The main thing is not to attract attention and stay calm.

Those who try to use someone else's help will not be able to cope on their own.

Contempt perfectly kills all the small stuff, blatantly trying to get your attention and steal your time.

Who judges, we will judge.  Being judged is a big problem.  The defendant is doomed to suffer in chains of fear.

Anyone who seeks help from women is a fool.  Trying to hide behind a skirt or find comfort from a woman turns a man into a coward, depriving him of strength.  You should rely on yourself.  You should seek comfort in yourself.  When hope is pushed out, it creates fear.

Don't judge, so you won't be judged.  Being a defendant is bad.  The defendant lives in chains of fear, which makes him a slave and destroys his life.

The law is love, and the gatekeeper at the law's gate is the devil.  Anyone who goes to love is always tried to stop.  This is a test.  You can't stop someone who has love in them.

The gatekeeper at the gates of the law is overwhelmed with a sense of power.  He likes to rule over those who are hungry for love.

Do not judge the gatekeeper, and you will not be judged.  The gatekeeper is the Keeper of the borders of love, Mr. devil.

You decide whether or not you are a defendant.  You come to the law and you leave the law.  The law is love and fear.  You choose your own love.  You choose your own fear.

In the novel Kafka's "the trial»  there is a great scene when  Mr. K. comes for the first time to the hearing of his case and before a crowd of unknown people makes a heartfelt speech about justice.  When K. finishes his speech, it turns out that the crowd consists exclusively of prosecutors and policemen.  All our search for justice usually comes down to this scene.  We constantly try to complain to the judges about themselves.

Re-Read The " Process»  Kafka, the whole situation is well described there.  Look at the image of the gatekeeper (the house of the Duchess)  in " Alice»  Carroll's.  Remember the process over  Brodsky.  These people asked Brodsky:  "Who appointed you  A poet?"  They said  Brodsky:  "We did not appoint you as a poet, and therefore you are not a poet, and you have no right to write poetry or publish it."  These gatekeepers, who have never created anything themselves, are terribly jealous  Creators.  These people sleep and see how to crucify love.  As soon as true love appears, it is immediately stoned and crucified on the cross.

In the way of any good deed, there is always a gatekeeper who considers it his mission in life not to let anyone in the door.  It is useless to talk to the gatekeeper.  We have seen images of such gatekeepers in the works of Kafka and Louis  Carroll and others.  But what should I do?  How to deal with these people?  Of course, you can accept it.  You were spat at, and you rubbed the spittle, turned around and left.  Why do you really need that light at the end of the tunnel?  Why do you need this needle's eye?  Why do you want to be a thread?  Don't you have any business of your own?"

On the other hand, justice must be heavily armed, and injustice requires retribution and at least some reaction.  It is said that insults are not forgiven.  They also say that the map likes to cry.

The footman toad, the doorkeeper who guards the doors, will explain something long and strange to you.  You won't understand anything, and it will steal your time.  It is useless to ask the gatekeeper about something, you need to try to go further or look for Windows of opportunity.

You will be chased out of the Kingdom of heaven by zombies or the gatekeeper will not let you in.  You were forced to hide in a dungeon and start digging.  Starting to dig, you will encounter an impassability, in this case you need to dig where you can dig.  Then you will learn to dig well and build a tolerable Paradise in the underground.

Only a very well-armed person can reach justice.

I have noticed that the search for justice leads to such gigantic problems that fuck this justice.  Apparently, the search for justice is pride.  Who said that justice is one of the names of truth?  Spit in Tom's face, as always lies.

Kafka's "process" shows us the stages in the development of fear.  Denial of fear.  An attack on fear.  An attempt to buy off fear.  Search  Saviors.  Fear like Fog Fills all living space.  Suspiciousness and emphasis on intermediaries.  Chronic fear.  Death by fear.  With all this, we see all the absurdity and illusory fear.

You judge, and you are judged.  You judge, and the process begins.  What is a process, you can see in Kafka's work "the process".  Do not judge and there will be no process.

Kafka in the work" the process " shows us the nature of fear.  Fear is nonsense and absurd.  Moreover, entering into the struggle with fear, you form a system of unity and struggle.  Denying fear, attacking fear, trying to negotiate with fear, running away  from fear, you only increase it.  What to do?  To realize the illusory and absurdity of fear, but to treat it with respect.  Fear cannot be ignored, but neither can it be reacted to.  Fear should be treated as calmly as possible, and one should not hope to escape from it.  Rescues  there is no fear because there is no fear.

In Kafka's book "The Process"  we see what a man's life can become if he devotes it to the idea of salvation.  After reading  Kafka, I thought that it was better to drown than to seek salvation.  Moreover, man is a fish, and the Savior is a fisherman.

Hundreds of incriminating facts.  The crowd says:  "Guilty, no doubt about it."  However, the defendant is innocent because all the facts are circumstantial and none direct.  The defendant was a scoundrel and he's guilty of being a scoundrel, but does that make him guilty of a crime he didn't commit?

Everything is already going for the best, so you don't have to fuss and try to adjust what is already going where you need it.  Relax, everything is going exactly the way you want.  If you try to improve the best, you will fall into the abyss.

Stressful situations make a person twitch and make mistakes.  This should be expected of yourself and try not to fuss and minimize movement in such situations.

Don't make excuses.  When you make excuses, you only do harm.  An innocent person will not make excuses.

If you make excuses, then make excuses very calmly, without aggression.  An aggressive excuse is a sign of fear.  When a person is afraid, he attacks fear.

I see the problems that arise when a person tries to force events.  We need to wait a little.  Most of the problems will resolve themselves.  This is especially important when you are accused of something and you want to start making excuses.  Especially dangerous  to find out what exactly you are accused of.  The fact is that we are all guilty of something, and if we start demanding a specific charge, then we can always cling to something.

If you are accused of something, consider that it is based on the totality of all past sins, and it does not matter for what.  Most of the accusations, of course, seem unfair, but they represent the last straw and the tip of the iceberg.

I have noticed that there is always uncertainty and a lot of problems arise because of a person's obsessive desire to achieve certainty.  Uncertainty creates fear in a person, and he begins to fuss and perform some unnecessary actions.  We can say that a bad initiative is punishable.

What does it mean to accept…  Just wait.  Have patience, truth is extension.  Mysterious ways  God, it's all for the best.

Don't make excuses, because your excuses are an act of aggression.  You're looking for the culprits.  Out of fear, you attack and become a stalker.  The one you attack in defense may also start attacking you.

If something seems very important and scary to you, double-check this information with people close to you.  And here you need to love your neighbor in order to believe him.

When a person obsessively seeks justice and truth, then he begins to have persecution mania and the world begins to seem absurd.

It's okay to be accused a little bit.  Your desire to be perfect and innocent is pride.  Making excuses, worrying and trying to prove your innocence, you are hurting yourself very much.

The one who was accused wants to apologize, but does not know why ... the person obsessively wants to get an apology and feel his innocence.  The ideal narcissist feels enormous sufferings  the fact that he is accused of something is especially bad because of the seeming injustice of the accusations.  The accusations drive the narcissist crazy.

The ideal person is always unhappy that everything is going very slowly, and you have to wait and wait.  Ideality craves everything at once.

The narcissist is going crazy  from the fact that he can't apologize or justify himself.  The feeling of one's own imperfection drives this person to madness.

A narcissistic proud man is a man obsessed with the thirst to be perfect, and therefore he cannot bear the feeling of guilt and the feeling of his imperfection.  Such people who have fallen into self-pity are intolerant of accusations and criticism.  Tell such a person that he is unworthy and he, offended, will run after you, proving that he is good.

Pride is when it is unbearable for a person to feel like shit and know about their sins.  The proud man longs to be perfect.  Many proud people force shame out of themselves and, becoming shameless, do not see their sins at all.

Don't make excuses, because it pisses everyone off.  No one believes you're innocent.

The one who believes that everything he does is right and true is called a highlander.  That is, this person denies his mistakes and shortcomings.  Such a person loses immunity to shame and to mistakes.  If something breaks through his defense and starts blaming, then the person will become fixated and he will have a post-traumatic shock.

The narcissist is afraid of being guilty and imperfect.  The narcissist is afraid of mistakes, imperfection and guilt.  The dominant narcissist, through self-deception and anosognosia, denies his sins and says  "I'm right," which allows him not to be afraid to move.  Passive narcissist B also wants to be perfect and is wildly afraid of imperfection, but is unable to deceive himself.  Type B is afraid to move and do something for fear of accusations and mistakes.  Type B is immobilized and similar to a proton, and type  And it moves more than it needs to and looks like an electron.  Type B admires Type A, and Type A treats Type B disdainfully.

A type A narcissist is a person who is always right and shameless, which allows him to move effectively and achieve his goals.  The vulnerability of this person is that he does not notice his mistakes, does not study, is touchy, suspicious, vulnerable to vague and unfair accusations.  Blindness and post-traumatic shock, that's the Achilles heel of this man.

The division of the whole into sympathetically critical and persuasively resolute does not stop the action of the resolute, but exists to relieve the tension of contradictions.

I see that pity breeds division.  We pity the victim.  However, when we learn that the victim is strong and similar to the persecutor, rescuer, avenger and accuser, then we stop feeling sorry for her, and this makes us whole.  I see that the false idea of injustice and sacrifice generates a neurotic split.

In the situation with Joseph K., we see that initially the investigator does not know what to accuse him of, but Joseph gradually discredits himself and reveals all his sins and vices.  More  Moreover, Joseph is punishing himself. 

The advantage of the victim is that they feel sorry for her, but the second person of the victim is the persecutor who blames everyone.  If people see the victim as the accuser, then she will lose the advantages of the victim.

I have noticed that pity for the victim inspires the accuser and the persecutor in the victim.

Obsessive desire to apologize, justify and talk is a symptom of narcissism, which longs to be perfect.  Such narcissism can also be called an inferiority complex.  A narcissist cannot bear to be imperfect.  Blows to self-esteem are unbearable for narcissism.

The most important narcissistic thought is "You can't do that to me."  I am special, I need to be treated differently, softer, etc.  Narcissists are characterized by megalomania and overestimation of their own value.  And often  he thinks that it is some kind of wrong attitude towards him.  Narcissus considers many laws of nature to be a personal insult.