As a humanist, I urge you to love mistakes, because mistakes are the secret of novelty and evolution. Error is life, while man is capable of mistakes, he's alive. Your craving for control is a craving for disease and death.
The human mind is the product of a system error. Man should not have existed. Man is the only element of imperfection in our perfect world. "Was the mistake accidental?"
Since the main engine of evolution is inanimate nature (viruses and circumstances), we can say that the cause of evolution is accidents, errors and space-time limitations of existence.
To get immunity to the disease, you need to get over it. All your past mistakes are necessary to protect you from new mistakes. To learn from your mistakes, you need to love them. You can't deny, hate, or run from your mistakes.
A person learns from mistakes, mistakes are the result of striving for perfection. For one broken already three unbroken give. Mistakes make a person stronger. On mistakes, a person becomes smarter and gets closer to God. Only chronic, repetitive errors are penalized. Single errors are not errors at all. The biggest mistake a person can make is to be afraid and avoid mistakes.
When you put all the details together, you realize that all your mistakes were the only correct decisions. Enlightenment is the realization that everything you thought was wrong was true.
You don't need to be afraid of your mistakes. Mistakes need to be loved, which means to believe that they are not mistakes at all. To believe is to bend your line. The truth is what you believe and what you follow. The greater the error, the greater the resistance... and therefore, the stronger such a mistake will make you.
Someone who is not consciously afraid to make mistakes and do stupid things is a good person, because he is courageous. Manly people are good by default.