You can't compare things. Which is more useful – the Moon or the Sun? And I will tell you that without any of them, you will instantly perish. It would seem that you are an ant, but if the ant disappears, you will disappear.
Nothing is meaningless. It's just that there are different meanings, and some meanings consider themselves above other meanings. One sense despises another sense, not counting it as a person. Meanings lie in layers, covering and devouring each other.
Here, rather, we need to talk about a small hope and not attachment to the results. All is hope, all is well. And your hope is very strong, you are waiting for it. Waiting causes fear, drains strength. These desires are endless, they permeate your life, create tension, fear, suffering, illness... You get tired… You're like that crazy squirrel from The Ice Age screensaver. You do not know that you invent your own desires in order to escape, for movement is life. You have to run to live, and goals are just an excuse. Your problem is that goals seem valuable to you, you run out of strength, run with all your strength, are afraid of not achieving them. But once you grab a target, it loses value and you run for another target. Goals promise you joy and happiness. And you do not know that these joys and happiness live inside you, the goals are fantasies invented. You take life too seriously, and the narcotic pleasure associated with achieving goals seems very important and Real to you.
Important is pride, if something seems very important, then it's all lies and nonsense. Where there is a lie, nothing will work and nothing will happen.
A person who overestimates the importance of phenomena, first of all, overestimates himself. He and his emotions seem very important to this person. Such people have a problem with self-irony and a sense of humor, they take everything too seriously. These people live in the world of their fantasies, and these fantasies seem very real to them.
The question arises, how to develop a conversational skill... The answer is reading, watching videos online, exercising. Relaxation and a decrease in the importance and importance of the interlocutor. You can not make an idol out of the interlocutor.
What is important? But it is a blatant lie and idolatry that devalues all other things, calling them unimportant. In fact, this is blasphemy, for everything is there. God, beauty, truth and fear. Anything you neglect so diligently can very easily destroy you. Of course, love could justify you, but do you know how to love?
I have noticed that what seems very important, in fact, exaggerates its importance. I noticed that the same result can be achieved in very different ways. More the result itself is not important, and the way to achieve it is not important. What is important? You're important, but you're not even important. What is important? If you add up these three unimportant entities, a wholeness is formed that seems important... But even that is unimportant. What is important? Nothing is important, but everything is equally important. Life is important, but so is the lack of it. How so? And that's it! Relax and do what you have to do.
Your fear comes from overestimating your importance, loving yourself too much. Keep it simple, you're an illusion, a lie, a monster, and an imperfection like everyone else. You are not perfect because you exist. Only emptiness is perfect. However, it is joyful to exist, therefore imperfection is joyful. To exist is to move, so live and rejoice. However, being a void is also joyful, so there is nothing to lose. Everything is joy.
Too serious means important. Importance is pride, and therefore fear and lies. A lie is something that does not exist and, therefore, nothing will work. With your seriousness, you destroy reality. Everything you exaggerate won't happen. Anything that doesn't have humor can't exist in the real world.
It is a great pride to believe that what you are doing is needed by someone else, but even you yourself do not really need it. Don't overestimate the importance of things.
Neurosis is the tendency to overestimate and overestimate the value of things. Neurosis occurs from selfishness, that is, excessive self-love, which generates an overestimation of the importance of oneself and one's feelings. Overestimating the importance of their feelings, a person automatically overestimates the value of their joys and fears, sublimating them to objects of the outside world.
According to the philosophy of syntalism, nothing is important, everything is not important, everything is an illusion. Things want to seem significant, but we make them so... and here we have free will, we want to do, we want not to do.
Overestimating the importance of things, a person creates very big and difficult questions. A big question requires an unbearably heavy and big answer. To avoid such pitfalls, you need to look at things more simply, from above or from afar.
Usually people overestimate one and underestimate the other. From this we can draw a bold conclusion about the revision of our entire idea of the importance of phenomena.
Your problems up close seem very big, heavy and scary. Therefore, it is difficult for you to solve them. From afar, these problems seem easy, unimportant and small to us. That is why it is beneficial for us to cooperate and solve other people's problems, and give our problems to other people.
I am too small and insignificant for anything to matter to me. My business is to follow, not to fear. He who worries too much thinks too highly of himself.
What is the meaning of laughter? Humor makes fun of everything that seems too important and valuable, or vice versa. Neglect is also nonsense of Super-Value only turned inside out.
Don't worry, don't overestimate things. The main thing is movement. Move, do, finish. Nothing else matters. No matter what, no matter how, no matter why. Movement is life. The meaning of life is movement and change. Something must be constantly changing.
The word "serious" should be avoided as much as possible in life, it generates neurosis. Things should be treated with humor, especially serious ones. The serious thinks itself very important, it is pride and Super-Value.
The meaning of Syntalism is to separate the subject from the object. The subject overestimates the importance of objects. The subject is too dependent on objects, and does not understand its subjective value. All value is given to objects, which gives rise to an inferiority complex, shame, thirst for power and fear of powerlessness in the subject.
You should devalue everything you give. It is very dangerous to give valuable and important. It's dangerous to do people favors. I noticed that the more valuable a person gives, the more he is overcome by the thirst for power, irritation, aggression, the desire to get back a lot. You either don't give anything valuable at all, or consider it all you give, that it's nothing. The idea that you are very valuable and give people great values will turn your life into a hell filled with resentment and self-pity.
The problem is that you have more important things in your life than you need. You think a lot of things are important. This is important, this is important. You judge too much, you want too much. It's right, it's wrong. I want so, I want differently. In Psychiatry, this is called delusion or a Super-Value idea. Such delusions generate fear, anxiety, obsession, and craving for control. Should to say that everything is equally important and therefore everything is unimportant. Some things are a little more important than others, but just a little. In this sense, it is time for you to stop praying for such super-values as the ideal, children, yourself, husband, parents, health, work, all sorts of different "right" and "so it should be", life and death. This is all, of course, important, but all this is vanity. Think for yourself why everything should be as you want. Maybe this world was created to do the opposite of what you want?
Be simple-it means treat everything easier. You think things are important, scary, joyful, valuable… It's all nonsense, you made it up. Millions, thousands, hundreds… You pray too much to idols. Zero is what is not. There is only one. Everything has a unit and a skip in between.
Running around Ivan homeless in Moscow in an attempt to catch Woland is a typical example of a super-valuable delusional idea, in which there is no doubt and there is complete disregard for external circumstances. It is also interesting the effect of sedatives on Ivan. When the new Ivan disappeared these very important and super-valuable ideas, it became easy and joyful for him, happiness and peace came to his soul.
Innumerable worldly concerns are the most important cause of mental confusion. Constantly running from one to the other, the mind becomes superficial and loses the ability to see the truth. Haste and Vanity darken the mind, and greed and vanity are the cause. Too much burdens man.
Everything that seems very important and valuable will not work. You need to be prepared for this in advance, not counting on success, use this opportunity as a training.
Let's treat delusional super-value ideas as a source of entertainment. Of course, delusions think they are true and need to be taken very seriously, but I tell you, be irrational. Dilute the nonsense with skepticism. What thinks it is true and pretends to be very important and valuable is pure nonsense and lies, created to laugh at it and distract your attention. out of boredom.
Pride is a delusional super-valuable idea. The proud man creates an idol for himself and calls it a super-value, to which he then prays, longs for power over it, is afraid of losing it, or swells with self-satisfaction and pleasure when it is near. Pride can have many idols, as Lord devil said: "My Name Is Legion." However, ordinary very important and super-valuable delusions can be expressed in such words as vice, fear, drug, alcohol, money, pleasure, selfishness, pain, narcissism, entertainment, rest, death, life, justice, injustice, Truth, Lies, work, love, child, loved one and many other ideas. A delusional super-valuable idea is all that seems too important to a person. Pride is the words "too much", "too much". Pride is a sacred idol that cannot be broken. Such an idol is very similar to a golden one egg from an old fairy tale.
Your problems are important, of course, but turning them into a super – value and making them very important is a stupid idea. The more important the problem, the harder it is. Super-valuable problems are unbearably heavy and can easily crush you.
It's dangerous when you don't want to or when you want to. It's dangerous when it's all important to you. Safe when you don't really care. Will be and will be, not in principle. Like I want, but not really. Imagine that you want to go to the Maldives. It seems you can go, but it seems you can not go. But you want a little more, and so you go.
The most important cause of alcoholism and all other vices is shame and resentment for their self-esteem. The proud man is suspicious and very touchy, it always seems to him that someone does not respect him enough and offends him. Alcohol seems to the unfortunate victim the only consolation for the violated self-respect.
The most important cause of neurosis is ignorance, that is, lack of experience and strategy of behavior in other modes of work. The neurotic is accustomed to one pattern of action and is very anxious about any deviation. from his usual algorithms. Accordingly, if the squirrel is knocked out of the usual wheel by force, then she will have a nervous breakdown and panic attacks.
The basis of neurosis is always some idealized image that presents itself as something absolutely necessary for life, without which it is absolutely impossible and wrong to live. Such an idealized image can be called a delusional super-valuable idea, absolute truth, super-value, something very important. Without this thing, life is very dangerous, bad, sad and generally unthinkable.
The neurotic merges his personality with his desires and goals, because he considers them super-valuable and very important. It is more accurate to say that as he merges himself and his desire into a single whole, they become super-valuable and vital. We know that secretly or openly any neurotic is narcissistic and values himself beyond measure.
A neurotic is a person who tries to react inadequately to everything, because he is prone to overkill or underkill. A man of extremes. Everything seems to him too important or, conversely, worthless.
Tension is associated with the concept of Super-Value and overestimation of importance. To relax means to reduce the importance and significance of super-valuable delusions.
Lying turns a person into a slave, for it creates fear of exposure and dependence on judges, who turn into idols. How does a judge become an idol? The fear of exposure and the expectation of evaluation causes the idolater to concentrate on the judge, which creates a sense of Super-Value, excellent and very important.
The squirrel ran like hell in the wheel, apparently passionately trying to achieve a very important goal for her. I told squirrel, suck it up! The squirrel glared at me and hissed in rage.: "I will never give up. I am sure that achieving my goal is the only thing that can save me from the slavery of the wheel."
Being seems very important. Being thinks of its own super-value. How to explain to a soap bubble that there is emptiness inside it? The narcissistic soap bubble is overflowing with self-importance and fears. It seems that all the emptiness inside him turns into fear.
To learn how to control yourself and pacify your mental disorders, you need to discredit the concept of truth. There is no truth. There is only subjective truth, which is also an illusion and a lie. Thus, it is necessary to equalize the rights of lies and illusion.
The definition of boundaries is connected with the concept of "this is important," and everything that is outside these boundaries can be sacrificed in favor of what is important. However, the borders should be three-circuit. It should define the internal borders, the borders of the near zone and the borders of dependent territories.
The important thing is what I care about. It is not important that it will take care of itself or others will take care of it. The very first subject of concern is the internal borders, then the near zone and then the dependent territories. The priority of values must be respected. We sacrifice the less valuable in favor of the more valuable. The less valuable thing is that there is a lot. Love is coming from where there is a lot, to where there is little, and the small tends to the protection of the big.