Education of children is not reduced to the concept of "who is a good child", but the answer to the question: "Who is a well-mannered parent?". Bad parents can't raise good children. The problem is that parents do not know or are deeply mistaken in the question "how to be good?".
A child is quite a high-tech product. It takes 17 years so that parents would make a person out of "nobody". Mistakes are inexcusable. The price for mistakes and defects will be really high.
Parents should restrain and not restrain the child in his desires in order to bring up a harmonious child. Push and to show anger is undesirable, it is better to remain calm. It is undesirable to show children that they do not meet expectations, it creates fear and aggression in them.
First of all, it's rectitude of judgement that should be fostered in children. It's rational to free mind from extremes, illusions and other stupid things.
Mental personality disorders arise when educators begin sweroside to suppress in the child the negative manifestations of personality. As a result, one decreases, the other disproportionately increases, and in the system there is a huge tension, up to the destruction of the personality and its fragmentation. In the human personality should be all and that all must compete to keep each other.
The child wanted to learn to play the guitar, he was sent to study piano. The child wanted to do Boxing, he was sent to Aikido. The child wanted one thing, he imposed another. It is violence, it is pride on the part of parents, it teaches children lies, and lies generate fear, hatred and vices.
Usually the over-love of the child is expressed in the parents ' over-control over him. The parent falls in love with the child to the level of fusion of his personality with his, to the level of possession. A stronger parental personality suppresses the child's weak personality, enveloping him in overcontrol, which leads to the degradation of the child's personality and the development of a number of mental diseases.
Punishment for misconduct should not be solitary, but should be stretched over time. Single events are not perceived as something serious. Truth is a repetitive action. The punishment for wrongdoing and atonement should take a long time. Moreover, until the redemption of guilt, the punished should not receive any rewards and incentives. Otherwise, negative behavior will become a neurotic cycle aimed at attracting attention and the joy of forgiveness through negative behavior. Formed hysterical personality violation. The punished may think that if I am forgiven or not severely punished, then I am loved. And to start to achieve love and satisfaction. The punishment should be long, painful and unpleasant.
Neurosis in its most severe form is schizophrenia, resulting from the no-matter-what-I-do-it-is-bad scenario. It is bad this way, it is bad that way, and that way too, and nothing is ever good.
When parents demand from their child something he is incapable of, the child goes crazy.
Over-loved children see a breath of freedom in doing the opposite of what their parents tell them. Parents are always forcing their lives on them... trying to turn them into themselves.
The development of mental illness in a person is usually associated with his parents. A mother who does not know how to love, envelops the child with supercontrol and over-care, suppresses the personality of the child, destroying his psyche. Such a child is poorly adapted to the surrounding reality, full of fears and prejudices. The personality of the child is depressed and dependent.
There is nothing scarier for a child than his mother’s arrogance. Arrogance wants domination. Arrogance transforms love into the thirst for power. A mother dominating her child suppresses his personality and transforms him into a schizophrenic.
Loneliness brings up in children a great sensitivity and vulnerability, that is, fear. Weaning to communicate with other people, a person loses immunity to them and plunges into fear.
Bei der Analyse der Persönlichkeit soll man Bücher, die ein Mensch liest, in Betracht nehmen, was ihm aus dem letzten, aus der Kindheit usw. im Gedächtnis geblieben ist.
Wenn deine Angst mit Gefühl der Nichtkompetenz verbunden ist, erhöhe deine Kompetenz. Was unter Unsinn du leidest? Geh üben, lerne, lies, sprich mit klugen Leuten. Oh, ich habe vergessen, du hast keine Zeit. Du hast deine Zeit für Vergnügen und für den Verdienst für diese gespendet.
Im Durchschnitt lernen Jungen schlechter in der Schule als Mädchen, denn Mannesgehirn ist mehr spezialisiert als einer Frau, und ist nicht imstande alles nacheinander lernen nur aus Angst vor Eltern und Lehrern.