Many people are afraid and hard to tell the truth, but they are happy to lie. When you let them lie, you give them joy, and they love you for it, for joy is love. Faith is love, when you trust people, you show them love. On the other hand, lies create fear within them, and they want to keep the lie intact. Thus, the inner fear is sublimated into outer love, and provokes people to turn lies into truth.
You worry about being used… You're stupid. You do not understand that by allowing yourself to be used, you are dominating your master, making him dependent on you. Having become dependent on you, your master must now protect and feed you.
Manipulators like first say a lot of nasty things, and then pretend to be kind and good. In fact, this is the implementation of the principle "water is carried on the offended". First we offend or frighten a person by instilling a negative... and then we show our good half. Thus, the person running away from the bad, tries to subconsciously behave so that the manipulator was good and kind.
The meaning of the proverb "the offended carry water» the fact that first you are offended, and then you are afraid that you will be offended again, you serve your abuser, doing everything so that he does not hurt you anymore.
Recognition is a great value. Recognizing other people's virtues, you will become a very valuable person for them. It is especially useful to recognize the merits of their subordinates. Than a man is "less than", the more important it is the recognition of his merits.
When you give, people automatically want to give something back. Give people a good mood, thank them, give small gifts, help to realize their desires, amuse self-esteem, and they will love you in return.