Resignation both unites and disunites. By mixing honey and tar, you will ruin the honey but resignation will help you separate them one from another and benefit from each of them, taken separately. Resignation is a soup and flies. The soup and the flies apart.
Resignation is when you take flies from your soup without too much suffering and keep eating it. Arrogance is when you are choking on your soup with flies but keep eating it. Alternatively, you refuse it and die of hunger.
In «Lolita» Nabokov managed to show as how beautiful and attractive a dirty and self-destructive vice can be. Beauty of a vice is a beauty of pain and suffering. The spider web is amazing, and suffering of a fly in it is terrible.
Your mistake is that you do not know what is right and good often beat, so driving away from the delicacy of flies. Flies are terribly afraid of pain, besides flies do not care, Goodies in front of them or manure.
A person immersed in a nightmare is more likely to Wake up than someone who is mired in sweet fantasies. The one who is stuck like a fly in Paradise, does not want to Wake up. Wrapped in a warm cocoon of spider fly happily expects to be eaten.
Soup with flies is a paradox of existence. They cannot be separated. If you remove the flies, the soup disappears. You can't choose soup without flies, because then it will disappear. You can't even separate them. But and together use their not very want.
In a soup with flies we will divide flies and soup. In a barrel of honey and tar we will divide them. Mining gold, we will get gold, copper, sand, gravel, iron ore, precious stones and many other useful things. In this world there is nothing useless, everything will go to work.
Wisdom, having conquered pride, finds love and begins to learn from everyone. Wisdom is learning from five girls and an older man, the book and the ant, the dog and maggots. Wisdom loves everything. And everything that exists, he believes it is useful in a given situation. But wisdom does not take everything. Wisdom separates the soup from the flies. If wisdom need flies, she takes of the flies. If wisdom needs soup, she takes soup.