are afraid that it will become worse. The truth is that it will not get worse, everything is the same. The system of pros and cons is always constant. Any change is an illusion. It doesn't matter if your hair is blond or dark. Another question is that if everything is identical, why change the Awl to soap. The old enemy is better than the new two, because you know the old enemy and already know how to live with him. Has the point is not to be afraid to learn to live with what is, deriving benefit and joy from what is available.
The problem with endless suffering is that a person is always looking for how to suffer less. Always choosing where there is less suffering. Afraid not to guess. Afraid to trade an awl for soap. It would seem that it could be easier. Are you suffering? Stop suffering, no one makes you suffer, you are attached to your suffering. Don't like go away. But you are afraid to leave, you are afraid that the alternatives will bring you even more suffering. Amid the fear of greater suffering, current suffering becomes joyful. Be honest with yourself, you suffer because it makes you happy. Accept your joy and rejoice in what is.
It cannot be said that higher education is better than its absence. I know many disadvantages of Higher Education. On the other hand, sometimes it is necessary and useful. Thus, higher education can be compared to an awl and soap. Eating it is good. No it is also good.
Amentia is characterized by an extreme form of incoherence, confusion of thinking and hyper-changeability of attention. Amentia is an attempt at hypercompensation of obsessive-compulsive neurosis, where there is an overconcentration of attention. That is, consciousness, trying to save yourself by changing the Awl for soap. That is, over-salted. In the normal state, a pinch of amentia in the pan of neurosis will produce bread and salt.
The freedom of the will of man is that he can follow the law, receiving from this benefit and protection, and can at your own risk go astray. Outside of one law, there are other laws that will have to be known and learned to use them. You need good reasons to change the Awl for soap. However, if you are tired of The Awl, and the soap attracts the unknown, everything is in your hands.
The real objective world requires a person constantly tries to sell subjective values to the world and is offended that the world does not appreciate it much. A person wants to dance, play and write poetry, and the world needs him to be busy with normal business. The world overestimates its objective values. Consciousness overestimates its subjective values.
Those who strive for more cannot be happy in principle. The secret of happiness lies in the realization that there is no more, but there is only the exchange of AWL for soap. There is only change, one changes to the other and the two are just different.
Vanity is treacherous. The man says: "I have subdued my vanity, and now my reason for living is pleasure." The man changed the Awl for soap and rejoices. Now man is very proud of his pleasures. Now Vanity swells, filled with pleasure and joy. The more pleasures and amusements one can boast of, the more one's ego-the vain ego-swells. Listen to what the crickets are saying. Restaurants, leisure, entertainment, resorts and travel. They are always bragging-who, where and how much fun they found. Everyone is only busy boasting about the amount of pleasure available to him. It seems to every cricket that the more joy it eats, the closer it will get to heaven. The one who has the most pleasure, the king, is the highest. Wow...all the other crickets are very jealous of him.
The exchange of awls for soap is a very reasonable and correct exchange. Awl dangerous, Awl you're scared. Shiloh forces you to serve him. Soap isn't an angel either, but you can easily resist soap with enough willpower. Soap is not as scary and strong as an awl. The point is that one idol can be exchanged for another idol, more diluted. For example, quitting smoking, you can switch to cigars. Cigars are nastier and more expensive than cigarettes and attachment to them will be easier to deal with.
An attempt to exchange an awl for soap generates neurosis or even schizophrenia. It's a pity to lose the Awl, but I also want soap. However, you can not own both an awl and soap.
A valuable property of a passive neurotic is the ability not to be offended for a long time and to forgive everything to close people. Avoiding resentment is a valuable property. However, the problem is that now, instead of resentment, the neurotic is tormented by feelings of guilt or shame, which creates a new huge vulnerability.
Healing from neurosis these are thoughts. I want to be alone and I don't want to be alone. I want to rule and I don't want to rule. I want to obey and I don't want to obey. The value of any outcome is equal, all is good equally, there is no preference. Everywhere there are pros and cons, there is no need to humiliate something, and to elevate something as a super-value. You can concentrate on reality and love what is. You can change the Awl to soap.
The neurotic cannot be cured of his psychosomatic illness, because it is his savior from the darkness of despair and depression. If the disease disappears, you will have to look for a new disease and a new savior, but there is not much point in changing the Awl and soap, so the subconscious keeps the neurosis intact.
Carrot and stick, awl and soap… The essence of these phenomena will somehow subdue you and make you serve yourself. Whichever of them subdues you, you will serve. One of them will scare you, the other will save you, one will reward you, the other will punish you. They say that it is possible to choose between them a better or lesser evil, but this is a lie. There is no choice, these two are one, like two sides of the same coin.
Alcoholism and narcissism are not as simple as they seem. Despite the mass nature and, it seems, triviality of the problem, let's be honest, for 6 thousand years of human civilization it has not been possible to solve it, and all available methods are, frankly, profanity and the exchange of awl for soap. We replace one dependency with another.
The thirst for the best changes the awl to soap. The awl hurt you, and the soap, under good pretexts, breaks the distance and craves power. The awl didn't let you near it, but the soap sticks, and you can't get rid of it. You changed one problem to another problem, no less nasty, but different in form.
No need to change the awl for soap. Awl shit and soap shit. More moreover, I see that the awl thinks it is perfect, and the soap dreams of becoming perfect. We need something third, which does not strive to be perfect and does not think of itself as such.
Awl is a narcissist who thinks he's perfect, and now he's stabbing everyone, demanding ideality depends on them. Soap is a neurotic with an inferiority complex who wants to wash himself and, striving for cleanliness, wants to become clean and perfect.
To avoid overkill, you need to strive for quality, not quantity. Quantity is worth little, but quality becomes a super-valuable idol. So we change the awl to soap. Idolatry is also a facet of overkill, only in a different dimension.
The exchange of an awl for soap does not change much for the better. When you had an awl, you were soap. When you change an awl for soap, you become an awl yourself. Soap clings to you, making it difficult to breathe and sucking out energy.
If your partner is a sticky soap trying to be perfect, fulfilling all your desires, then the only way to escape from him is unfair accusations. The ideal can only be blamed unfairly. The thirst for the power of the ideal and its hunger are boundless, nothing will satisfy it.